My grandmother has been taking care of my sister and brother and I, Since I was 6 yrs old. My grandmother had eight boys and one girl. The girl which was my mom died when I was very young. So my grandmother had to take care of all of us. She work 2 jobs 3 to 11 and 11 to 7 so I barely had conversations with her. I love her very much. But we hardly talk to each other i mean we talk but it's nothing like she come to me and start a conversation or me either. I don't know what to do i don't want our relationship like that. Sometimes she say she be scared to talk to me but I'm not a bad person. I don't know half the time what to say to her. I guess cause I'm not a talkive person I always been to myself. Only when I don't have anything to say. Now that she don't go to work as much as she use to it's like I'm in my room and she is in hers. I'm a fun person to be around alot of people like and enjoy my present. What should I do or say?
2006-11-03 23:47:45 · 9 answers · asked by Live love laugh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You could begin by telling her how much you appreciate her for raising you and your brother. Maybe, sometimes, ask her what she would like you to fix her for lunch (or dinner) and then make sure you eat together. If you let her see how easy it is by talking to her first, then maybe she won't be afraid to talk to you. I have raised my granddaughter and we are like best friends and talk all the time. You can do it!! Good luck to both of you.
2006-11-04 00:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived with my grandparents for over four years, and communicating with them can be, let's say different. She comes from a different generation and sometimes that means not talking openly about things, it's not really a bad thing cause you know they can keep a secret, but i'm sure she doesn't know how to talk to you. You'll have to be the stronger one this time, she seems to have been very strong for you guys. You could start off with something simple like making dinner together or just eating together you'd be suprised how easy it may be to chat with her. You'll probably have to be the one who gets her out of her room, she could end up being one of your best freinds because she cares so much. Just try the best you can and even set a certain day in the week that only you two hang out. Just be up front and tell her you need this and she will probably be suprised you want to hang out with her. Good luck!!
2006-11-03 23:58:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down and watch t.v. with her or ask her to go for a walk or go grocery shopping. When my Granny was alive I would start a conversation by asking her questions about her life and what things were like when she was a young girl. Ask her what your mom was like as a young girl. Grandma's are very wise! You might be suprised when you find out how interesting your Grandma is!
2006-11-04 00:41:50 · answer #3 · answered by cweetepye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASk about family stuff maybe, about her life when she was younger, your mom, little stories from when you were babies, etc. And try not to be each one in a different room, when people are together, even if each minding her business, it is more likely that eventually a lot of little things to talk about will pop up.
I have to say it is very nice that you are trying to improve your relationship with her, good luck :)
2006-11-03 23:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try getting an intrest in something she can relate too !! the elder loves being ask there advice or there expertise at projects etc... Sewing cooking maybe try to get her to open up about the fam & start looking up your geneology together!!
2006-11-04 00:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by karmakrazy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you go to your grandmother and say that your the one person who cares me a lot and you cannot live without talking to her, explain her in such a way that she can understand you
2006-11-04 00:29:15 · answer #6 · answered by ravindra p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by thanking her for being a saint.
2006-11-03 23:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by Joe Rockhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both lost a special part of yourselves when your mom died.Focus on this loss!!
2006-11-03 23:50:53 · answer #8 · answered by eugene65ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask a person u know of your grandmas age for advice
2006-11-03 23:50:50 · answer #9 · answered by q6656303 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋