Why is it wrong for me NOT to want to date out of my race?

Question

I have been called racist over this. What is wrong with being proud of my race...


(And I did not mention my race so this in no way can be called racist)

For the record, I do not hate other races. I respect the differences. However, I do not respect anyone of any race that thinks they deserve special treatment over past mistreatment of their race. It is stupid for anyone to think that something that happened over 50+ years ago, they next generation should be held accountable.

Answer 1

I think this is a good question to bring up, as it has raised many different responses from others (especially those who did not read the question well and answered assuming the questioner was being racist by asking the question).

I personally do not think you are wrong for NOT wanting to date out of your race. Many people remain committed to continuing the binds that hold their race true and that is something to be proud of, isn't it? It used to be. Every race was happy to continue to lengthen their ethnicity so as not to die out as a race. In time, it changed and wasn't so important, given social awareness and immigration to other countries. Then, we saw there was nothing wrong with integration. So the same should be for those who do not wish to date/marry out of their race. I can't say that the person needs to have a biased reason, such as "well, as long as you don't do it because you hate other races." Because you're the one who has to live your life.

You are not a racist just because you choose to do this. I have been called names just because I dated OUT of my race. When I was dating, had men of my race shown interest, I'd happily have dated them, but they stereotyped me and avoided me based on that "probable" information. I married OUT of my race simply because I fell in love with him - mentally, the "race" thing just didn't register, so I did what I wanted to do.

I am proud of my race and you should be too, as this is our heritage, who we are (good, bad or indifferent).

For those who misunderstood you, please don't feel bad. Perhaps they misinterpreted the question - this happens. Know that you should not feel obligated to date out of your race. Who are we to say that you should, that this would help lighten racism as we know it? It's your decision/life, not ours.

Answer 2

I'm all for staying in your race when it comes to marriage and forming a family. When you have children with someone of a different race it can be hard for them to associate with any 1 culture. I'm proud to be what I am. I've also been called racist for my views but I shrug it off because I know I'm not. I just don't think having a rainbow family is always the best thing.

But in regards to dating for fun or finding someone sexually attractive then I think all races are OK. Especially Japanese girls!!!!

Answer 3

It's not right to date outside the human race.

Answer 4

Behind this though is the feeling that you believe your race is somehow superior. ANd in this day and age that just creeps people out. Its nothing wrong with having a preference but only racist completely eliminate people just because of their race

Answer 5

I agree with you. I say if you prefer someone who's the same nationality as you, that's fine. I wouldn't call you racist for this reason.

As regards the "special treatment" thing, what are some privileges you feel are a threat to you?

Answer 6

Bringing the question to light is already a sign that that is a problem for you.
I guess dating should not be a matter other than human race (I don't think it advisable considering otherwise).
I had this thought myself many times, as well, and than I noticed that I am not prejudiced when I say that I don't want to date other people that are from the same descendancy as I, not because of their looks, but because they have nothing in common with me. That wouldn't be called racism, would it?
If trait differences is a real principle of choice, than that would keep you from meeting some great and wonderful people.

Answer 7

That's retarded. I know I've never seen a black guy I've been attracted to but that doesn't mean I hate black people. It makes no sense. As long as you don't have a problem being friends with people of other races then you're ok.

Answer 8

I don't think it's racist if you don't find people of other races attractive, it's all in the eye of the beholder. some white men are infatuated with black women, that's o.k. I do not feel a physical attraction to black women, that too is fine.

Answer 9

It is not wrong to not want to date outside your race. I would never do so, all though my sister will only date outside her race. So tell those people to get a grip and mind their own buisness.

Answer 10

there in nothing wrong with it as long as you respect others and dont hate people for what there color is. Most people in asian countries (China, Japan, Korea) tend to stay with there own race.