My soon to be ex has a blog page and all the details of his dating life, love life, and current exploits are very public. He details the trips he takes on the weekends, vacation plans, etc. As I have the kids 100% of the time, if I had a blog page it would involve trips to school, dinner time, bath time, bed time, and work.
How do you feel about your ex or soon to be ex dating and declaring his/her love for someone else? And knowing him/her is vacationing, taking trips on the weekend, while you are making sure homework is done, kids are growing into responsible adults, pets are fed, and you still have a job on Monday morning?
2006-11-03 20:00:12 · 10 answers · asked by little1missy1234 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's really harsh on his part; you'd think he would at least be discreet about it since you aren't divorced, yet.
I am in your shoes, with one difference...my soon-to-be ex is telling everyone that I am sleeping with "every guy in town" and chasing off any potential relationship I may have (but don't have time for) while he is secretly dating multiple women. And, right now I have 100% custody of our children, am receiving no child support, and he cant even see the kids due to a restraining order.
One part of me is upset (and a little jealous) that he is living the life of a bachelor, while I have all the responsibility - especially because HE is the one who destroyed our marriage (domestic violence)..........
However - and I hope you feel this way too - a much larger part of me feels such pride that I am doing it all on my own; that I get the bath times with my children, and I get to read them books everyday; that I am corresponding with their teachers and helping with homework; that I get to be the one to kiss their boo-boos, and celebrate their milestones (like my littlest learning how to ride a bike without training wheels!), pack their lunches, and sing and dance around the house with them...
And I have a full-time job with a lot of responsibility.
I know what he's missing out on, and truth be told, I feel sorry for him.
Good luck to you! Hang in there, I wish you the best!
2006-11-03 23:04:22 · answer #1 · answered by in love love love... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have an ex, but if I ventured to hypothetically think that I did have one, I don't think I would be all that upset about him moving on with another person. The fact that you know he has a blog is just going to make the experience of grieving more harder. Maybe you should try to limit yourself in looking at it because it won't be good for you to get jealous rehashes regularly. Why not start your own blog and not tell him about it and get out there and meet new friends, find new hobbies, and start to make plans for your future? If your ex is moving on, you should to. Your kids are mutual and thus, his responsiblity as well. If he gets to get away with new people, so should you.
2006-11-04 04:05:50 · answer #2 · answered by bansri47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is feeling young and free. He is "enjoying" his new life without responsibilities and flaunting it. Sounds like he's totally immature, too.
You need to stop looking at his blog--as hard as that sounds. You need to regain your self worth.
You are doing the right thing--taking care of your kids, and believe me, they will grow up knowing and appreciating that you have always been there for them. Just keep being a good mom and a good role model. And make sure to make time for yourself, as hard as that is, it's important.
I know it's hard--my ex h did something very similar. My kids are 16 and 19 now and they know who is always there for them no matter what, and it's not their father. They have a relationship with him but it's superficial.
Don't bad mouth your ex in front of the kids...they will figure it out on their own. Kids are very smart.
2006-11-04 12:29:55 · answer #3 · answered by draws_with_crayons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you traded places with someone at Ground Zero 5 years ago. Yet you both ended up in the same mess.
2006-11-04 04:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by lewisthomasp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation and it stinks. the thing is you have to remember it is over and don't go to their myspace page, their bf/gf page. Don't dwell on it. You have your own life don't worry about his. Take joy in your children and know that he is missing out on the really important things in life.
2006-11-04 08:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by Johnboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you then I would try to be happy for them and probably a little jealous too. I would try and find a way to deal with it outside of griping about it on answers.
-NmD!
2006-11-04 04:04:38 · answer #6 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts too bad to describe. I felt like a loser because I had no life outside of children and work while he had it all.
2006-11-04 04:14:19 · answer #7 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there. Done that. Got the T shirt. It really hurts, but you eventually get over it and move on.
2006-11-04 04:20:06 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can su*k being the oniy one with integrity. huh?
u can go to bed knowing u r a good person, and done what was rt for ur kids. to he11 with him be proud.
look at it this way now he is someone elses failure.
2006-11-04 04:09:17 · answer #9 · answered by jesse james 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he already considers you an "ex"... you're kind of behind the power curve acknowleging it.
2006-11-04 04:03:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋