2006-11-04 01:53:43 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Marriage is sacred , With a lot of people today they think its trendy to get married ,albeit for a short time.Then move on to see what other fish are in the sea,and so the cycle continues .Marriage today is like a loaf of bread
It soon goes stale.
I have been married very happily for 34years.
2006-11-04 02:12:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because, just like a lot of other things that are "supposed to be" it all depends on the character and attitude of the two people involved. Too many people are getting married these days for absolutely the wrong reasons. Because it's "cool". Because it means you can have sex without having to sneak around ,and then when the new wears off, you suddenly realise that the two of you have absolutely nothing else in common. Mostly it all boils down to a mixture of "Social Expectations". We are told that's what it's all about... love, marriage and baby carriage./ and some heavy duty mass media advertising.. in magazines, on TV, junk mail. All doing the same thing... wanting to sell people a fantasy..... the happy couple, the cute baby, the lovely house, the barbeque pit in the backyard, the family gatherings, the "cosy life" Accent on "the nice little Norman Rockwell-type domestic scene
A lot of people - mostly the young adults - get bombarded with all this stuff- till it somehow gets wired into their heads that they just have to "get married" and POOOFFF ... it all just happens.
In our culture, everybody wants to accentuate the positive, and ignore the negative. So, when one day -(it always happens) "the happy couple confront their first REAL LIFE negative situation, instead of being able to unite their efforts and overcome it together, they're just stunned. "This wasn't supposed to happen" they a re secretly thinking. They panic, they get frustrated, they get confused, they start fighting and blaming one another, and it all goes downhill from there.
Many people argue that there are more divorces than there used to be because women don't have to put up with a husband's bad behaviours any more. They can get out, and start over. But most women really DO want to make their marriages work and will often do whatever possible to keep that marriage going. But "whatever possible" is the key phrase. They never had anybody talk to them about the parts of the road that were not so smooth and easy going, and particularly when they have married an immature guy whose basic attitude is that it's up to his wife to pamper him and fuss over him "just like his mama did". Wives are NOT their husband's mothers, and when the guy begins realising this,he feels HE's the one who has been deceived. In a way he was - not by anybody else, though, by himelf
If you want your marriage to be sacred, then YOU are the person, along with you spouse, who has to make it so. It doen't "just happen"
2006-11-04 10:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by sharmel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage was created in a time when people only lived to be about 35,they didn't have to make it last so long.More people can afford to divorce economically these days and the social stigma has also been diminished.
2006-11-04 10:17:32 · answer #3 · answered by Scott EThe anode rod inyour hwh 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it's so sacred, then why do people defile it by having affairs and taking spouses for granted, etc. Yes, it's supposed to be sacred but I don't think people think of it that way. If they did, there would certainly be less divorce.
2006-11-04 09:56:57 · answer #4 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because you wake up and realise that the man you married is no longer interested in being a husband and father and would rather spend his life (and his money) drinking with his friends in the pub and playing Everquest online every minute that he's home, not helping with the housework, never offering to cook dinner and not getting out of bed til gone one o'clock at the bloody weekends, depite Sunday being the only day that we all get to spend time together.
2006-11-04 09:59:46 · answer #5 · answered by Tish P 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The problem is people take each other for granted. You can't just be partners... you have to have fun together, or else it won't last.
So many people just blame the other and then leave. The fact is the only person you change is yourself. If you aren't trying to have fun, be loving, or spend time with your mate... don't be shocked when they fall in love with someone else.
It's one of the basic needs: Food, Water, Shelter, and Love.
Also, if you do have children... try to raise them not to be selfish people. Teach them to share and be honest.
2006-11-04 10:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by Big C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well. Many reason. One is you get married and then find out you don't have as much in common as you thought you did. People change over the years. People cheat....The love dies.
2006-11-04 21:29:17 · answer #7 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not marriage, it's the people. I'll tell you right now that the main reason is because of people having sex and living together before they're married, according to the liberal mindset that it's okay.
2006-11-04 09:55:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
marriage is not sacred - the ceremony performed in a church is sacred. most people marry in church for the spectacle of it.a civil ceremony is just as legal and binding.
2006-11-04 09:57:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is MEANT to be sacred. That doesn't mean it IS.
2006-11-04 09:57:49 · answer #10 · answered by Cheshire Riddle 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋