Anyone ever feel like they're just destined to be alone? I've had some great friends through out my life but not many of my friendships ever seem to last. I've had a best friend for quite a while but I think we're finally growing apart. I'm not very close with a lot of my family and it seems like the ones I am close to are dying off. I've never had much of anything in the "serious" realtionship department. Not sure why, I guess I don't try hard enough. I've never really connected with anyone in that way. So...not sure what I'm even asking here anymore. I guess...anyone else ever feel like this? Thanks.
2006-11-03 18:29:50 · 11 answers · asked by Katie 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sweetheart. I know exactly what you are saying and I am experiencing every single thing you are talking about right now. I do not know how old you are but this all seems to be a part of getting a little older when most of what you are talking about seems to be the case. There are some people who can live alone and have a great life. Perhaps you never had a serious relationship because as you said you never were connected. Love does not fall out of the sky for everyone. Some have to put some effort into at least know what their definition is of love and figure out if it is really worth going after. I forgot how to feel for anything. Everyone in my life has changed including myself and it is hard to feel the same about life anymore. I go on living but it is very hard to imagine life feeling as it once did. I tried going back but it didn't seem to fit anymore. I will wait to see how things unfold. The world is getting uglier to me by the minute and I hope something happens that will return some normality to the world to make it worth living in. Good luck with your life. I hope you find what you are looking for or that you will learn to be content with what you have now.
2006-11-03 18:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really believe that is true--that some are destined for a solitary life. I'm not sure why. I have a few long term friends, but no extended family. I think that's the key. Those of us who have no close relatives (either by numbers or relationship) have it rougher than those who do.
Even though I'm intelligent and talented (professional musician) I've always struggled with relationships. I've seen the looks in men's eyes when they look at me and I don't like what I see. I know I'm not attractive so I simply choose to chart my own course without them.
However, I know I will never be completely alone. . .ever. God is in my life, and I know He'll be with me through eternity. (I'm not asking you to believe--just sharing what I know to be true for me.)
You can email me any time you want if you want a friend. I'm here.
2006-11-03 18:53:42 · answer #2 · answered by freedomnow1950 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you find it hard to meet and get close to new people? I lived in my own apartment for a couple years and in that time, I felt like I had severed ties with the entire world. It didn't help that I was suffering from social anxiety disorder.
If you're like me, then you can be happy by yourself for awhile, but eventually the loneliness will make you extremely depressed. If you're not a social butterfly, just focus on dating and developing a serious relationship with someone. Any luck and it'll lead to marriage, family, and friends and a lifetime of happiness.
2006-11-03 18:53:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been feeling like that alot lately. Don't worry I know what you're going through. You just have to change the way you think. Start meeting people. Once you take control of your life, everything will work out.
2006-11-03 18:33:34 · answer #4 · answered by Nicky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have, and I'm a bit of a misanthropist. Do you feel like you are going to be alone because everyone has too many faults for you to like them? Yeah, everybody has imperfection, so some people can overlook that and some can't. Ever since I became a misanthropist my friends and I began drifting apart, like yours.
2006-11-03 18:38:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwww Katie .... don't give up your smile :)
I assume from your Avatar you're in the nursing profession and therein lays the problem ... a great job long hours dedicated to work and intelligent ... everything a normal guy is afraid of in a girl .... you'll meet someone ... you just may have to be a little more patient than most till an equal comes along ... don't rush into anything and have to settle for something second rate :)
2006-11-03 18:34:09 · answer #6 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
u r not alone. sometimes the world leaves me alone, but for the same reason u asked i keep going. i can't say why but sometimes it helps not to ask.
Just keep your head up and the answer will come. Even if it is not on yahoo answers.....
2006-11-03 18:36:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I often felt like that...more than five years ago. But don't be a "lonesome tumbleweed" as sung by Joan Baez. Find someone proper....Immediately.
2006-11-03 18:34:51 · answer #8 · answered by saumitra s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YEAH im with ya
i never connected and still havent really connected with anyone except maybe one person
2006-11-03 18:34:17 · answer #9 · answered by What gives? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married. Stay married. Have children.
2006-11-03 19:35:56 · answer #10 · answered by Padmini Gopalan 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋