My hubby's other woman is a single mom and she is trying to coax him into leaving me and commit toally to her.I know it takes two to tango but the relationship was ended and she wrote him about 5 months ago wanting him back.She has told him not to eat at home and not to have sex with me and end our marry.How could she do that when she knows what it is like struggling as a single mom of one child when I would be a single mom of 3 if she gets her way?
2006-11-04 02:07:36 · 32 answers · asked by JUSEve 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should go out with your husband where you know she will be and have a really good time with him. Kiss and cuddle constantly. This will hurt her greatly and hopefully she will get the message that the 2 of you are in love and don't plan on splitting up. Good luck.
2006-11-04 02:30:44 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course the woman is desperate...she sounds scared and she might be panicking that she will have to handle the whole "family" thing alone. it is normal that she will be scared to face such a problem by her self, but that does not justify the fact that she is leaving u in the same position she is now. that IS selfish and inconciderate.
so i guess the answer to ur question is: she is BOTH desperate AND selfish.....but that (selfishness) does not necessarily mean she is malicious and evil. its human nature to put urself b4 others. its logical. put urself in her position and think...how would YOU act? wouldnt u try to hold on to ANY edges u might have? especially if u still had feelings for the guy.
i think everything is in the hands of ur "hubby". it all comes down to what he chooses, i suppose....sorry.
but have u considered to all live together? i mean, y not SHARE the guy? i know it sounds silly, but i dont mean live under the same roof like one big happy family...just simply HELP eachother out like good human beings. that way no matter WHO gets the guy, the single parent thing wont seem so bad.
just a thought...
2006-11-04 02:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by bukroot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You talk about this so matter of factually that it seems like your talking about someone else. Your husbands other woman?
It really makes no difference that he has let you in on this and makes her look like the bad guy. He messed around on you! You seem to have no problem with that but are threatened with the chance she may take him away.
You should be furious with him for bring this women into your life.
I can't think you could possible trust him anymore.
To try to answer your question directly however...put yourself in her place. Sounds like you have to some extent.
If you were alone with your 3 children and you had a man interested in you and even made it seem like he would leave his wife for you and then dropped you how......would you feel.
Would you want to give up on him?
She may be desperate but she may also be in love. That makes people do things and settle for things they never thought they would. I think you know all about that.
2006-11-04 02:23:44 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she cannot find a man of her own so she likes the fact that she is leading him away from you. If he is that type of man and likes to stray then you are better off without him in your life. If she wins him over he will just do the same thing to her as well and you can just sit back and laugh while you have moved on and living a more happier life then ever.
2006-11-04 05:26:43 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
er..you seem to be sliding the fact that your husband is equally doing this under the carpet. How do you know all this? is your husband telling you? if so how do you know he is not telling you all this information create more tension between the two of you.
Why are you letting your husband get away with having an affair anyway? She is probably just as scared of losing him as you are. i think the problem is your husband and the fact that you are both letting him get away with being with 2 women. Talk it over with him and if he leaves make sure you have the right financial support to be able to look after your kids
2006-11-04 02:13:22 · answer #5 · answered by bananapancakes 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some women are very selfish, she prob only wants him cos he belongs to someone else. She'll prob get bored and chuck him anyway, either that or he'll cheat on her the way he did on you.
Let him go, he's not worth it, respect yourself and find someone that deserves you. It might be hard going for you at first but you'll come out a much stronger person. Let him see what a super person he let go!!
2006-11-04 02:12:33 · answer #6 · answered by Kizzy_ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
at this point,you have every right to speak your mind to her.and hubby needs to start ignoring her,take out a restraining order if you must.
By the way-tell hubby that unfaithfulness is worth 2 strikes and if you ever catch him again,it will be 3 and he will be OUT
2006-11-04 02:16:14 · answer #7 · answered by Maw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband got himself into this and he needs to get both of you out of it. I would keep all the eyes and ears on him as you can to make sure he's not leading her on with promises to do just as she asks. He needs to end it once and for all with her. Send back the letters she writes UNOPENED, change phone numbers, and tell her, with you by his side, that it is OVER. I hope you two are in counseling for this, and I wish you and your family all the best.
2006-11-04 02:14:56 · answer #8 · answered by Nicki 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She just wants the comfort of knowing someone is there. Watch him and read anything addressed to him from her. Save the letter make copies. Then if you really wanted to file for a leagal seperation make him pay for your children and the reason being adultery. See how she would like not getting money because he has to give it to you
2006-11-04 02:14:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Throw your husband out why are you putting up with this treatment it's downright disrespectfull of both of them.Let her have him he is not worth it he will probably get bored with her demands full time anyway and come crawling back to you.Keep your self respect and move on you deserve a lot better than this.
2006-11-04 02:11:53 · answer #10 · answered by MANC & PROUD 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋