If you were me, How would you respond to my Girlfriend's e-mail? Please help!?

Question

My sweet Sexy,
What a wonderful Wednesday it was, I just wanted to write you and thank you again since I was unable to write much yesterday morning due to the workload at hand. It was positively wondrous to be close to you, and to make love, which is out of this world.
I have to tell you, I am so impressed with your spirit in willingness to honor my request for more space that I feel closer to you than ever. You displayed an unprecedented level of understanding and wisdom, I am beside myself with admiration and respect for you. You never fail to show me the light when I have doubts. I only hope that I treat you as well as you deserve to be treated, because you are worthy of only the best and nothing less.
Looking at the whole, the only thing that I've had trouble with is how much you give, which is almost to an extreme, since you have such a generous heart. I can't help but to feel bad because I'm not in a position to give as much in return. At the same time I understand that is how you demonstrate your feelings, and I respect that.
I want to apologize that, I realize I've pretty much made it all about sex. That is shallow of me. I suppose I tried to justify it in my own mind by thinking that, as a man, maybe that is all you would care about too. But I am really a jerk for thinking alongs those lines-- you are a human being with feelings, not just a hot body and handsome face.
The more I find you reaching out to me with personal things such as sharing pictures with me, and showing/giving me things from your childhood, sends a message. Today I was puzzling over this outpouring, not knowing really what to do. My initial reaction unfortunately is to try to avoid getting too personal. But I started to think about how what a person shares is also what a person needs-- and maybe that I was treating you like an object. Like a sweet-hearted protest, you are showing me that you are more than just a toy. Like that toy doll in my dream that suddenly spoke, I've suddenly come to realize what's going on. I can see that you really want and need a special connection, and it's sad that I tend to do the exact opposite and vigilantly avoid everything that is romantic, sentimental, and personal. I don't know how to change this, but I think by ignoring your attempts to make a connection I am only making matters worse.
At least by acknowledging your needs I hope that you can see the level that I care about you. I am making my own attempt to figure out how to treat you right. I just wanted you to know that.
Have a joyful and happy Friday, looking forward to talking to you sometime this weekend.
Your,
Pumpkin

Answer 1

This would be my response:

Dearie,

I am really impressed that you acknowledge how you really feel like and it gives me one more perspective that we all might have. We are all human and we have our phases. We may like sex and we may like romance too. I can only say that I really want to share myself with you and if you like that so much, as you have expressed in the letter, perhaps you want to be able to express and share yourself too but are afraid of being vulnerable and get hurt. I know this is something that only you can decide but I can only say that besides the sincerity and your concern for me, your letter also exposes your innermost fear to be too close to anyone. I hope you realize that soon too but it is only for you to decide whether you want to grab up the opportunity to give in to it or overcome it. Your letter underlines the fact once again - if you had been so shallow as to think only of sex or too materialistic, you wouldn't have been so concerned about my feelings. Think again and think well, it is about our future. If I will ever feel frustrated, I will express it too, so you don't need to overburden yourself and feel too much pressured but if I make you uncomfortable anyhow (that is the last thing I want), perhaps you need to sort out what you want first and I will be there to help, whether you want me or not. Decide now, honey, for I am already vulnerable.

Lovingly Yours,

Answer 2

This is full of honey and very disturbing. She's hinting at you wanting to make this a permanent relationship and, she isn't looking for this. She mentions "more space and sex" instead of a closer relationship.
She seems to think you have ulterior motives "Marriage" in mind whereas she doesn't, as mentioned beforehand.

She wants a romp in the hay, to put it bluntly, no more, no less. If you are trying to get close, and do get her at a weak moment and she says yes, I believe your going to spend as much time with a marriage consular as in bed.

I really think you should start looking for a closer relationship, if this is what you want, she did suggest "more space" and instead of "this week-end" give it a trial and tell her you need the space also to think about her letter. If she asks, tell her maybe it's time both of you seek other relationships and maybe down the line something will happen to bring them together again. A nice way to "get out" of it. And, then run like hell!

Answer 3

Your female friend simply had a miscarriage (which I'm assuming used to be yours) and he or she's emailing you? Shouldn't she be in entrance of you or a minimum of at the mobilephone? Honor her needs. Tell her it is k, every time she's capable. A miscarriage is a annoying factor for a girl, whether or not the being pregnant used to be deliberate or now not. Give her a few area, however ensure she is aware of you are to be had if she demands you....

Answer 4

there is a lot of emotion in that one for sure, you must be a special person to deserve such compliments, lap it up, there aren't many people out there that are that honest and open with their partners, It's a very special thing to have someone like that in your life, I would think you were very lucky, if words translate into actions, i think this girl is a definate keeper she obviously thinks the world of you and you may never find that in another person ever again, talk to her and tell her your honest feelings she deserves it, i wish i could find someone as honest and open as her

Answer 5

wow. she makes you sound like you have all the estrogen, dude. as a representative of men all over the world, it is your responsibility to acknowledge the letter but pretty much ignore it. after all, she said that she just wanted you to know all of that stuff she scrawled... she didn't want you to do anything about it.

she sounds really mature, too. if you really don't know how to answer this email, then perhaps you should consider dating someone a little less educated.

enjoy!

Answer 6

Just speak to her why she is like this ?????????

and the moment u heard something wrong, pleeeeaaaaassseeeeeeee go away from her and dump her......
i know its not so easy, infact me too had faced the situation wid a guy, but i dumped him, and now m happy............if u need any help den write to me

Answer 7

Whoa...I got dizzy just reading it! Short version, he is not interested in her long term but wants to come off like some sort of worldy poet.

Answer 8

Tell her, she is acting like a
BOOTY CALL.
She's not into you, like you are into her.
I would tell her that, and move on.
Next time don't sex them up so much, and share
yourself as much unless she's into you.

Answer 9

I agree. She is annoying. Also - she's long winded.it took her a long time to say nothing........she is just stringing you along

Answer 10

i would not want to be your friend since you post your girlfriends letter for thousands of people to read