Sometimes during sex with my partner, he loses his erection. He doesnt have problems getting an erection and after he loses it he usually comes round after 10 minutes or so, but it this makes it difficult for both of us to climaxand it creates a weird atmosphere between us sometimes... What could be the cause of that, concidering we're both very passionate? Is there something I can do? I mean the "missafunction thing" happens for no apparent reason at all! (he doesn't enjoy me giving him oral sex very much, although i'm good at it, so dont tell me to just give him a blowj*b beacuse it's not working for us and it wont solve the problem ..) I'm kind of desperate because i cant discuss it with him, he feels akward about it, so guys please help!
Serious aswers only!
2006-11-04 00:27:23 · 10 answers · asked by metafrastria 4 in Health ➔ Men's Health
My partner is 30 years old, thin and athletic and isn't receiving medication of any sort. He's healthy as an ox! And i do my best to spice things up and make every time we have sex somewhat different from the previous one. I just don't get it...
2006-11-04 02:13:52 · update #1
Agree with others, age may be a factor here; but erectile problems are, in a physical sense, basically about blood flow. So in this respect, age is not necessarily the main factor here. So, I'd start with a 'physical.'
ED can sometimes be a by-product of diabetes. Are there other classic signs, thirst, excessive peeing, etc.? Is there an enlarged or aggravated prostate problem? Enlarged prostate can interfere with blood flow. A general cardio-vascular problem? Is he getting regular exercise?
Sometimes, it's 'all in his mind,' meaning psychological stresses from work, or other sources. If he is worried, it will just shut him down, totally. So, maybe ask him, not like an inquisition, but maybe just tease it out of him, about workplace/relationship with coworkers issues?
Spice it up? I don't mean to go for handcuffs, etc. (no offense to those who enjoy this, whatever floats your boat), but after a long time with a partner, even though things can still be hot, they can also become very 'routine.' Are there varying ways you could stimulate him? Alot of guys don't realize that pretty much the entire pelvic floor of the male body is packed with G-spots. You wanted to hear from a guy, so I can pass this along to you: if he is stimulated from the bottom up, the blood flow is more increases, and produces a better erection, engorged to the max, and therefore all nerve endings usually buried within folds of skin, are now exposed in full sensitivity.
I am not trying to be (porno)graphic, just plainly honest. it's basically anatomy 101, and simple, natural physiology. it's the way a guy's body 'works.'
Don't know if this helps, but it is submitted as a serious and honest answer.
Good luck!
2006-11-04 01:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by inprimeform 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is he ? There might be something to that. Are you using a condom ? That could be a real killer, although I'm sure that you have considered that. Are you more into it than him ? Seriously, are you setting the bar too high ? Are you expecting simultaneous orgasms every time ? It could be a pressure thing of not being able to meet your expectations. You say that this only happens sometimes. Maybe it's something you can work thru. The other things to consider are alcohol and medication. Either of these could cause problems in the beginning of your escapade or make him less sensitive and the '' little man'' loses interest.
2006-11-04 01:00:37 · answer #2 · answered by randband4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have a health problem. Too much exercise can cause this problem but he should get a blood check. He may be diabetic and not know it. That would cause this problem. If everything is OK and you have a health plan, try one of the new sex pills. They are expensive, but do work. Also, if the problem is not very bad, break the pills in half and quarters which cuts down the cost. That may be all he needs to get him up and ready to go. Im sure he is very upset about this so the problem may be that he is afraid it will happen, which makes it so.
2006-11-04 05:40:09 · answer #3 · answered by 2hot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my bf loses it because we use a condom. we are working on that issue. also if it is round two sometimes he can't keep it up. or i have to lend a helping hand... or toungue. just try to focus on every little feeling. it can feel good even if it is not totally hard. have him go downtown on you and really enjoy it and play with him while he is doing it. does the trick for my bf every time. he also really like going down. your bf may not be so passionate about it. anyways babe, good luck!
if you are not using birth control, start now. he may have inhibitions or a fear of geting you pregnant. also when me and my bf first stated doing it it was akward the first few weeks, but after that he got used to it and we were more comfortable with eachother.
2006-11-04 03:01:14 · answer #4 · answered by 1 Hott Mami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dunno. You didn't give his age but if he's in his 40's or older, that kind of thing just happens occasionally. Are you sure you turn him on? Him not being turned on could cause it. Either way I think you should discuss it with him IF you're serious about him. There's nothing to be embarrassed about. It's a problem that needs to be addressed. May be time for a visit to the urologist. He could probably tell you why and maybe even fix the problem.
2006-11-04 00:38:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know but I don't think I ever met a guy that complained about getting oral sex! Maybe he has some issues that you might want to consider other options!
2006-11-04 01:56:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal... that average male can go 5- 10 minutes the 'first' time around. normally the 'second wind' last longer...
use the down time for enjoying the other parts of the body.. won't say anymore you figure it out...
2006-11-04 00:37:08 · answer #7 · answered by Marshall Lee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My man has the same problem. I know exactly how you feel. Its been over a year with him and we still haven't solved the problem. Viagra works wonders if you can get him not to be embarrassed about taking it. How old is he?
2006-11-04 01:53:57 · answer #8 · answered by Sandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you cant go 30 to 60 min nuts
then hes in to much of a hurry
go slower and shorter strokes
2006-11-04 11:13:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to relax himself during sex. He might have been thinking something stressful, which made him lose his erection.
2006-11-04 01:51:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋