pregnancy and sex?

Question

MI am nearly 3 months pregnant and haven't felt much like sex over the past few weeks. My partner finds me very sexy now Im pregnant, but when it actually comes to the act he goes soft. He says its because theres a pure, clean life growing in me and he doesn't want to associate it with sex, which he now feels is a more sordid act, which will taint the purity. I can actually understand what he means but its getting him down because he can't help but think this when it comes to it. Has anyone else experienced this?

ronb - there is NOTHING wrong with him, he is just quite a sensitive person. Something u are obviously not

Answer 1

It's the Madonna complex (no, not the singer). He is seeing you as a mother-to-be, and that is precious to him. You just need to talk with him and have him understand that you are still a woman and a wife, that you love him and want to be loved as such. You may not feel like intimacy now, but once your hormones change over the next few months, you might be jumping him.

Answer 2

Sex during pregnancy: An overview



By the BabyCenter editorial staff
• Can I have sex while I'm pregnant?
• Will it feel as good?
• I haven't really been in the mood since I got pregnant. Is this normal?
• Will my partner's sex drive change?
• Is oral sex safe?
• Which positions are the most comfortable?
• Related Links


Can I have sex while I'm pregnant?
Absolutely. With a normal pregnancy, you can keep doing it right up until your water breaks. Do check with your doctor or midwife first if you've been treated for premature labor or if you're having any problems with your pregnancy, such as a shortened or dilated cervix, leaking amniotic fluid, placenta previa, or bleeding, or if you have a history of miscarriages. There are some instances when you should avoid having sex.

But as long as your pregnancy is normal, you won't hurt the baby by making love, even with your partner on top. The thick mucus plug that seals the cervix helps guard against infection. The amniotic sac and the strong muscles of the uterus also protect your baby. Though your baby may thrash around a bit after orgasm, it's because of your pounding heart, not because he knows what's happening or feels pain.

Will it feel as good?
Even better for some women, not as good for others. Increased blood flow to the pelvic area can cause engorgement of the genitals and heighten the sensation. But the same engorgement gives other women an uncomfortable feeling of fullness after intercourse ends. Also, some women may have abdominal cramps during or after intercourse. Your breasts may become enlarged and can be more tender, which can cause discomfort when they're fondled. You may have more vaginal discharge or moistness, which can make sex either more pleasurable or can result in some vaginal irritation. If you notice a sudden change in the amount of vaginal discharge or a foul or unusual odor, check with your practitioner. You could have a vaginal infection or your bag of waters may have broken. When your water breaks, you may feel a slow leak rather than a gush of fluid all at once.

I haven't really been in the mood since I got pregnant. Is this normal?
Yes, it can be. The big changes in your body are bound to change your sex life. Some women, finally free from worries about conception and contraception, feel sexier than ever. But others are just too tired or nauseated to make love, especially in the first trimester. The second trimester is often marked by a resurging libido. Your desire may wane again in the third trimester as birth, labor, and your belly loom large, or you may simply feel unattractive or tired.

Will my partner's sex drive change?
Most people find their pregnant partner as attractive as ever. But your partner's desire may be dampened by concerns for your health and the baby's, apprehension about the burdens of parenthood, fear that sex can hurt the baby, or even self-consciousness about making love in the presence of your unborn child.

Is oral sex safe?
Yes, oral sex won't harm you or your baby, provided you're in a monogamous relationship where both you and your partner are HIV-negative. In fact many consider it a nice substitute if intercourse is deemed too risky. If you're not sure what your partner's HIV status is, then you need to use a dental dam (a sheet of latex that you place between your genitals and your partner's mouth) because there's some evidence suggesting that a person may be able to transmit HIV through micro-abrasions or tiny cuts in his mouth.

Which positions are the most comfortable?
Here are some time-tested positions and tips for making love while you're pregnant:
• Lie sideways. Having your partner on top demands increasingly creative gymnastics as your tummy swells. But lying partly sideways allows your partner to keep most of his weight off your uterus.
• Use the bed as a prop. Your bulge isn't an obstacle if you lie on your back at the side or foot of the bed with your knees bent, and your bottom and feet perched at the edge of the mattress. Your partner can either kneel or stand in front of you.
• Lie side-by-side in the spoon position, which allows for only shallow penetration. Deep thrusts can become uncomfortable as the months pass.
• Get on top of your partner. It puts no weight on your abdomen and allows you to control the depth of penetration.
• Have your partner enter you from a sitting position, which also puts no weight on the uterus. Try sitting on your partner's lap as he sits on a sturdy chair.


Have faith — where there's a will, there's a way. With a little experimenting, you and your partner are sure to find a technique that works for you.
http://www.babycenter.com/refcap/pregnancy/pregnancysex/390.html

Answer 3

I think its very sweet in a way. For a man to view pregnancy that way. But he must understand that in no way is he "Actually" compromising the purity of the child. The child is, in a normal pregnancy, completely closed off to the vaginal vault. One protected by the placental sac and two by the cervix which has developed a plug and hardened to protect the fetus from foreign matter. If there is anything to compromise the pregnancy by having sex your Dr. will advise against it. He may need to work on this issue as your hormones may get the better of you and you'll be jumping him.

Answer 4

Well, I think it is ur first baby and so ur partner is finding it difficult to do the act. I would suggest u get ur doctor's advice / counseling for him to come over any misunderstanding he may have with regard to pregnancy. As long as u take care not to rough handle (no pun intended) ur sex, there will be no problems for the baby. In fact u can have sex even on the day of delivery if every thing is OK. So, talk with ur partner, convince him and enjoy!!

Congratulations and All the best.. god bless....

Answer 5

Not personally but there are plenty of other ways to keep it spicy if you know what I mean. You could try things with your hands and mouth and see how it goes. There are plenty of things to try. Be adventurous and try to put his mind at ease. Chances are you'll be gagging for it later on in the pregnancy so some toys might come in handy if he is not willing to perform.

Answer 6

tell him that baby is safe in thick bag collected inside it and nothing will heart him,no relation between purity and normal marriage usual life,only he must not let in too deep,no one asked him do forget his sex needs or change his life.

Answer 7

Now is the time to have as much sex as possible, it won't hurt a thing. there is something wrong with your partner, have him checked real soon.

Answer 8

just tell him sex wont hurt the baby

Answer 9

Yeah I HAVE EXPERIENCED THE SAME DURING MY FIRST PREGNANCY.