How can I avoid an ex in a small town, with only a few bars, when I can't move away because of the military?

Answer 1

It's not easy but it can be done with some lateral thinking. Most likely you know their favourite hangouts- so it is obvious to stay away from those...or at least at times you know they are likely to go...or...praps go out a little less often but further afield..ie the next town. Think hard about what your interests are- indulge in the ones that you know aren't their's..at least for starters to give you some space but once you have regained your sense of self again, then be brave..and go where you want..and too bad if your ex shows-it's your town too!

Answer 2

a) Check the cars in the lot.
b) Call the barkeep and ask if ex is in.
c) Give her a cell phone and call before you enter the bar. Make sure it is a local call only phone.
d) Sit outside until someone comes / goes and ask them to check around for a free beer.

Answer 3

PERHAPS if you decided to spend time in places OTHER than bars? Yes, there ARE such places, around Military Towns -- and they are much more capable and fun to be in (and a better class of members of the opposite sex) than you would meet in a bar anyway.

Answer 4

Don't ruin your nights out because you don't want to see your ex. Have fun! Don't let his presence at a bar or whatever that you are in ruin your existence. Don't even think about moving is he worth all things the that you are not doing???