My boyfriend has this ex. She was a big gold digger. She wanted him to spend all his money on her and not worry about the bills he had. Even after they broke up he was still supporting her which i find stupid on his part. He needed a new car so he asked her to give him 1,000 dollars he specifically told her he wasnt going to pay her back. This was because he paid for her rent and his and her friends so it was like paying him back for it. Well now that we are together she is still butt hurt about him not going back to her anymore. He used to talk to her and take her to work and whatever. I told him i didnt appreciate him going back and forth so he stayed with me. She is now asking his friend to ask my boyfriend when he is going to pay her back he said he isnt. My question is should i save the money and give it to his friend secretly to pay her back? OR should i leave it alone? I know this money is her little string that is attached to him and i dont want it there anymore.
2006-11-04 02:20:40 · 13 answers · asked by illusionaryrose23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It does make me mad for him to let her use him like that. I would never do such a thing. For now he has the only job. I go to school online so i am at home. I cook, clean, take care of the kids and we arent even married yet. We have 1 and one on the way. So its he works and i do everything else.I dont even ask him for money for senseless things.
2006-11-04 02:39:45 · update #1
I wouldn't pay her back, she cannot ask him to give her the money back-he spent more on her and his friends than he should have. That grand most likely doesn't even cover half of what he spent on her. If you give her the money-it makes it seems as if he was going to pay her and make her think that she could still wiggle her way back to his pockets. You should let her know that he is not her suga daddy and his money will be spent on you and his family, not her.
2006-11-04 02:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely under NO circumstances should you be the one paying her back!!
Your boyfriend needs to get things settled with the ex and fast!! He really needs to let her know that he no longer is her "bank" and will not be paying the money back seeing as he has paid quite enough during and after their relationship. He needs to also let her know to get over it and move on with her life as he has done. He needs to tell her that the gravy train is all dried up! Let him handle and clean up this mess! It isn't yours to do so.
2006-11-04 10:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by yokrem 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He just need to make it clear to her and the friends that this does not need to be brought up no more. She will not listen but the mutual friends should. The friends should also stay out of this. If the subject comes up where she ask one of them to say something then a "let's not bring that up agian" to end it and speak (argue) no more on the subject.
2006-11-04 10:27:04 · answer #3 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get involved dont give her the money!!!
let them get on with it, tell your b/f he has every right not to pay her back as she has took so much off of him!!!
oh and i noticed you said she has her string to hold onto him for the money, but didnt u say u didnt like him picking/dropping her off at work and he stopped?! dont worry about that part of this problem!!
btw if you do secretly pay her back she will still be on his case for the money, coz he dont know u would have paid her!!!
2006-11-04 10:24:02 · answer #4 · answered by Fader's Girl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to say this, but your boyfriend is a spineless, p-whipped sissy to let himself get used like that. And NO, don't you dare do any such thing. This gold digger needs to be taught a lesson. Doesn't it piss you off that he lets himself be taken advantage of like that?
2006-11-04 10:32:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change his hp number, change everything that the other party can find him by, talk to her personally, better still, ask him to avoid this 3rd party. Do whatever you want, just don't be so silly to pay for the guy, as he had already told her he will not be paying.
2006-11-04 10:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by jade s 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't get yourself involved by paying the debt. If this whole situation is seriously bothering you then you have to talk to your boyfriend. Tell him how this whole situation is making you feel so uncomfortable. He should settle this himself by talking to the ex and tell her off that he doesn't owe her anything so she should stop bugging him about the money end of the story.
2006-11-04 10:43:30 · answer #7 · answered by Damngorgeous 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
save the $ 4 something u 2 want.
2006-11-04 10:25:46 · answer #8 · answered by PiERCiEd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea it is the string attached! But don't do it behind his back it will cause problems between you and you man
2006-11-04 10:24:13 · answer #9 · answered by nowandthenandonlyme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HE needs to tell her bluntly..NO I AM NOT PAYING YOUR ***, I SUPPORTED YOU FOR HOW LONG?! STOP USING THIS AS A WAY TO HOLD ON TO ME< ITS OVER AND I WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU ANYMORE! as for you, dont pay her a dime. if its not the money then there'll be another thing to harass him for. his friends should just stop passing along the messages (or tell her to go F*** herself) good luck sweetie
2006-11-04 10:28:16 · answer #10 · answered by Meeowf 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋