I have a IUD in and i want to have another baby...i have a 15 week old baby, but i cant help the feeling of wanting another baby. I really want another one. My husband doesn't want another baby right now... but i do. I thot maybe i would take my IUD out without telling him, just to get pregnant again. Would that be Wrong. Or should i just do what i want?, without telling my husband my plans.
2006-11-03 16:41:19 · 13 answers · asked by Jess 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Going behind your husband's back isn't fair to him. That would be like him getting a vasectomy without telling you.
I know the feeling of wanting to have a baby ... sometimes it's all you can think about, right? Well, he's worried about having another little person to provide for. He wants to be sure that he can handle one before having two or more. It's a natural thing for a man to be cautious about children.
I'd just remind him every once in a while that you'd like another child. There's always another day to try. As long as you're not about to hit menopause, you have plenty of time! Let him get used to the idea of this one, and come to love having it around, and he will eventually understand your longing for another.
I know it's hard to wait, but sometimes you have to.
2006-11-03 17:02:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go behind your husband's back. You have a 15 week old baby that needs both of your attentions fully right now, and for some time to come. Focus on raising this new baby, and when the time is right, discuss it with your husband and have another if you two are on the same page. Ask him if he's ruling out another baby entirely, or if this just isn't the right time for him. I have a 13 month old son, and I really do want another- now too... but my husband says no way. It was hard on him because he doesn't have the patience I do... and our son was very colicky at first, and then the teething has been just horrible.... so it really does wear us down... but like I said, I have more patience than he does. So I want to make sure we are on the same page before I go and have another. Try talking to him and see where he stands. and, you never know, if you wait a few months, maybe he'll change his mind, but it might take a while for him to do so. I wouldn't do anything behind his back though-that's bad for the both of you.
2006-11-04 00:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by m930 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes hon it would be wrong and it would be deceitfully. Enjoy the baby you have now then once your baby is a year to 1 ½ old talk to your husband again. You must know that it is not advised to get pregnant so soon after having one baby, your body needs time to recover. I’m also sure you want to enjoy the time with the one you have, which probably wouldn’t be the case if you got pregnant again so soon as you bee caring for a young baby and going through pregnancy symptoms.
Maybe you could get a pet instead
2006-11-04 02:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your baby is only 15 weeks honey. Doctors recommend waiting 2-5 years in between siblings, for multiple reasons!
Sure you can go ahead and take your IUD out and get pregnant if you want to risk losing your husband.
2006-11-04 07:53:07 · answer #4 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 weeks is still pretty young to be wanting to take on another challenge of one. I would wait at least untl the child is two. Maybe your husband is saying that because he does not want to rush. Also if you want another now so soon, it sounds like you may not be spending any time with him, a lot of men react very emotional when a baby comes in, work on this one for a while and talk to him, he may feel abondend. Its normal for all men to act and feel like this, so is it for women to put all there needs in the baby. Talk with your doctor or go see a therapist. Dont go behind his back, he will resent that and it will cause problems, remember you want to put the welfare of the childrens needs before anything. He might hate the kid if he didnt want it in the first place, you could be treading water. Give it time and go talk with professionals. LOL
2006-11-04 00:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take out the iud without telling him.
Enjoy your baby now and discuss another baby with hubby in a few weeks or months. Good luck!
2006-11-04 00:49:45 · answer #6 · answered by misskenjr 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should divorce your husband and marry another man with your same desires. Your husband may want another baby, but just not at this time. Unless you are at risk of having menopause in the next year or two, I would wait a while to get pregnant. Enjoy the baby you have for now instead of obsessing about what you don't have or want.
2006-11-04 00:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by Laughing Libra 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If you have it removed & get pregnant , he will figure it out. I actually would side with your hubby on this one & try after your baby turns 1. Enjoy chasing your baby around on your hands and knees when he/she learns to crawl w/o a big belly in the way. Enjoy this time don't spoil it with arguing with your hubby, give it some time & if you still want another talk about it
2006-11-04 00:47:06 · answer #8 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been trying for a baby, so I understand the desire to want a baby. But your relationship with your husband should be your priority. God first, your husband second, children third, and everone else last. To take such a risk to get pregnant may cause lack of trust from your husband. It is not worth challenging your marriage. I would suggest prayer. God knows the deepest desires of your heart.
2006-11-04 08:33:24 · answer #9 · answered by ablessedwife 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. stopping your birthcontrol to get pregnant on purpose when one of you isn't for it- is soooo wrong and it will only make your relationship worse than it is.
2.. Your baby is so small still. WAIT. do not rush into having another one already.... you'll be so tired and miserable. Being pregnant with no kids is one thing.. like you get tired and morning sickness so you would take a nap... well when you have a little kid getting into everything yada yada.. you can't... it sucks..
2006-11-04 02:10:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋