he sits there and plays for hours and curses and curses and curses and its so annoying, and he leaves his socks and **** on the floor and tells me to pick up his ****. He is too busy with his games to actually do something.
And all this while I'm trying to do school online. imagine hearing, f#@% your mamma, f#%@ your mama! UGH ITS DRIVING ME CRAZY
2006-11-03 23:45:54 · 16 answers · asked by Pook 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
do any of your guys feel for me? or your spouses at least, lol
2006-11-03 23:46:19 · update #1
It doesn't sound like the computer games are the problem. It sounds like you guys have a rocky relationship. I would start by mending that, then deal with he computer game thing. And he shouldn't talk to you like that. My husband knows better than to talk that way to me, even out of common curtsy.
2006-11-03 23:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's definitely being a jerk, to say the least. He needs to understand that your schooling is important to you, and that you need the computer for it. Not to mention the fact that he has become foul-mouthed and lazy, thereby making matters worse. You may actually have to drag him to counseling for this one. Merely pulling the plug on him while he is gaming will most likely cause him to become even more angry, and having a face-to-face talk with him most likely won't happen unless there is a power outage or computer system crash. If he won't go to counseling and/or show respect for your needs, it may be time to leave him. In the meantime, you could try night classes or going part time- in person at an actual college/university. Your education will then not be jeopardized, and you can get out of the house(and away from him)for a while.
2006-11-04 00:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pook, I was in your husbands shoes a while back. Wow, a long while back. I would stay up to 2 a.m. when I knew I had to be at work at 6 a.m. It's a competitive streak that's the problem. We don't like to loose. My wonderful wife helped me out of this problem by calling me immature. The light went on! I was immature. I cut it out cold turkey! Never went back. My kids are now into these games. Once in a great while, after endless hours of badgering, I'll cave and play a game with them. It's not that fun anymore, knowing that it cost me a time in my life when I wasn't the best I could be in my wife's eyes. Your going to have to shock him into seeing this stuff isn't going to get him ahead in this world. I mean drug addicts use drugs to escape the world for a time. This is the same addiction to an adult. He has to loose it or he will suffer terribly and not even know it. Maybe you should show him this question and some of the answers on this site. We don't know him but some of us have been in his shoes and you know what. That size doesn't fit me any more, I'm no longer immature!
2006-11-04 01:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's unhappy that you simply consider that your husband is ignoring you. The great recommendation I can provide is, do not attempt to compete with the pc, interact his curiosity via the pc. For illustration, check out gaming and gambling with the pc your self or get him to exhibit you ways and take a look at to make dialog approximately the video games and methods he is utilising at the pc. If you do not consider he is doing whatever valuable with the pc inform him to make use of his pc advantage to whole a pc path or a web based path in some thing else he is excited about. You would check out relocating the pc to a extra critical position within the residence as a way to see and speak to one another while he is utilising the pc.
2016-09-01 07:00:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So if it's not computer games. It would be football, baseball, or some other sport. If he didn't have the computer games he would still be cursing and leaving his clothes on the floor. Your anger comes from wanting to get on the computer while he's using it. Do three things buy a second computer (for you), tell him to pick up his own damn clothes, and get some ear plugs.
2006-11-04 00:41:22 · answer #5 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are saying ! My hubby works all the time then comes home & gets on the games & We have 3 kids with a home & a yard a that needs to be taken care of. When I say something to my friends they say that their hubbies are doing the same thing too. They take up for their's cause they got back from Iraq almost 7 months ago & say that it has alot to do with that & I'm not buying it cause I know other guys that went & they aren't doing that.
2006-11-04 00:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pull the plug on the thing today tell him its just the two of you.
Find something to do out of the home. If he is not willing then go alone stay out all day. See if this gets his attention and that would be a good time for a sit down talk
2006-11-04 00:13:29 · answer #7 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there always has to be one dude in a family with a odd hobby. Supirising its usually the wife whos messin around on the pc cos the husbands too busy with work to have time for that shi*.
anyway i feel you i would not wanna get married to the likes of that. Sounds like he dont work and the fact that he tells you to pick up his shi*? thats messed up. Im not saying i dont play games i love playin with my ps2 but i always make time to take the girlfriend out. Tell ur husband in these words " what have you done for me lately?"
2006-11-04 00:04:37 · answer #8 · answered by jason6x6x6 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well- you married him- and now you have to find a way to love him in spite of his downfalls- but the computer games are not a bad problem(he could be out all night doing other things, ) I guess your having a problem with his swearing and dirty socks- earplugs!!!! and the socks- just be a good wife and pick them up- show him respect- even if you don't feel he is deserving of it- God knows you are struggling but be a good wife and you please God, not just your husband- i have heard of many men who have been transformed from a woman being a good wife in spite of the problems- do not let Satan win- earplugs and something to keep your mouth busy so you do not tell him off while you pick up his socks!!!!!!!
2006-11-04 00:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by drox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ye i do and it's the worst.They pay more atten to the computer.That's why you should have some kind of schedual and tell him how it makes you feel ,that u can't cocentrats on your school work n that is very important couldn't he play after your done.If he ignores you then thats when i would freak n probably do something to the computer so he can't play games anymore.I just would'nt tell him it was me he he lol...
2006-11-04 00:01:37 · answer #10 · answered by too4barbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋