is it crazy that i want to have a baby when im only 17?

Question

my and my boyfreind have been going out for a year and 6 months and me and him wat 2 get pregnent and i kno we are in love.

Answer 1

It is not "CRAZY" to "WANT", it is however not a good idea. It is normal to want to have children, but one must be able to provide for that child so that it can have a good future, with security and mature adults as parents.

The need to extend your family at such a young age usually stems from some fear of impending doom or a bleak future. Please try to get counseling. It's okay to be in love, but do not let it get in the way of thinking clearly. . .

Good Luck and if you hit 18 before Tuesday. . .

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Answer 2

You are FAR from crazy. It is kinda young to have a baby at that age but your not crazy. A lot of women at that age want a baby. It all depends on your reason. Some women want a baby bc they feel the need to be loved and that having a baby will fill the void. That's not a good reason to have a baby. You guys may be in love now but anything could happen. What if one or both of you decide you were together for so long at such a young age and decide that you want to see other people? Besides that you have to be financially stable and have a lot of patience to raise a child. It isn't as easy or all that it is cracked up to be. If i were you I would wait. I speak from experience. I wanted a baby at 17 so bad. Well I got my wish and had a baby and a wedding by the time i was 18. I am now 22 and on my third child (all with the same guy.) It isn't easy. You have plenty of to be a mommy. Have fun while you still can. Not saying you can't have fun while you're a mommy, you just can't do it all the time.

Answer 3

Whoa girl slow down!

First, it sounds like you guys have a good relationship going so far. that said, you are about to go through a period in your life of major growth and change where you really begin to figure out who you are where you're going etc.

Second, I don't know if you realize how huge of a responsibility it is to care for children. Its not just a novel idea, its for life! Are you really ready to put yourselves on the back burner and think of your children first?

Third, while you might very well be in love, but until you have made a deeper life long commitment to each other by getting married and "worked" on developing a strong marriage for 1-2 years or more, your "bundle of joy" may actually be the catalyst to ending your relationship. Children add a ton of stress to any relationship, it changes your whole way of living. Do you want to have a baby right now and risk being a single parent later?

You need to think about what you will have to give up. No more free living, party life, shop till you drop type stuff. Instead you are feeding and changing diapers all day and night, loosing sleep trying to afford all the clothes, diapers, medicine, well-baby care and more.

Aside from the costs of raising a child, do you know how you will be supported? Will you be able to stay home or how will you afford childcare (good care isn't cheap)? Do you have medical insurance to cover the pregnancy, birth and well-baby care? Do you have the finances to cover the deductibles and co-insurance?

Think about it......

Answer 4

No, you're not crazy for wanting a baby. I did too when I was your age. But you are crazy if you don't wait a little while. Are you even out of high school yet? Do you have a steady job to support your child? And don't count of your boyfriend to be there. Guys tend to freak when the reality of the situation hits them. If you want a guarantee that he'll be there, get married before you get pregnant. There's a lot to consider. Do you have anyone with kids that you can talk to about this? Like a mom or a big sister? They tend to put things in perspective. Good luck with whatever you do.

Answer 5

You are so young. I know you may feel grown up but listen to me live your life while you can. Once you have a baby it is no longer about you and your boyfriend it will be all about your baby.

I started dating my now husband when i was 15 and we started having sex at age 16 (I made a bee line to get on birth control) and we decided to have a baby at age 21. We are now 27 with a 5 year old son.
You have all the time in the world to get pregnant. You only have one chance to be young. Do you reallly want to be forced to grow up before you have to?

I love my son so much and i would not take anything for him but i do think i could have waited to have him around my age now. Looking back age 21 was really young to have a baby.

My sister (she is 17) is 6 weeks pregnant and you just don't know what she is going through. She really dosen't know what she wants to do but i do know this much she regrets missing a few birth control pills.

If you 2 are in love then your love can wait and have a baby later on.
I was with my now husband for 6 years before we had a baby.
I know i am not your mother or anything but i am a mother and i can tell you it is the toughest job in the world and you never get a day off...And all of what you want to do is put on hold.

Stay young as long as you can

Answer 6

Actually, you're not crazy. Wanting to have a baby isn't just a mental thing. Once people come of child bearing age, many have the desire to reproduce due to hormones and whanot. It's natural. Most people would agree that in our modern society, having children at a young age isn't necessary, as it was in the past when the average life expectancy of a human being was significantly shorter. And having a child at such a young age in today's society it would be a lot harder to survive I would imagine, as from experience I know it is even without having to support a child. So you are NOT crazy for having these feelings, but as a bit of advice, I would wait a little while before acting on these feelings.

Answer 7

I am not sure if I would say crazy because I thought I wanted one at 16. But it isn't very logical. I am 20 now and pregnant and scared half to death. It was a surprise baby and I am married to my bestfriend of 7 years. We have been married for a year and 5 months. I know your in love and all but financially it will be so hard. A baby will be a lot of work and wouldn't you like to be spending your time with your bf before you get into all that? I spend every second I can with my hubby now becuase I know that with his work and the baby there will not be much time for us. Babies are wonderful and a gift. But trust me you will be much happier if you took my advice and waited. I know at that age I would have hated to hear that but it's true. It just takes more years to understand. I hope this helps. I know I'm happy I took other people's advice and waited.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

There are so many girls out there just like you. You might think that getting pregnant now is a good idea but you really have to think of the the baby and what sort of a life you would be able to provide for it. If you wait a couple more years you will look back and relise that waiting was the best thing to do because really you are still a child yourself.

Answer 10

I think 6 months isn't long enough, I was only 17 when I had my son and I had to give up everything, once you have a child that is your whole life, you can't do anything on the sper of the moment, everything needs to be planned in depth, and its difficult for someone who hasn't had time to understand themself to then have a whole other life to understand and this little life depends souly on you. Enjoy your relationship for a while before having a baby, If you put off having a child then you can mature as a couple but if you have a baby now then thats it there is no step back.

Love is a powerful word and I really thought I loved my son's father and we would be together forever but once I gave birth to my son I saw life in a whole differant light, Love was nothing like I believed, the love you have for a child is so incredible and powerful that its alot to live up to in a relationship especially a young relationship like yours, its only 6 months old and you still have so much to learn about one another. Just put it off for a year before planning a baby its not long as time passes so quickly but enjoy your time together as once you have a baby your relationship is second on the list because the baby is always first.

You need to be prepared for a massive life chane and its not anything you can walk away from, I have found I feel like a much better parent once I had my daughter at 19 because life was much easier to understand as I was more mature. I am only 21 next week and I have a 4 yearold a 2 year old and one on the way. I am married very happy with my life but it has taken alot to get to this point. This wasn't what I planned I wanted to be 25 before starting my family but it turned out differantly so now I have to wait to be able to do anything for myself.

Cool it and enjoy this time before having a baby that is forever. You will be much better off knowing yourself first because I have found I had to try and get to myself now and its taken alot longer as I am always last my entire family comes before mum. This is most familys. I wish you all the best and good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Answer 11

Children are a huge responsibility, I was 28 when I had my first. I absolutely love being a parent so I kinda wished my husband and I had started earlier. By the same token my life experiences have probably helped me cope alot better as a mum. What it comes down to is that you and your partner need to be prepared for the sacrifices and the complete and utter impact a child has on your lives. You and your partner are the only ones who can answer that question. Becoming a parent cannot be taken lightly
and if you are ready to become parents, children give love unconditionally and it can feel very rewarding.