Why can't I accept the fact that this man is crazy about me? I am pretty sure it has to do with feeling insecure growing up, or maybe he's just so vague and nonchalant when he says these things that I automatically question if he's real. Look in my Q and A. When he says what he says, it's not in a mean way or a rushed way. It's more in passing. Or he'll look at me, say it, then look away and continue with what he was doing. He is not violent or malicious in anyway. He's not the type to hold a grudge. So why am I questioning it? Why do I feel so insecure? And how can I get him to open up and express himself to me more?
2006-11-03 18:10:27 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I am 23, a grown woman in the middle of a divorce with two children.
2006-11-03 18:23:03 · update #1
Sounds like you're still carrying "old baggage" from the old relationship. You say you are going through a divorce. Realistically, you should not have gotten in to a new relationship right away. When one carries old baggage in to the new relationship, the new relationship is "doomed to end" right from the start.
You have to learn to trust your own judgments of the new guy before you can begin to build a new, healthy relationship.
Talk about your insecurities with the new guy. Let him know why you may be feeling this way. Journalize your feelings and ask yourself why you might be feeling the way you do.
2006-11-03 18:52:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You Q and A told me nothing I'm afraid. Without knowing what the man says, how can anyone help you to sort it out? Maybe, like most men, he is nervous of commitment, or mostly merely lustful however he might dress it up for you (or himself) which is not much of a foundation for a lasting relationship. Or perhaps it's your own security that's the problem. I married a lass like that, thinking I could build her confidence - it was a raving disaster for about 15 years. So perhaps you need to get to know yourself better - in which a psychologist or psychiatrist could help. That's no reflection on your sanity. We all need help to mature, and time, and experience, and reflection. So question yourself, first - everything begins there. Fellows are usually poor communicators and need mature women to help them in such things - but the women must know themselves to do it. Good luck
2006-11-04 02:19:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Could be he is playing you. Baiting you. You're young and cute, why are you intererested ?
Get your own bag and let him come knockin' if he's someone you might like.
2006-11-04 02:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by Not so Fast 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because he's probably playing you. How old are you anyway? 14 or 15??
2006-11-04 02:19:06 · answer #4 · answered by nevada nomad 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps you'll grow up
2006-11-04 02:11:36 · answer #5 · answered by ppellet 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋