I love my husband but we have been struggling. He would get mad and irritated with me often for no reason and be agitated. Now I realize that he was using every opportunity to communicate with her even when he was home by text messaging her. I knew for months something was wrong and I was so sad. I asked him , but until I saw the phone records I had no proof. I believe the two of them are covering up facts because she is a higher rank at work than he is and she would get in big trouble. I don't believe in divorce unless he has committed adultery? If I have only proof of the emotional should I go?
2006-11-03 19:22:21 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don`t wait until you have no dignity left. Hold your head up high and CALMLY state what your feelings are and why you have them. Staying will make you look like the fool. When his "emotional" relationship (which was likely physical a LONG time ago) ends, and it will, he will look the fool because he just lost the best thing that ever happened to him...YOU! You deserve more that that. Kudo's to you for staying this long...
2006-11-03 19:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by jellibean_72 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wait until you are totally crushed? Is the emotional affair not enough? Do you really think that all they've done in all this time is just talk? Especially since they work together. Don't be fooled. I don't believe there are any boundaries in adultery. Any type of contact outside of your relationship (drinks, conversation, texting, flirting, etc) is a form of adultery because all of this is done for what reason? Intent, familiarity, etc. He's already committed adultery. Do you think that a man is going to just text (talk) with a woman for months and nothing happens? I don't think that you, or anyone else, should waste a minute showing someone love if they can't return it, totally and whole heartedly.
2006-11-04 03:43:44 · answer #2 · answered by shellese2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he connects with her in a way he can't with you. have you changed the way you dress or even gained weight. he seems that he's tired of something and what I think ya'll need is some spice in your marriage. you have proof of the emotional which means he possibly may be having an affair. many times when men cheat their behavior changes toward their spouse. you should talk to him and tell him your thoughts and suspicions. tell him how you feel now compared to how you felt when ya'll got married. also, i suggest you contact the lady and insists that she stays away from your husband (which can distract him while ya'll work on ya'll marriage. if not, then you'll report her.
2006-11-04 03:49:57 · answer #3 · answered by truth hurts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have all the proof you need. If he has hidden all of there various types of conversations from you, then he has already cheated on you. If you believe he is a honest man (which I doubt, otherwise he wouldn't be having any type of affair) then ask him if he is having an affair. If he isn't, then you will just continue to suffer.
2006-11-04 03:34:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gots to be more to it than just struggling. Emotional affair: Thats seems deep. Sister all I can say is pray about that. I would bug the hell out of him. Ask him is he having an sexual affair with her.Ask him why all in a sudden he is acting strange.
2006-11-04 03:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by Winkytreats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a choice only you can make talking to him about it may help but would be better with a marriage guidance councillor together.The big problem is they work together that alone makes your situation very difficult.Some men do chat online to single women or look at porn sites that can be stopped easier than when you work together.
2006-11-04 03:32:24 · answer #6 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me it isn't just an emotional affair. He is doing you wrong. There is no such thing as an emotional affair so get the heck out of there, How would he like it if you were the one playing hanky panky? Get out and let her have him. What goes around comes around.
2006-11-04 03:34:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is the proof realiable?
Try 2 talk 2 him.
If he is cheating, well u need 2 get some Divorce Papers.
2006-11-04 03:46:33 · answer #8 · answered by Lovely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend he is really into her, if he is treating you like, S@#^ so better leave the marriage he has no business talking to any other female.. what I don't understand is why are you taking it this long...once a person is not into you get out...
2006-11-04 03:29:59 · answer #9 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a case for you only to sort out if you feel you would solve your problem by leaving then do it but if you want to stop and see it through belt him one and tell him to pack it in and get back on track! good luck
2006-11-04 03:27:49 · answer #10 · answered by srracvuee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋