I`m married and a lot of the time I want out 9yrs married 19yrs2gether?

Question

How should I feel i`m married and a lot of the time I want out I`m with someone who doesn`t respect me he`s ungreatful it`s` all about him.4yrs ago I died............my heart just stoooooooped,i wasn`t breathing they had to do CPR on me the nurses &doctors brought me back but be4 that they call my whole family at 11;30pm tellingthen 2get 2 the hospital now.everything i`m saying is second info because I was in an coma,plus a breahting machine breathing for me.My husband doesn`t respect me.I know this may be cold but sometimes just they should not have done CPR on me.I just feel bad.THANKS

I`m 34 and he`s 33 i`m turning 35 in a few months

my screen name is sucker am i one.

Answer 1

The first answer sounds pretty good to me for starters anyway.
He is right, you are depressed and don't feel like your life is worth much. But, there is a bright side to it......you know your in a bad situation and you have enough brains to want to do something about it...Three cheers for you honey, your on your way.
Go to your doctor, tell him you would like to hear what he thinks your options are: therapy, counselor etc. Chances are he will also give you something for depression (take it, you can get rid of it later right now you need it).

After you talk to the doctor, think about your options and if any one of them is something that you really want to try.

It sounds to me like you want to get out, your just hoping someone else tells you to pack your bags and leave.
If that is what you need...look in the mirror (that person is your best friend) and she will tell you what you need to hear.
Don't sell yourself short honey, you have a brain and it sounds like you are willing to look at the situation openly, so you wil make the right decision. At your age, you have about 50 years left of your life, now figure out what you want to do with it and how you want to live it.
Today is the first day of the rest of your life......hmmmmm!

Answer 2

I know what you are talking about as I have been there and done that my self. He is the reason that you are feeling that way. I was with a man that was not there for me but there for everybody else (his friends). This kind of person has no clue as to what they have until you are gone. You need to get away from him and now. He has made you feel that you are not worth a thing to your self or anybody else. Do not let him bring you down this way. I know how you are feeling, you feel like you are lower than the carpet on the floor, like why are you even here for. I can relate to that so very ease. You feel like you are a worthless piece of crap. You will and are going to feel so much better once you are away from him, and no that feeling is not going to come over night either. Once you are away from him, get your self esteem back, then you will start to feeling better about your self.

Answer 3

If you are feeling like this..to the point of where you would have rather died than still be with him...you need to express your feelings to him...and if he doesn't react in a kind..heartfelt way to make you think things will get better..than you need to leave! As hard as it may be...it will be better for you in the long run... I'd rather be single and happy than married and wishing I was dead or dead inside...

Answer 4

go get a seperation as the first answer said and maybe both of your heads will clear. You are depressed and he doesn't respect you. He is an idiot and does not deserve you. when you needed him the most he was not there. what if that was him? God men are such as*es most of the time!!!!!

Answer 5

He could be the reason you are so depressed. Perhaps you should plan to separate from him, to get your head clear, it will also shake his cobwebs too. He may regret the day you left and
it might make him a new man.

Good luck.