first homosexual experience?

Question

I am not a lesbian, but i got really drunk and slept with a woman. I did it to make my husband jealous, because since it was a woman it didn't seem like cheating. But instead he was kind of turned on and now I have another problem. He knows I am not into women, but am able to be a good sport. How can I backtrack?

Answer 1

Be honest. Don't do a Lucille Balle trick and try to wiggle your way through your marriage with lies. Your "Ricky" will eventually see you don't want to and it'll end up worse then if you just came clean.

Answer 2

First of all, having a sexual experience with the opposite sex on a trial and error basis does not make you a homosexual. Secondly, if this is something that is against your grain, then let it be know. Above all, don't continue with any sexual activity that will create tension or cheapen yourself image. Be honest with your husband. If he is a good man he will accept it and the two of you can move forward. I would suggest,however, that if you get drunk enough for something like this to happen you may want to re-evaluate your drinking habits or it just may happen again. Good luck!

Answer 3

I would get family counseling and prayer! This is one messed up situation that you allowed to happen. First marriage is sacred and should not have been betrayed with either sex. Infidelity is the same regardless of the gender. Mybe you should take a good look at your life and see that getting drunk, sleeping with someone other than your husband, and threesomes are not positive behaviors. Would you want him sleeping with another man? Men are horn dogs so they find that humorous for women to get it on but in the long run you will see that both of you lost the respect involved within a marriage. I would work on your self esteem issues, get counseling, and work on the issues in your marriage that caused you to act in this manner.

Answer 4

You don't have to have a threesome, he is using this as his excuse. If you want to have the threesome, then you pick the girl,
otherwise give him the go ahead to get even, but only one time.

I have to think though had you cheated with a Man it would be terribly worse....

You may have opened Pandora's box in which case nothing you do can reverse your situation. It just depends now on you...do you want to repeat the experience...why not with the same girl you slept with before...at least you know I hope she is clean and std free.....

I think stats will show, threesomes wreck a marriage faster than an affair or just as fast.

Answer 5

If you mean "backtrack" in the sense of going back and erasing the event, I think you know the answer to that.

However, the real problem here is the immature way you are taking your relationship. "Getting back" is not the way to solve problems. Sounds like you both have some growing up to do.

Answer 6

You cant backtrack. Its water under the bridge. Just dont do it again. Of course, I would look into all this game playing between you and your husband. To me youre both are losing but you can turn it around.

Answer 7

You and your husband are really jerking each other around- get marriage counseling and don't do that again- I think he liked it and it backfired- did your hubby make you jealous w another woman or what??? You two need help before it gets even more wacked - D

Answer 8

A three-some is NOT your only way out. Try honesty. "I wasn't really into it, and I just did it to make you mad." It sounds like he wants to you keep doing it for his amusment, but you don't really want to? If so, just say no.

Is he going to pleasure some guy for your amusement? I doubt it - why would you consider something you didn't want to do?

Answer 9

if u can remember sooo much of it then i would say u werent drunk in the first place!
and if u say that ur partner(woman) told u abt it even if u didnt remember it and u thought abt it as "wow!, i must try it again whenever i am pissed with my hubby" ......to this i must say u are actually weird.

Answer 10

haha - sorry it's kind of funny. You could have worse problems! ;) If you want to do it again with him - then do it again. If you don't, just be firm with him that it's not something you're interested in. Tell him that you tried it and you didn't like it....end of story.