When it comes to "interracial marriages".......?

Question

between black/whites, what is the first thing that comes to peoples mines? Doing research and wanted to get some feedback to incorporate into my final paper. Be as open and honest as possible.

Answer 1

this is a great question when i see people that are in a interracial relationship or a marriage or just dating or even just have a child together i think man look at that they found love and look past the outside and saw whats on the inside and just for the record im white and my bf is black i have loved him from the time i was 17 but i was to scared to react on it even though we had kissed i was scared aboout what my parents would say but after a divorce and a child and after i was older i wised up and thouhgt who cares i have loved him sence i was 17 and its time i dont care what anybody thinks we have been together for 10 years and we have a daughter together who is 6 i dont think in this day and time people look at race that much anymore good luck on your research

Answer 2

I think that there is a reason God made the different races, and that I know of several people that are involved in interracial marriages, the only thing I really think about is how hard their poor children are going to have it in life, not being really accepted by white or the black communities. I think that their definitely has to be more stresses in an interracial marriage, so it would have to take two really super people to make it work and to help their children adjust and make it through. I believe that it can happen, I seen it happen but not often.

Answer 3

I think this is something that the two need to discuss before marriage and children take place. The children are usually the ones that are given a hard time. I have seen more and more beautiful children from this type of marriage. We are living in a society though that really gives families a hard time when they see this though. Underneath our skin, we are all the same. I do feel though that God had reasons for creating different races, I'm not saying it's wrong to do this though. I know some really nice acquaintances that have chosen to do this.

Answer 4

My mother has been in an interracial relationship since I was about 5, and I'm not insecure about it anymore, but in high school I felt so weird because of the stigma other people put on white women dating black men. At first glance I know people are thinking she's trashy or a whore (based on the fact that many people just think women are after the size of a black man's penis). I've heard people talk about it before they knew my parents were 2 different colors.

Answer 5

Well, society is very slow to accept it, even though it is more common than years past. The striking thing to me is that the 2 people involved only consider their feelings and not consider the feelings of their children to come. I really think society is harder on mixed-race children.

My wish is that responsible people of all races will abandon the use of such polarizing expressions as "racist" & "bigot" and the "n" word. The longer these terms are accepted, the longer it will take for our social relations to normalize. Interracial dialogue and intellectual debate will foster better understanding.

Answer 6

Difficulties. Difficulties with acceptance in society. Difficulties with having the children accepted. But, if a couple truly loves each other, these difficulties can be overcome. It really shouldn't be an issue, but it frequently is. Actually, I think that the difficulties may be of much less importance with an educated and economically well off couple.

I am a white American, so the answers may different with respondents from different countries.

Answer 7

My white sister married a black man. I think it's cool because he treats her better than any other guy she's had. My dad on the other hand was against it. He's about 67 or so and we grew up Mormon and she quit going to church long before they ever got together but he blamed Mark for everything. They lived together before they got married and this was a major problem for my dad. I thought the problem was because he was black. He had made comments about how hard it would be for their kids but he's old and doesn't realize how few "pure" anythings there are anymore but several months after they got married my dad came around. I think it was more because my dad had time to actually get to know him. But he insists it was the whole church and marriage thing. Even if he was racist he never taught it to us but everything's cool now.

Answer 8

just for the record I am a 48 yr old white woman.. and I have never thought it wrong. It does not bother me in anyway.... My cousin married a black man, before she married she ask me what I thought. the only reply I made was this. * I do not understand why such a nobel race (black) would want to water down (for lack of better term) their blood line*.... or something to that effect.. we *whites* or NOT a pure race or nationality, ethnic group, what ever you want to call us.. we are has my mother says a Heinze 57 variaty... so to answer, when I do see an interracial couple that is what I think of... and I *sigh*... God bless

Answer 9

I'm not black, but I'm not white either....I am Hawaiian, Japanese & Filipino (my polynesian side is very strong, but I possess the oriental eyes). In both of my marriages, my husbands were straight-up white boys (the white skin, blond-light brown hair, blue or hazel green eyes)....it never occurred to them that we were an interracial couple, but we were. A lot of people, especially men, assumed I was a "mail-order bride" from the Phillipines (both husbands were in the military) and it always blew them away to discover that I am American-born 'n raised.

Answer 10

I am a wm and I have found that my parental units would not be accepting of a I/R . I dated hispanics when I was younger, not a biggie, but the black gal that I went after.....WOW I was shut off pretty much. Of course I was looking for the easy way out so to speak..... I was like 19/ 20 years old....my final answer....pink is pink