If your wife spent three hours in a night club without telling you where she was,then came in tipsy at 130AM..

Question

....would you be a little upset that she didn't call to tell you where she was going to be?

Do I have the right to be a little angry in this situation?

Answer 1

You need to communicate with her. Make sure in no uncertain terms that married people should not behave this way. On a rare occasion, such as a close friend is getting married, maybe it is ok to go to a night club. Otherwise, no. Night clubs are for meeting people of the opposite sex for possible interludes or relationships. This is no place for a committed person to be. Period. The fact that she did not even tell you where she was shows a total lack of respect. You two need better communication, therapy or at worst, a divorce. She needs to show you respect, or you should show her the door. Ofcourse, you need to show her respect as well. Good luck.

Answer 2

A little angry? You can be as angry as you like. I don't like when people get together and they get possessive and angry, but when you are with somebody, especially when you live in the same house or even worse, when they are married, and you do something like that, then something is wrong. It's not a matter of jealousy. This could be just a night out with the girls. It's a matter of trust and I really would want to be in your place, while worrying if she is OK or not

Answer 3

Spouses should always have the right to know where the other spouse is hanging out- whom they are hanging out with- and a general time they will be home.
This is basic courtesy- that allows the other spouse to not be overly concerned (send out the national guard) when they THINK the other should be home.
Of course, if you micro manage every minute of their life- they may not want to tell you anything- but that is a whole other issue.
I think a spouse should always know when to expect the other home- it brings about a sense of peace- so even if they are out partying- you know that they are paying attention to when they should be expected home.

Answer 4

A little. I mean it's just common courtesy to call when someone is expecting you. I suggest, don't be a party pooper right now. Talk to her about it in the morning. Don't ruin her buzz and you might get laid tonight!...ha! ha! No really, just be cool about it, she'll probably tell you everything without you even asking....but I'd wait and discuss it calmly in the morning. Unless, of course, this happen frequently.

Answer 5

John!

That's me.

You know sometimes we need to remember that we are people: individuals: not somebody's wife or mother.

Don't let it bother you. Instead, say: "Hey it looks like you had a good time! What happened?!" And let her share. She might have a lot to tell you. Remember her? Your former girlfriend? She's still in there!

Then, when she tells you what a great time she had: then say:
"Wow that's great! Let me know next time you're going out and I'll come with you!"

That way, she knows you don't care that she goes out but she also knows that you want to be there. NEVER push yourself on your wife and NEVER make her feel like you are spying. Then,
she'll give you something to spy on!!!

Trust me: I know what I am talking about.

If she says its just a night out with the girls, then believe her.

If she loves you that's all it is.

If it's something else, then look at yourself. She wouldn't be looking if she were happy.

Hope it works out. Truly.

Love!

Answer 6

I dont think its right for a wife to be out without her husband, especially being tipsy. I understand "hanging out with the girls" and all...but there is a line that you can't drawn now that your married. I dont know the variety of how angry you got or how bad the situation was...but from what i can see, it wasnt right for her to do that. Again though, i can't fully say...

Answer 7

Quiet night time in with my household, near peers, a fine meal, and my tune and books. Add in a few candle gentle, candies and poetry writing, and that is only a package deal of perfection for me. Though an occasional night time out is well, simply to shake matters up and make amusing reminiscences;)

Answer 8

Communication (or the lack thereof) is the number one issue in relationships... yes, you have a right to be a little upset, but please, in a very calm and collected manner, tell her how you feel about what happened, why it upset you, and what you'll both do to prevent the situation from re-ocurring (it's a two-way street, partner).

Good luck :)

Answer 9

I think you have a right to be upset that she didn't they you where she was but I don't think you should be angry that she went out to a night club with out you.

Answer 10

I believe you have no right to be angry.
Because she was merely out to share drinks with friends.
Dance the night away.
It's a time to simply conquer what you set out to do ;
Sharing Laughs with pals.

Let her have her fair share of time & space.
If you feel a slight tinge of jealousy,-there be no need,Man.
She's your wife,-she loves you.
No need for any negativity.
You guys can always set a "Date Night" for the two of you,-where all her galpals will then feel tinge of "jealousy" for they see what a tight couple you two are.

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