o.k. i have two daughters aged 3 and 4, my 4 year old has some problems and in the next few years will need a couple of operations. i really want another baby (i would love a little boy) but i feel it would be selfish towards my 4 year old as she won't get as much of my attention when she would need it most, also with her problems i feel i wouldn't cope with another baby, but i feel REALLY broody. how can i make this feeling pass?
2006-11-04 00:57:23 · 14 answers · asked by Kelly 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
i also have 2 children a boy aged 4 and a girl 19mths.
my son has problems he is in the process of being diagnosed with autism and i feel very guilty for not being able to give him my complete attention 24/7 , and find life extremely hard coping with 2 of them let alone 3!
all i can suggest is when your child has had the surgery's there will be less pressure on you and you will be able to enjoy a new baby ( even with all the hard work that comes with it).
devote your time to the 2 wonderful children you have now and not think .... what if, or maybe
it sound like they really need you to themselves for now.
and if you get too broody volunteer to look after someone else's for now
2006-11-04 07:55:14 · answer #1 · answered by ronny mac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly understand where you are coming from, I am having a really bad time at the moment because I would love another (I have three) but my husband will not abide it. Feeling broody is awful especially when you cannot have what you want. My advice to you is if your partner is quite happy to have another then if you can wait until your child is out of the woods. If you cannot wait have one, your daughter is still obviously cared for with a younger sibling already it will be no different with one more. In my experience it is a big jump from one child to two but hardly a difference from two to three. I think older children are more demanding than babies who sleep all day. My eldest also has problems medically. Good luck
2006-11-04 06:23:02 · answer #2 · answered by clairewENSLEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself the following. How long have you felt like this? What triggers these feelings? Are you spending time with friends/family who have recently had babies? I'd give it time. How old are you? Is there really any hurry to have another one? Have you spoken to your partner about it? How does he feel? Why don't you wait a few months and see how things pan out? Also, spend time at some children's parties or places where there are lots of screaming kids. That could cure your broodiness! If you still have these feelings in a few months, go for it!
2006-11-04 01:05:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
As you probably already know kids are very difficult.i have 3, two boys and one girl.About one month ago my daughter had some epilepsy crises so she used to get more attention than the boys which i know is wrong because the boys felt kind of left out.Ive stopped it now not only because of the boys but because i wasn't doing my daughter any good by giving her so much attention she started taking advantage of that and her behavior became bad.What I'm trying to say is ofcorse give your daughter the extra attantion when she will need it but dont forget your other daughter and most important(something all mothers do)dont forget yourself and your feelings.I hope everything works out for you and your daughter gets better very soon.
2006-11-04 01:13:35 · answer #4 · answered by Elennie P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what is it you miss?
feeling pregnant or having a newborn in your arms because your babies are young
I would say concentrate on the little ones and these feelings willl pass. Your 4 year old will need you a lot.
It is not too late in couple of years if you still really want a baby
2006-11-04 02:30:31 · answer #5 · answered by justme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will help. But make a list...Good points and bad points about having a 3rd child. I bet the bad list will be longer! Concentrate on the 2 you have a think about another in a couple of years.
2006-11-04 09:23:29 · answer #6 · answered by huggz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by the sounds of it you should wait until the time is better for all of you and even then there is no guarantee of a little boy try to remember the sleepless nights and nasty nappies and constant screaming basically all the negative points to having a baby including labour that always helps me
2006-11-04 01:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by KEL B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
by remebering all of those sleepless nights shitty nappies and endless tantrums!
No seriously you should be thankful for the two you have and dedicate your time into getting your 4 tear old through the hard times when thats done, then there'll still be time for another baby then.
2006-11-04 01:04:52 · answer #8 · answered by Jo. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Buy a kitten - kittens need looking after but as soon as they are grown will basically look after themselves and probably ignore you. Baby to adult in just 2 years!
2006-11-04 09:01:16 · answer #9 · answered by thompson_clare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt even consider having another baby until your children are on the fast road to recovery. if she needs surgeries, she is going to need your undivided attention and having another baby is just going to strain from that. if you really wanna be around a baby so bad, volunteer at a day care or something
2006-11-04 01:02:59 · answer #10 · answered by clubsandra 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋