came home and Said she needed to talk and then explained that she's pregnant and not sure if you are the daddy what would you do ? I'm being serious for a change
2006-11-04 02:19:57 · 26 answers · asked by Wondering If ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Didn't happen butI was thinking about how I would react. Strangely enough i would prolly stay
2006-11-04 02:24:29 · update #1
Depends on the situation. At first I would have said I would leave her. I have always told my husband if he cheated on me I would take my girls and run like hell. Then a really close friend disclosed to me that she had a one night stand. It made me think. If it were a one night stand and was only for sex then I would work really hard on forgiving him. If it were a long term emotionally involved affair then I think the betrayal would be way too much for me to handle. My now husband and I were dating and broke up. I started dating someone else and after it ended I found out I was pregnant. My husband and I met up and started talking and when I told him I was pregnant he left. A little while later (and hour or so) he came back. We will celebrate our 10 anniversary next spring.
2006-11-04 02:49:49 · answer #1 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to leave! You need a blood test to be aware of your responsibility. But, she cheated on you. That's a fact. It's obvious that you had no clue so how many people could she have done this with. You also should get checked yourself to make sure you don't have aids. I know that shiver just went down your spine! Don't panic just go now and find out! I know it's Sunday! Just go! You will sleep better (hows that possible with this question you asked) knowing you are at least safe! If it's your child, plan to get custody as soon as you can. In fact while your talking to a divorce lawyer you should be having this idea in the works. She is totally irresponsible, if she can't keep her pants on out of the house! You are the best hope for that child. If it is yours. If not, then just leave. Start a new life. Look for someone different that you can trust!
2006-11-04 10:31:55 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to determine how committed you are to the relationship. There's a lot of work to be done and you have to decide if you can forgive her and live with this child that could be a daily reminder of what happened. If you think this is not a pattern of behavior with your wife and if you think there is some salvagable part of your marriage, by all means focus on working on the relationship.
It had to be hard for her to tell you, so give her a chance to tell you how you two got to that point. Listen as nonjudgementally as possible.
2006-11-04 10:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be a hard one. You say that you'd probably stay, but wouldn't it be hard watching the child grow up (if you found out through blood tests it wasn't yours.) you'd have a constant reminder of how your wife cheated on you. Another slap in the face is if the kid ended up looking just like the other man. Interesting question you asked. If I were a man, I don't think I'd be able to stay in that relationship, and heaven forbid if I were the woman in this scenario, I wouldn't expect him to stay.
2006-11-04 11:00:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be heart broken.
The answer isn't always to leave her. IF you love her and you think your able to work through this, then it's time she sat down and began to work hard.
There are plenty of men out there that love an adore another man's children. The problem you have right now is: is she wanting to stay with you? Can she be faithful here on out?
It's alot of work man. If you 2 aren't willing to at least try, then it's time for you to kick her to the curb.
2006-11-04 10:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow,
If there was ever a reason for abuse that may be it. I think the one answer I'd need is who's is it?
I do know that I would not raise another man's child with a cheating wife.
I can and have looked by infidelity but I could not deal with that one.
I think you need to throw this back in her court and make her figure out what she is going to do for you now that she has effectively destroyed your marriage.
Good luck.
2006-11-04 10:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I seperated and I got pregnant by someone else. My husband told me he was going to stay and take care of the kid as his own. I ended up losing the baby, though, so I don't know how he would have acted once the baby was actually here.
2006-11-04 10:34:01 · answer #7 · answered by deliannathaniel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would leave her no matter what the paternity test said, she is telling you she cheated on you so move on. If it does turn out to be your baby take care of it but dont keep a relationship with her
2006-11-04 10:33:45 · answer #8 · answered by mnm4213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how much you love her and if you are willing to forgive her. And get a dna test done to make sure who the father is, he would have to support the child!
2006-11-04 10:25:33 · answer #9 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a problem...If you ask this question as you doubt her for cheating then it ok...but if you are like some guys who are just always thinking about where and what their wife's might be doing..who is looking at them which guy she is talking...then better think about better things and dont spoil your relationship...its worst to doubt a wife who is loyal to you
2006-11-04 11:02:40 · answer #10 · answered by 28March2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋