i have low self esteem what can i do to help this?

Question

being in my teens i know this is normal but i get extremly hurt when people even slighlty joke about my weight clothes stlye ANYTHING i try not to show it but it is hard how can i help myslef, byt the way i cant just ignore it better answers than that please

Answer 1

if it bugs you, take what people say and improve on it one thing at a time, before you know it you'll be pleased with the results

Answer 2

It's not easy having low self esteem, especially during those awkward teenage years. It's good that you are trying to build thick skin, but from your admission, it's not working so well.

I would suggest going to see a psychiatrist for the long term solution. But for a short term solution, I suggest this:

1) Learn to laugh at yourself and make comebacks. Getting a "leg-up" on the person making the joke is a great way to defuse the joke. Plus, getting laughs for something you intended really feels good.

2) Find something you are good at and be proud. People can mock you for your clothes, but does what you wear matter if you are a great violinist? You can't be the best at everything. People would mock me in school for not being good at sports. I'd just say, "Yeah, but can the quarterback program your computer?" or, "You do realize the richest person in the world is a nerd?"

3) Learn to laugh a lot. Watch a lot of Comedy Central. Listen to a lot of "Weird Al" music. Read the comics every day. While it won't stop people from making jokes about you, laughter will release endorphin into your brain, and that will give you a temporary "high" that will help your self esteem.

Answer 3

Huny, You have to learn to love yourself. You have no reason to feel ugly or feel insecure. I was there in your shoes not to long ago. It hurts. The reason why there making fun of you is because they probably know your sensitive to things like this and people love to see other people hurt. I know it sucks but you can't let them get to you. Every morning look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself your beautiful, and mean it. Start treating yourself to things like Manicures and Pedicures etc, it will boost up your self - esteem alot. Just because you may be different from everyone else doesn't give them the right to put you down. It's good to be different. I know I don't want to be like everyone else and Dress like everyone else. The next time they say something stupid to you just turn your face away and act like it doesn't faze you anymore and they will stop. Don't be so sensitive. Your beautiful.

Good Luck.

Answer 4

Everyone is good at something, and everyone sucks at something.
For you- find your muse. Whatever you like and are good at, learn more, be come an expert on this. Then you can take pride in this and your achievements. (Einstein never worried if others thought he was a nerd.)
For them- remember that they all have failings too. People who pick on others are usually lacking in some way and unhappy, so they take it out on others. Feel sorry for them, that they have low self esteem too. You know how that feels.
Good luck!

Answer 5

you have to look into your heart and find the one thing that you are good at and let that shine.... Every Woman loves some part of her body.. Find out which part you love and flaunt it... Let the World see just who they are missing and stop feeling sorry for your self...You have to stop being shy and thinking that nobody wants to be your friend.... First start off with people you have things in common with, and establish a true friendship first....Everyone is beautiful because we are GOD's children and if we were all the same, what would this world be?

Answer 6

I went to the psychiatrist because I thought I had an Inferiority Complex.
He told me it wasn't a complex.

You're taking yourself too seriously as is the case with most teens.
Believe it or not, you are your own worst critic. You look in the mirror and see tiny flaws that no one else could possibly see.
Learn to laugh at yourself....agree with them and even go them one better. By doing that, you have an edge. People who make a habit of making fun of folks, won't be able to get the desired reaction out of you. Also, you will put those around you at ease because you will be non-threatening. You joke about yourself...not them.

Try it, it works.
Now chin up and go out there and kick the world in the butt.
And forget about seeing any psychiatrist...you're as normal as anybody else.
God bless.

Answer 7

do people do this often? does your family life contribute to you feeling this way for some reason? i'm 25, i have slightly low self-esteem. (understatement) i find, if i think about it, that i never really had a safe haven to go to. my family was very critical toward me. not that i blame my family for all of my problems but now that i have a comfortable and safe feeling home and family i find it difficult to trust it. perhaps you should talk to someone. you're not crazy, believe me. everyone has insecurities, but it might be helpful to talk to someone.

Answer 8

try taking up hobbies, for me its tarot and other stuff along those lines. what you gotta do is find out a talent that your good at (that matters). i suggest something that helps other people. afterall, it doesnt matter whats on the outside, its the inside that matters! what better of a quality than that of which helps people! youll feel better About youself once you reveal talents, that matter

Answer 9

Remember we are all created equal and that nobody is "better" than you are. We all share the same biology regardless of ideology.
Just be a good person and that alone should be enough to drive your self-esteem up to where it belongs. ;)

Answer 10

Take everything easy n always think about what u really think in ur mind n be sure u r rite. anyway there r a lot of silly pple just **** them all.