me and my girlfriend broke up 3 months ago and her dad died 2 weeks later will we get back together of 3yr 9mo

Question

me and my girlfriend was together for 3 years and 9 months. we broke up 3 months ago. her dad died 2 weeks later. I broke up with her because she told me I didnt matter. I didnt know she meant I didnt matter when shes trying to spend time with her parents. shes 19 years old, Im 23 years old. through out the relationship it was hard for us to see each other because her parents were so strict that we had to sneak to see each other and only was able to talk on the phone 2 days a week. so the anger we got from that would be thrown at each other. but once we realized it we became a better relationship. she says we will never get back together because she felt I wasnt there for her in that stressful time of her dad. I've always been there for her through everything. im her first everything, boyfriend, virginity you name it except for a crush before me. she has a grudge against me, possibly dont like me as a person. my friends say she will come back but i dont know. do you think she will?

Answer 1

you will never see or hear from her again. grasp it and enjoy.

Answer 2

It hasn't even been a year since her dad died. Don't expect rational thinking out of her. Remember that anger is a part of the grief process, and it's really hard to be angry at the person who died, so she needs to find something else to be angry at. Congratulations; you're the lucky target! And while her reason for being angry at you is rather twisted, it's true enough that it will sustain her. The easy way out would be to cut your losses and move on, but I'm not sure that's the right thing to do. So what you really need to do is keep reminding yourself that it wasn't your fault, and odds are she'll see that eventually. Make sure she knows how to reach you if she needs to, and then just let it go for a while. Maybe call her once a month or so if she never calls you - just to check in on her. And if she does call you, try as hard as you can to not be angry for all that's happened so far. In the wrong place and time, she might misconstrue that as *you* rejecting *her*.

Answer 3

Don't bother her, but find a way to tell her you care.
Ex: store bought flower bouquet or card in the mail. Give her time to grieve. She may be saying things out of stress and panic. There is just so much involved in the death of a parent. She needs her time.

You have no idea what thoughts are in her head. you may be a part that she is confused about.
Time will tell if you are reunited. Time changes things. Be
mature and don't rush it. But, tell her she is still important and you will be there for her in whatever way possible.

Answer 4

My philosophy is. if you break up once it wont work out.
i hate to say it but that " u dont matter when im tryin 2 hang out with my parents" sounds like somethin she made up at the last minute to seem like you were the bad guy. as for the "you werent there for her"..... she shouldnt have been so cold, her dad dying was a coincedence and sad as it might be shes just in a hard time and wants 2 make every1 else feel like crap.

Answer 5

You will if you want it bad enough. Suck up to her, show her everything you have done for her, continue to be there for her no matter what mood shes in or w.e JUST BE THERE. More importantly talk to her about anything and everything. you just have to show her that she means everything to you and if she really feels like you werent there dont fight about it, just apologize and explain what you can. If nothing works... than at least you can say you tried.

Answer 6

Yes I do .. you should have helped her even after you broke up when she was in bad time when her father was off .. relationships dont run they crawl and have to be made work

Regards
Sameer
http://sameer-shaikh.blogspot.com