I have 4 sisters & one is younger than me (Im 17) & my 3 other sisters have gotten pregnant b4 they graduated & the have a total of 5 kids. (Crazy I know) Im sooo determined not to end up like them although I have recently had VERY protective sex with my bf. Well my 13 year old sister is having sex with mulitple amount of boys at one time & although I see how stupid my older sisters were I dont think she does. And I realized that my parents do NOTHING to stop any of us from having sex at all!!!! Im mean they are NEVER home (well they are working extra to help my sisters pay for their kids), & like as soon as any of us turned 15 they put us on birth control (which some didnt use obviously) & thats it!! Im like the damn parent in the house I tell everyone what to do b/c no one takes any responsibility (espescially not my parents) but now that my little baby sister who is only in the 8th grade is having 3 somes it has gotten out of control...how do I tell my parents to get a backbone????
2006-11-03 15:50:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Basically Im graduating in 07 and I don’t want the house to fall apart even more than it already has…I don’t want to hear that my little sister has had my 6th niece/nephew.
2006-11-03 15:50:24 · update #1
wow that is outragious! 8th grade havin a 3some!? ... what can i say... the best idea is to have family counseling... i mean worse comes to worse you could call child services to scare your parents about it.. explain to them how hard it is to support a family when you guys are this young ... and they are makin it worse... mistake one after another... you parents are just avoidin the rules, they think in this society now everything is about sex and its very common (which is true) but they have to understand theres a set limit to this... sit them down explain to them how you feel... how you feel offended at they way they are treating you and your sisters. Pretty much to you it feels like as if they arent your parents accept for someone that provided money,shelter and food. So if it's like that im sure you'd end up learnin more values at an orphanage then at home w/ your family...
2006-11-03 15:56:31 · answer #1 · answered by rosie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness, first of all, I just want to say I am now praying for you and I hope things start to get better.
Okay...the first thing you can do, even if it may seem awkward, is just blatantly tell your parents how you feel. After all, how much worse can it get? If this is how you feel: "Do you even care how our lives turn out? Why don't you intervene when me or my sisters do something totally wrong?", then say this to them!
Also, not to sound cheesy, but seriously, find someone, even if it's just a trustworthy friend from school, who you can, if nothing else, tell about your problems. It truly helps to spill your guts to someone you know who can comfort you, and maybe help you in some way. I know this from experience.
The other thing I would suggest is talking to your little sister. She may not listen, but it's worth a shot, and since she's younger, you should have the authority to do this. Tell her what you think as a friend, not as a parent or boss. Let her know that you want the best for her, and that the life your older sisters have ISN'T the kind of life she would want.
I really hope something works for you! You might consider praying, too! Ask Jesus to help you, and he will! He's there for you!
2006-11-03 16:17:45 · answer #2 · answered by On the Journey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alex Baby: Ahhh ... the age of permissiveness !!! Your parents must have one rotten marriage ! This is evident by the fact that the family is all messed up. What's your dad been up to while his girls were going out getting pregnant to get out of a bad family situation at home? Seems like your ol' man needs a good size 10 right in the a** !!! What is HIS problem allowing his 13 year old daughter to be the town pump ? You Alex have "filled in" to the parental role for your younger sibling ! Is dad a "pot" head or a drinker? Sounds like it to me ! If there are chemical dependency issues at home, get yourself to Al- a -non ... this will supply you with coping skills until you can get out of the home. You sound very angry - hopefully, you will be stirred to action now. Your mother sounds so detached from it all too - what's up with her ? Only you, can "save" yourself ... GOOD LUCK TO YOU !!!
2006-11-03 16:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents did what they could they put you all on birth control, Probably because they know you guys won't listen anyway. It is up to them to actually take it and if they don't and get pregnant its there problem. Actually it becomes every ones problem emotionally and financially. You girls need to keep your pants on. Your 13 year old sister needs help she sounds like quite the little town slut. She will become those girls that need a DNA test with the football team that's nasty. Get her some counciling or something. Tell your parents pronto
2006-11-03 16:00:29 · answer #4 · answered by lem604 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW..this is crazy!!!! I know my mom really talked with me and my sister and sex and the consequences of early sex and unprotective sex.... I would say sit your little sister down and talk to her...take her to talk with some young (underage) mothers..so she can see how hard they have it...also, show her stories (if you cannot find anyone) of young people with STD...take her to Planned Parenthood.. While your at it...I know you are trying to get your parents to be parents...take them with you! Let them see the cause and effect..because it sounds like they feel like at a certain age you girls can make your own decisions..and obviously that is NOT working! Tell them exactly how you feel...what do you have to lose right!
Check out this link too..hopefully it can give you some ideas...
http://abcnews.go.com/Primetime/Health/story?id=1974232&page=1
2006-11-03 15:59:16 · answer #5 · answered by Tru-Gem 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a case of to little to late, look after your self and let the rest pay for their foolishness, and you parents should be working overtime , it is them that should have been responsible for you and your sisters upbringing, What a mess
2006-11-03 17:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you and your sisters are looking for the love that you're not getting at home from your "parents".
2006-11-03 17:24:38 · answer #7 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are all looking for love, are your parents neglecting the children in some way? Kids will be kids no matter what...not a good excuse, but peer pressure and fitting in is important to young ones
2006-11-03 15:54:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dang! Girl someone needs to pray for you. If your parents can't stop y'all then who can. Tell them how feel. I mean really tell them. If they don't want to listen make them. Because one day their neglect of giving a care will actually bite them in the a**.
2006-11-03 15:58:29 · answer #9 · answered by nelle7287 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
obvisously your parents could care less so talking to them isn't going to help. I suggest you take your sister to the clinic and have them show her all of those pics of diseases (eww) and just remind her that every guy who she has/is having sex with, she is having sex w/everyone they had sex with. If that doesn't work, slap her upside her head and inform the counselor at the school.
2006-11-03 15:54:52 · answer #10 · answered by MVAC 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋