you fancied a guy soooooo much, you wanted to ask them out but you took it slowly and 1st became frriends with him, then becoming good freinds with him but it came to a point where another girl got him 1st and they became a couple before you knew it. how much does that hurt? did you do something about it? what did you do? or did you leave them to it but you still fancy him though. and what if it came to a point where they were thinking of getting engaged and the guy asked for your opinions (coz he trusted you soooo much) on what he should get her for presents etc. what would happen? what would you do? reject him and say you dont want to know him no more or would you still try and win his heart over? have you ever been in taht situation? what happened?
2006-11-03 21:53:21 · 14 answers · asked by allgiggles1984 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just try and find someone else. And next time don't move so slowly. Get your man and keep him.
2006-11-04 01:36:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my situation a lil different and a while ago..But ya I was seeing a guy who I was into we dated briefly with benefits, and then just friends,why? because we both were having to much fun bieng single at the time to be more and keep in intimate with out bieng intimate if that makes any sence to ya. Anyway he began seeing this one lady and mean while I found out I was pregnant, ya pregnant with his! After I told him,it was very strange to be around him.We began to drift farther apart remind you I was still into him only the rules had changed and not in my favor. To make my long story short , don't put to much effort into trying to win his heart.You don't need to write him off completly if there was something real ever in your friendship?But how could he have not known that you fancied him? I would just let him know that you need you time while he is having her time and leave the door cracked for future,they say if you love something let it go if it returns to you it was meant to be!Even if it's just a second oppertunity to see if he was a potential mate. What you don't want to happen is to try and force any relationship or interfear with his enless you are just looking to play some games and not come out ahead only disappointed.I chose to leave it alone, and over time he came around,he is in my daughters life and he is a good guy,as for his girlfriend well there engaged and living together.I am great with that because all I needed was time.And when that time is right and something is meant be it does return just sometimes the reason is not what you thought.Hope my story helps in some way Goodluck!
2006-11-03 22:42:52 · answer #2 · answered by sweetcheeks 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually i have been on the other end of your problem, i had a best friend who was a boy and we hit it off straight away he was very shy and i liked confident blokes at the time. Time went on and we became really good friends and then i got with my knew boyfriend and my best m8 then told me that he was in love with me, i didn't no what to do and stayed with my knew boyfriend and when we split my best m8 was still there and was my shoulder to cry on. We did end up getting together but the fact that we was such good mates and knew everything about each other made things really difficult and we ended up splitting up and now because of that i lost the bestest friend i ever had.
Be careful what you do, i think you should tell him how you feel and if you really really love him go for it but make sure he feels the same otherwise you may loose your best friend.
Good luck xx
2006-11-03 22:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by babie v 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I have been in that situation,a long time ago. Yes it hurt, a lot. You cant keep after him thou, no matter what you do, he will always go for the other girl. You need to let it pass over you, and put your self into other things. Hand-in the best homework in the class, be the best at what you do at work,or volunteer your time to-- maybe an animal shelter,anything to divert your mind to other than him. That helped me ,and I continued to work at a great place, making good money, and I met lots of new guys.No I never did forget,but years later,where still best of friends and I cherish that. I really wish you good luck, and if things get to tough, please go talk to your mom,sister, or even a clergyman.Just talking to them will help.Good luck
2006-11-03 22:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by Sandyspacecase 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I liked a guy sooo much, and I became very good friends with him, then I learned he has a gf (he started with her when we were just getting to be friends). It's a long distance relationship he has with that girl, and after some time he started to flirt with me too (I know he likes me too). I let him do it actually. But it started to hurt so much to see him talking to her on phone for hours in front of me, I decided I'm not gonna be with him all the time anymore. I'm trying that at the moment, and it's good so far. I'm beginning to dislike him for giving me hopes all the time and then acting as if nothing happened. He once implied to me that he can't break up with her because he promised things to her, but he just met the best after he started with her. I started to hate him when he said this. I don't need a guy who doesn't know what he wants in life, stupid him!
Yeah, I still like him, maybe love him, at the same time hate him. But I'm doing fine not talking to him as much as I did before.
2006-11-03 22:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by Earthling 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
There could be 2 answers to that
1; could be simple he could just not fancy you.... possible??
2: He likes you but isnt sure if you feel the same so he is trying out other fish (excuse the fish!)
All you can do is carry on with things yeah it probably kills to see him with some1 else, it might nbot be straight away but if its meant to be its meant to be. it cld be years but get on with ya life gal go looking for some1 else it could just be that you were only ever destined to be friends x x good luck..
2006-11-03 22:36:18 · answer #6 · answered by emzie 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
never been in a situation like that, but i could surely tell you that you would of had him. Don't let questions like "WHAT IF?" happen again. You always have to take a chance, you rather know than guess. Now the question is do you want to risk a good friendship?
2006-11-03 22:05:03 · answer #7 · answered by gocash26 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
love and relationships go from simple to completely off the map in one fell swoop. I have been in some wonderful, and not so great. however, I will say that I would not trade a one of them for anything, they definitely did build character on my part. life is very easy to take as long as the person in it with you feels the same.
2006-11-03 22:00:16 · answer #8 · answered by jh452004 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He obviously didn't fancy you in the first place... move on
2006-11-03 21:55:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
be like my girls at work cuddle all blokes until you find one that feels right also talk to us men we are not all idiots women think we are
2006-11-03 23:57:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋