2006-11-03 23:48:11 · 46 answers · asked by fujipro 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Absofreakinglutely not!
2006-11-03 23:50:26 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Can your spouse have an affair without hurting you? What will the excuses be? She chased me...we were only friends, then one drunken nite....I didn't think you loved me anymore...we were going down different roads...it was just sex....being with her made me realize how great you are...etc......I can see them all.
Find a "story" that your wife could give YOU for having an affair...one that you would be absolutely ok with...as far as I can see there is NO story ever written that would make it OK.
Check some stats my friend...most affairs DO NOT end up in happily ever after AND you lose your wife---most? Better that 80%. Do you like to gamble?
Give your wife the time you are spending 'thinking' about the other woman---remember the day you met her? Remember your first caress? How did she look on your wedding day? Have an affair with your wife---that, dear sir cannot hurt your marriage.
2006-11-04 00:48:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't think so...unless it is an open marriage and both parties know about the affair but if you it is not an open marriage and one has an affair it will only hurt them in the end. I am saying this from experence!! An ex cheated on me in the past and it hurt like hell!!! It took me a long time to get over it.
2006-11-04 00:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by Veronica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from a 5 year affair that is over now but still trying to recover from...don't do it!!! It's an emotional roller coaster, you will not get the satisfaction you think you will, and it is expensive. Either try to fix your marriage or get a divorce before more people than you realize will get hurt and/or lose their trust in you. From someone that thought it wouldn't and followed through with an affair, yes, it will hurt your marriage.
2006-11-04 00:42:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i think not,,,even if the spouse Left at home doesn't know of the affair there is still the hurt of being left alone while your husband/wife suddenly has to work late for months on end,,tiny cracks can soon become huge chasms when couples just dont communicate with each other,,while affection is going elsewhere it isnt going to the partner and even though the one having the affair may feel new,fun,excited it doesnt come from inside the marriage and that will make alarms go off with the one sat alone at home.affairs are for cowards who haven't the guts to acknowledge trouble in a marriage and just want to bury their heads in the sand while at the same time making sure they at least are ok.
2006-11-04 00:06:14 · answer #5 · answered by lex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if what you really mean is without the other finding out- yes it is possible- but it always hurts the marriage- lets say you do this and you do not want to be with your spouse anymore because of your new relationship- or better yet the spouse finds out and divorces you- or--- you regret what you did- and feel awful haveing to keep such a secret from the one you love- but FYI- it always hurts your relationship with God- adulterers do not get to the kingdom- but i guess if you do not believe in the Bible, then your not held responsible. but love does not try to hurt - and to marry- you must have loved at one time- work on your marriage - yea, i know it gets boaring - but you are a player in that game- liven it up a bit----- treat your spouse the way you want them to treat you!!!! if your wanting kisses for no reason- plant some on them for no reason!!! just try-
2006-11-04 00:22:14 · answer #6 · answered by drox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't see an affair making your marriage stronger in no way at all. I know that it will make trust go out the window & once that is gone it's not easy to get back. You know what is right & wrong!
2006-11-04 00:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by "karma" 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you cant if you wont an affair divorce your wife first,yes it may hurt her but I would rather a divorce than be cheated on.
2006-11-03 23:54:38 · answer #8 · answered by wizardalli 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO! If one violates the trust, even if they don't know, the the marriage is hurt forever. Because the vows are meaningless at that point.
2006-11-04 00:54:22 · answer #9 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No if you have any kind of cosiance.And you could always run into the person while with your hubby.It's a small world.Why would you want to take that risk.If your not happy get out.break up n have your fling then get back together if thats what you want.If you need to spruse things up create some kind of fantacy for your husband play some rolls and have fun .
2006-11-03 23:55:44 · answer #10 · answered by too4barbie 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That is unfair. As long as you keep it a secret you can drag the marriage. Be mentally prepared for a divorce which is bound to happen if you do that.
2006-11-04 00:59:26 · answer #11 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋