please read my previous question so u will get some idea of my problem.tnx
2006-11-03 23:21:39 · 15 answers · asked by anne 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I read your questions and honestly I know it will be hard, but you need to stop the relationship. It may be a relationship to you, but it doesn't sound like it is for him. It sounds like he is just screwing around and using you for his fun/pleasure/entertainment. He has no thought of your feelings, while you do. And be realistic, do you in vision you two actually meeting, and living together, getting married and being happy? If you can't answer yes to all of those, and with the pain he is giving you, you are honestly in a 'useless' relationship. Sorry if the word useless sound harsh, only word I could think of.
There is nothing wrong with meeting men on line and having an Internet relationship, I just think you have met the wrong man and he is now using you.
You need to get out of the relationship and find who you are and find out what you need and want, enjoy being single. Then once you realize what you want, what you truly want, then go on the search of a man. That way you will be better equipped with what makes you happy, so you can find the man to fit you and make you happy. Then in turn you will be able to make him happier because you are secure with yourself.
I am here to chat with you if you need, just email me. I don't know if any of this helped. And if any of it sound rude, I'm very sorry, not how I meant it.
2006-11-03 23:34:19 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's what happen sometimes when peole chat too much... I'm, sorry but I kinda agree with Trollhair. He's not the only man in the world. There are lots of guys out there for you who can love you more--personally, but you just have to get out there. You just met him in the net plus you said he hurts you emotionally--in the net! What's the guarantee of real love and happiness there? What more if you meet in person? You also said you want him out of your mind but you can't. Well, you can! Who says you can't? You just have to rethink things out really well not just by your heart but also with your mind. Be realistic... Do yourself a favor, don't make your life miserable just because of him. You know for yourself that you do not deserve all this. Not all long distance relationships turn out a success and you know that... He's a jerk! He's a jerk from the start! You seem like a smart girl (but can easily get confused with matters of the heart) and really pretty; I guarantee you'll find someone you really deserve, Australlian or not. Go! Meet lotsa people!
2006-11-04 07:55:28 · answer #2 · answered by sheer♥black 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have inside you a lot of beautiful feelings, but I think you are not focusing them in the right direction, I also think he is not your boyfriend really and in one of your questions you say you feel he hurts you. Wanting to leave everything to go find a person that may not feel the same sounds like an invitation to disaster to me. I can understand that you think you love him but if you are not sure he loves you back with the same intensity you do then stop considering that you can go to Australia and live together.
I also relate to the feeling of not being able to take someone away of you mind, but you'll have to do it, because what are really the odds of you two being together?? And if he refused to come to where you live, that should tell you something... Try to MEET new people, in person you are a nice girl and you have all the chances of meeting someone who will value you.
Good luck hope everything turns well.
2006-11-04 07:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU need to take control of the situation. Write to him and tell him that you believe the type of relationship you have with him is unhealthy. Tell him that you would prefer he no longer contacts you. Block his e-mails. You are in love with a vision of what you want in a man. It's not real. You may as well be in love with Brad Pitt. It's just not going to happen. After you write the letter, go out, go to the gym, go shopping. Spend as much time away from the computer as possible. It appears from all your questions regarding this man, that you want someone to tell you that you can and should have a relationship with him. If that is what you want, perhaps you should get on a plane, fly to Australia and confront him. Perhaps when you see him in person, the reality will be enough to help you to move on.
2006-11-04 08:38:23 · answer #4 · answered by Lioness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well friend, it seems u r intent on drowning in self-pity!! U haven't met this guy and don't know his character / background. Then why in the hell would u keep thinking about him. On line chatting is just to be friends and may be develop business if possible but definitely not to be used to develop a intimate relationship. U really don't know what u r getting into..
I suggest u take some counseling to overcome this situation. Reading ur previous ?ns I think, u should look somewhere else, and get to meet people in person.
All the best....
2006-11-04 07:35:04 · answer #5 · answered by skr 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm certainly not a counselor,but I can give you some food for thought--
Let's see now,You say you're in "love" with someone you've never met, long-distance relationship at best, you're feelings are not reciprocated---Do you happen to see any problem here?? You say how good you are at doling out advice,I challenge you to switch places and pretend your giving advice to this person with these problems---would you say it is more of an "inquisitive infatuation" since there is absolutley NO relationship here other than cyberspeak.(It could be even someone of the same sex for all you know) Get back in the real world,meet real people,have real relationships-----which this is not...Good Luck
2006-11-04 07:33:06 · answer #6 · answered by KEITH G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you're in love with an illusion. You've never met him in person...probably never will. Please understand that many people you meet online are not what they appear to be. Through the computer we can be anyone we want to be...who's going to know? He has painted a picture pretty enough for you to fall in love with, but it isn't real. If he were for real he wouldn't hesitate to meet you in person. You seem like such a sweet and loving person, you deserve better than this. What you have right now is not a relationship...it's just words on a screen. Find someone who is worthy of the love you have to offer and please don't play this game with him anymore...you're the one that's getting hurt.
2006-11-04 08:28:03 · answer #7 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am going to answer your questions this way. i suggest you and him get together and meet first of all. we all can control and behave in certain ways when doing on line chat, being on the phone etc. the other person only sees what we want them to see. and that is our good side/ you believe that he loves you and you love him. but until you meet you do not know for sure if its real. or make believe. continue the relationship . and plan to meet him half way for a week vacation. by spending the time together that way you will have a better understanding of what could be or won't be
2006-11-04 07:48:03 · answer #8 · answered by redsyoungstud 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
from your picture i gather your a beautiful woman- you should have no trouble finding a new fella here- but it sounds like you are stuck on this fella- ask yourself why? does he remind you of someone? look like someone? i had my heart broken once and tried to "replace" him - i dated men that looked like him only i did not realize it- my friends had to tell me -hey he looks a lot like---- when i realized this i knew i had the problem- i worked it out- and now have been married for 9 yrs to a wonderful man who looks nothing like my heart breaker- it is your life and up to you- no matter what people tell you- if you do not apply it, it won't work- and prayer works better than any advice!!!!!
2006-11-04 08:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by drox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All u got is not the true love, its all bcoz of lust feelings or thoughts, that guy u met in chat will be good in look or speaking or in any way, all u have is the feeling of lust with that person, u can not *** out of lust, but u can just see the site.
2006-11-04 07:57:20 · answer #10 · answered by swetha 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋