Hi RooRoo, Your mom is totally wrong on what she is doing.You sound like a nice girl and you should beable to go to school dances with a guy without your mom having a fit.Why did your mom start having you cook at the age 9?? She has stolen part of your childhood.Sounds more like your mom is a slave driver,if you happen to be a girl.There's no reason why you can't have a video games. Girls and boys both play games. Your mom needs to realize that she has 2 daughters and a son and quit playing favorites with the son.Your mom should be ashamed for not trusting you.I would have a one to one talk with your mother and tell her how you feel.Specially with her saying all sorts of nasty things. I hope you can work something out with your mom. A Friend.
Clowmy
2006-11-03 17:56:45
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answered by Anonymous
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It sounds like your Mom is extremely old fashioned. If you believe that you should wait for marriage, then good for you. I would never say a bad word about it. However, things aren't like they were in the fifties. The difference between now and then is women do these things because they CHOOSE to, not because they HAVE to. If you want a career, then by all means have one. If you want a husband to help you clean and do dishes, then find one. I'm sorry, but I disagree with your mother. I am a stay at home Mom, and that's because I chose to be. I plan on going back to work when my son is in school. I made these choices because they felt right for ME, not because I felt it was my role in life. Another thing, what kind of Mother encourages their 16 year old son to have sex? I'm sorry but that sounds a bit odd to me. Just do what you feel is best for you and never let anyone tell you different.
2006-11-04 01:42:40
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answered by munkees81 6
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I think you should keep your virginity until a loving relationship exists. and its not now, It will be years from now, you may even decide to wait, there is nothing wrong with that at all.
One day you will bring to your marriage loyalty, virginity, a good cook, but now adays men do help and do chores and those who don't will find themselves single. Raise your Sons like you want, to be helpful and respectful.
Oh yeah your hubbie and kids will love the idea that you can kick their butt at a video game....be part of the experience...Just be patient don't rush things...you will grow up soon....
Good Luck God Bless You.....
2006-11-04 01:44:02
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answered by Rick D 3
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I do agree with your mom about waiting until marriage to have sex..but I disagree with her reasoning. All that talk about women having to do all the work and blah blah blah..yeah a lot of the times that is true sometimes it isn't...regardless..that doesn't have anything to do with sex! As far as her saying it is different for young men..how different will she think it is if he were to get someone else's daughter pregnant? She is pushing him to have sex with someone else's daughter who might be telling their daughter to wait too and instead she is pressuring him to pressure some young girl..doesn't make sense to me. It is true that society looks at it differently when a young woman has premaritial sex, but, that is ultimately your choice to make and not society's... As far as the video games go...that's BS!!! Girl if that's what you like to do then by all means. Maybe she is afraid that it will some way some how make you butch...in her own "twisted" way she is looking out for you (protecting you) and making sure you stay her little "girly" girl....she's just going about it the wrong way. Old school mentality...
My husband and I have 3 young daughters and we tell them to wait to have a bf until they graduate from college.... so I understand where she is coming from and her intentions are good...really they are ...
2006-11-04 01:45:46
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answered by Tru-Gem 2
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While I agree with your Mom on virginity I definitely don't agree with the gender biases like dishes, cleaning, etc (or even video games although I am not in favor of violent ones). Your Mom needs to get her cultural instincts up to date (but I doubt she will). While I wouldn't go out of my way to make her mad I would talk with her about cultural issues and hopefully help her see the light.
2006-11-04 01:39:36
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answered by snddupree 5
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tho i agree with your mom on waiting for sex. this whole"girls do all the work " is ****. in a good relationship both help, because today both are working outside the home.
there is nothing wrong with you playing video games, this sexist mind set of your mom is crazy.she makes no sense, she encourages your brother to have sex with girls,now is this the kind of girl she wants him to marry?? i doubt it...she needs to rethink her actions...you be a strong independent person, women do not have to do all the work..we are not slaves to men...remind her this is not the 1800's...a good home is a family unit working together to make a good home...tell her to relax, play a video game herself,lol
2006-11-04 01:45:06
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answered by donttalkjustplay05 4
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it sounds like your mother is out of the middle ages, sticking to what she was taught. you keep your head up, you are smart, talented, and can do whatwever you wish when you are grown. please do not think all you can do when grown is cook, clean, and have babies........you have a beautiful spirit, and you have much to give to the world!!!!!!!! keep studying, keep dreaming.......and remind your brother that though "mom" (and I have to wonder what the hell she is thinking) wants him to have sex, and that things are different for boys and girls( what a moral stance, seems mom needs to start doing some reading lol) along with having sex, comes kids, and with kids comes responsibility. to be a man (and a woman) you take care of what you create.
2006-11-04 01:42:22
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answered by trish the dish 3
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be 18 before you at least think about things... cause guys are mean....really we are , I hate us... My wife's mom was alot like yours, that was a good thing I guess..... we did not move in together until we were married. We were the few that didn't..... 11 years later we are living in our dream house in a dream world because we waited to go to college and waited to have kids. We Travel WHERE we want and have a vacation home....process it... wait until you are 28-29 to have a kid... we have no car payments either......LOVING LIFE and knowing that we are going to be $RICH$ old people........(Invest from day 1)...probbly not what you wanted to hear though... the truth......
2006-11-04 01:45:34
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answered by Johnny C 3
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your mother has a double standard on women that is very unhealthy. It is bad for you your sister and your brother. i hate to bash someones mom but what she is doing is wrong. Its not her fault its what she was taught so it is what she is going to teach you. just do us all a favor and don't teach it to your kids. look up some information about Gender roles and the oppression of woman. do some research.
2006-11-04 01:44:19
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answered by silverwolf872005 2
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she may want the best for you but she is totally wrong!! alot of people do what they want and turn out successful and unashamed. being young is about having fun, you're only young once, you have the rest of your life to be an adult, so have all the fun you can (of course while being safe )
what kind of game is that? is it an rpg because i've been wanting to get back into games lately.
2006-11-04 01:41:13
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answered by ? 4
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