my galfriend brokeup with her boyfriend and is still hung up on him he told me things in confidence about why he dumped her and that he actually wanted to be with her cousin instead. i told her this and she told him that i told her now he says i stabbed him in the back! im confused cos i was tryn to help my chic friend but now my dude friend who was her boyfriend doesnt want to speak to me anymore!!! should i try and explain to him that i just wanted to help her get over him or just let both of them be without either one of them's friendship???
2006-11-04 00:21:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
just let them two solve their problem than getting between the two of them. you'll be experiencing a lot of trouble if you would do that. maybe you could approach them if you were asked to do so.
2006-11-04 00:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by twenty_four 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to get in the middle of two people then you need to learn to keep it neutral, if someone tells you something in confidence, then it is your moral duty to keep that confidence. How would you like it if someone blabbed what you said in confidence because they thought it might help?
Best thing to do is apologise and then tell them both that you want to stay out of it, be there for them to lean on, thats it but if you want to keep them both as friends, stay right out of it. I hope you learnt a valuable lesson our of this.
2006-11-04 00:59:42 · answer #2 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he told you things in CONFIDENCE, why did you betray his trust? Stay away from both of them. You put yourself in the middle and it was a big mistake. I'm sure you were trying to help, but you should never betray a confidence. Sorry for you, but you have just learned a very hard lesson in life.
2006-11-04 00:30:53 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a touchy situation. You need put them both to sit down and talk to them, let them know what were your intentions and that you are not choosing sides. They need to work out their problems and be honest with each other. And what ever they decide, that's between themselves. You are not going to stop talking to either of them. So the sooner they work this out the better for you. Let them know that they are hurting you and friends don't hurt each other.
2006-11-04 00:38:31 · answer #4 · answered by WORD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you tell her something he said in confidence? Stay out of their business. If he want her to know something he can tell her him self. Keep your mouth shut and it won't look like you're taking sides.
2006-11-04 00:26:39 · answer #5 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you shouldn't have stepped in unless it was in the best interest of the other person. and in this case it was just a matter of him being into someone else that happened to be her cousin.
2006-11-04 00:26:34 · answer #6 · answered by 4mika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let them work it out...on their own
2006-11-04 00:23:17 · answer #7 · answered by Citizen 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
um I think that you should try to explain why you did wut you did you had a reason if there mature they will understand
2006-11-04 00:25:52 · answer #8 · answered by becka b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋