don't leave your husband for another man, especially if the other man is in jail. But do leave your husband if he is a cheater and liar and you can not trust him, because that will never change. It is simple, just tell him you want a divorce, then start the proceedings.
2006-11-04 02:20:46
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answered by mixemup 6
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If you have put up with it for 11 years, why the big switch now? 11 years and 7 children??? If there was all this lying, cheating and fighting, how did you end up with 7 kids?
First of all, don't have any more kids. 7 is plenty. Now you want to leave the father and take all the kids too?
If you're not sure if there is a relationship with the guy in jail. Are you stupid? Why would anybody want to take on another man's 7 children? You need to live in reality. The guy is in jail. You think he's going to be a good mate for you and stepfather for your kids?
I don't think your husband is treating you LIKE you are stupid. You are stupid. Use some sort of birth control from now on. You don't need any more kids.
2006-11-04 02:27:12
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answered by grrandram 7
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I only agree that you are nuttier than a fruitcake and have a bad character! First of all, you need to take some responsibility for your own behavior. Your husband didn't DRIVE you into an affair. You were behind your own steering wheel of your own car! If you didn't like your husband's behaviors, you should have found a better way to deal with it. Your decision to have an affair was your decision and is a reflection of the type of person you actually are. Your decision to continue with your deception speaks even louder! And, you're pretty confused. You say you're ending a 4 year relationship, but yet your in-love. Have you ever thought of medication?
2016-05-21 22:59:19
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answered by Anonymous
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first you shouldnt leave for another person and forget this guy who is in jail dont walk from him run,,,, 2nd if you leave you do it because your not happy about the way your being treated then after you leave dont date anyone for awhile take time to get your life together and spend alot of time with your kids they will need it... the reason for this is because once you are in a relationship like that for so long you take a role in it.. you learn that role and if you just jump rite back into someone elses arms you will most likely pick a person who is just the same as the one you left... be single for awhile and enjoy that and your kids... as for how to do it i guees just talk to him or write him a letter let him know how you feel.. dont accuse just tell him your feelings (remember your feelings can never be wrong they are just that feelings and they are real to you) if he doesnt want to here it tell him that this is what you want from him give him a date to fix thoes things and if he does then great work hard on saving your marriage but if he doesnt then say goodbye... good luck to you all
2006-11-04 02:29:26
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answered by momoftwobestkids 3
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Hi
I can relate with you from the other side.
However 11 years and 7 children later makes life a whole lot more complicated than a lot of other situations.
I have been dealing with my wife of 8 years, and 2 kids later regarding lies, tapes, calls and meetings for 3 years now.
My wife and I were best friends for most of our relationship, however for about 3 years now she is not that best friend anymore.
She confides in someone else, and has dishonoured and disrespected me to the lowest.
Anyway, everytime I cought her lying I would try and work with her to resolve the situation, but after a few months of re-building trust and confidence in our relationship, she goes and does it again.
In her case she is just LUSTING after a man who does not care for her; does not return her calls; does not show a heck of an interest in her.
I adore the dust she walks on !!!!!
That is where the problem is -- when our loved ones find that we adore them to the point that we are willing to forgive, forget, move on with our lives - they rape us (mentally, psychologically, physiologically) and hurt us even more than we care to admit.
I have wept so much over the last few months that I can literally sayt that I have ran out of tears.
Our communication is virtually non-existent.
dont' get me wrong - from the "outside" ours is a perfect marriage - friends, family and neighbours do not know what is really going on inside the marriage.
We do talk about everything 'formal', but not dealing with the real issues .. lies, cheating, calls, meetings, the real issues where it realy hurts.
Anyway, are you an American? Do you get Social welfare for the kids.
(I live in the Caribbean)
You have to consider:
1. Would anyone seriously want a woman with 7 kids?
2. What age brackets are the kids?
3. Would you consider living ALONE just for YOU and your KIDS ?
4. Would you take it for granted that a man may want you for your body and not want you for YOU (the real kind, loving, compassionate person inside?)?
5. A jailbird may simply be looking for a place to rest up once he gets out.
6. What makes you think that a jailbird may stay out of jail once he gets out?
7.Why is he in there?
8. Youmay be better off planning for YOU; because in this situation it is only YOU that matters -- then the kids!
9. Ask: What do you like to do that can make you money?
10. If y0u are American - there are many Organizations that are there to help you move UP in life.
Tell you what - if you have 7 kids and NO MONEY, no man will seriously want you (unless God really touches his herat and sends that man to You for you)
But, if you have 7 kids and LOTS OF MONEY - any man will wnat to be there for and with you.
Find your PURPOSE and make your life what YOU want it to be!
Stop depending on a man that dishonours, disrespects, and flatout DOES NOT CARE FOR YOU>
Joping to have helped!
Smile!
2006-11-04 02:37:02
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answered by Mr. Nice Guy 1
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OH COME ON LADY!!! Why in the world would you want a damn man that's in jail? Where are your brains? IF hubby treats you like your stupid, then I have to say he's right!!!
IF your both a couple of cheaters, just stay right there and cheat some more. But leave jail birds where they belong.
2006-11-04 02:27:27
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answered by peggin_beast 6
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For goodness sakes, dump them both. Start fresh with no men at all in your life until you heal up from the abuse you have allowed yourself to take. You can do this. If you are not working, find a job and that contact with the rest of the world will start you on your road to recovery. Give ALL of your love to your children and soon you will be strong and only then will you meet and have a healthy relationship with Mr. Right.
2006-11-04 02:21:53
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answered by Marissa 6
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I'll tell you how . Pack his bags .When he gets home tell him you are done with being cheated on and being treated like your stupid. Be firm do it quick and start to make a new life' once a cheat always a cheat. As the guy in jail. Come on what kind of relationship do you think you can have with him. Please be real. You deserve to be love and treated like a desent human being .Dont waste time you only get to live once. I wasted 10 years of my life wish I hadn't. Don't be scared just do it.
2006-11-04 02:28:12
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answered by sweetness 3
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Like the other person said DO NOT DATE A MAN IN PRISON.
If you are not happy and want to leave your marrage cause that is the only way you will be happy then leave. Pack up yourself and the kids things also and leave. Or pack up your things and the things of the kids that you want to take and LEAVE. Do not pass go do not collect 200$.
Good luck and find an attorny
2006-11-04 02:22:30
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answered by LadyCatherine 7
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If at all you think of moving out of the marriage it should be for a better person not some one serving a sentense. If you can let go of children,s custody or afford to look after them you can think of a divorce. If you marry again make sure it is some one worth getting married to.
2006-11-04 02:25:29
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answered by rams 4
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