My wife left me for another man. However she e-mails or calls and tells how happy she is in the morning then by that night I get an e-mail telling me I am the asshole and she isn't happy with her decision and it is my fault for not trying hard enough to hold on to her. Why would a woman do this?
2006-11-04 01:06:54 · 18 answers · asked by Johnboy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hello,
well it sounds like she likes to play games with your head and feelings....if i were you i would e-mail her tell her that every thing is changing on your end and that she made her bed and she needs to lie in it...i know that its hard for you when you probably still love her....but you have to let her go....or else she will still treat you like crap....i am going through the same thing but i have a child with him....so its much harder for myself i have to see hime every weekend.....but i let him know that he don't get to me.....or she is not happy with the decision that she has made and wants to take it out on you.....but that isn't fare either....it is called emotional abuse and that puts you in a bad spot with other women with trust, companionship and every thing else....she just wants you for the back burner and wants to see if she can have her cake and eat it too....but that isn't fare for any one.....please just do as people are telling you and change every thing so she can't put you through the torment.....its all head games and not worth it in the long run......she is being very selfish by keeping you that way....good luck in what you decide.:)
2006-11-04 01:43:56 · answer #1 · answered by wendy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she obviously still likes u... but she's trying to get YOU to make a move to win her back...anyway she can. i mean think about it... she starts off saying she is happy and stuff, trying to get u worked up about it...trying to put ur ego into the picture. then she starts whining in case THAT gets u going and u decide to jump in and RESCUE her out of her bad decision. she just sounds like a very confused - bar selfish - person who doesnt have the guts to say "sorry" for what she did and ask for u to forgive her so she can come back.
2006-11-04 10:22:45 · answer #2 · answered by bukroot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All she is doing is playing mind games with you, and keeping you on the back burner, so that it will be possible for her to have this "fling" and then perhaps come back to you. She is only causing you more pain and confusion, and i would get rid of her for good if i were you. Trust me, im a woman, and i know how our little games work!
2006-11-04 10:48:15 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your phone#, set your email to vacation mode for her inquiry and let her drown in her own pool of "what did
I do?"
Shes holding on to you "just in case
'...this I KNOW from personal experience, love yourself enough to close the door.
Shes playing with your head. Its not your fault-she brought#3 in---did she ask you? The fault is with whomever opened the door.
let her know you are not a doormat...
2006-11-04 09:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Delete her mails,you need not read them in the first place. She only intends to torment you. Sooner you get rid of her the better.
2006-11-04 09:14:51 · answer #5 · answered by rams 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like the type of person that looks to others to fulfill her needs and doesn't take responsibility for herself.
2006-11-04 09:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by David P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie,
as long as you know you did everything you can in the relationship than let it go shell be the one regreting it. try not to have any contact with her (if there are no kids involved). good luck
2006-11-04 09:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by SHORTY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you still love her? if you do, go check her out. it could be more than this. there might not be a man. she's just trying to make you realise you didn't concentrate on her
2006-11-04 09:27:15 · answer #8 · answered by Apricot Brandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she is passive aggressive and most likely borderline.
I have a piece of advice: RUN!!!
2006-11-04 11:21:16 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a "DRAMA QUEEN". She wants you to fight for her. She wants a knight in shining armor.... all you need to decide is if your willing to fight for her.... my view is that if she left then she's gone
2006-11-04 09:11:10 · answer #10 · answered by DEBBY'S BABY 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋