My husband saw to it that I didn't want for anything. Nevertheless, he refrained from time to time in having sex with me. He must have had sex with other women. One day I was out shopping and saw him in Montgomery Wards buying baby clothes. His statement when he saw me, "Whoo, I'm in here buying baby clothes!" I left in anger. When he came home it was like nothing happened and I was in a dream. I was 56 then. My husband has recently passed and was 85 at that time. I have no closure because we never sat down and discussed these things. Because of it, I have bad memories of him. I was taught to take care of my children and husband. I am lonely and miss not having a husband. I remained so strict to him I didn't mess around with anybody. Before I met him I wanted to be a nun. I was a virgin when I got married. In the forties nuns were prejudiced. Even though I loved him, I wish I had never married him. As a Catholic woman I remained faithful. (Question by someone else)
2006-11-03 15:47:49 · 10 answers · asked by Diddle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am very sorry for the pain that you go through~I understand the hurt you are feeling~however, my cheater has not passed away, he is just avoiding me and will not stand up for what he has done~I caught him~I loved (love) him very much and had done everything for him~I still love him~but I know that I deserve better, and I still believe once a cheater always a cheater~I always thought every man was a cheater and a liar~until I met him, some how he made me believe that there was hope for men yet~now I know that I was right to begin with~I can not seem to understand how people hurt others and seem to have no remorse for what they have done~it is like it has never happen to them~they are right you are wrong no room for discussion~I will go back and retrieve the rest of my belongings this Sunday~and I will walk out of our home with no explanation~no sign of remorse~no answers to what happened~for the very last time~I will try to pick up my pieces of life that I have left~and knowing that I have made the right choice no matter how much my heart wants other wise~I have self respect because I know I am better than that~so I must over look all of the pain I am in and try to fix my life for a new beginning~so must you~have faith that god will show you a better path to lead~this path with all of the unanswered questions is not the path for you~just keep faith and never lose hope~I wish you the best~ :)
2006-11-03 16:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by click 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about that...well there are guys out there that are just jackasses and do stupid things like that. I personally can't see why someone would mess something up that is so good. But i guess nothings perfect right. There must have been some flaws in him, maybe nothing you did its probably his feelings left, you would ask how would someones feelings just get up and walk lol, but its uncontrolable i guess..it can be good and be the best feeling ever, or we will be sad and hurt and left with questions of why? I always told my self that i would never put my full feelings in a relationship until i know! for sure that she is the right one... but even that is not perfect i can still get hurt. I hope you are not prejudice to guys cuz not all of them are bad. They are a few that make our gender look bad.
2006-11-03 15:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by anthony h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is what i think. most likely he didn't mess around on you and was coming down with alshimers. thats what it sounds like to me. if he came home and acted like nothing happened. he could have been in that state of mind where he thought your kids were small enough for the clothes he was trying to buy. try to remember the good times you two had together and your beautiful children he gave to you. dont beat yourself up about this. i so know what its like to lose the ones you love. i lost my mother back in 1990 when i was 9 and my grandfather in 2001. its hard and it takes time to heal. if you want to feel better about this you can as weird as this sound always write a letter to him explaining how you feel. try to go out and meet some people too. good luck hun and i wish the best for you.
2006-11-03 16:10:53 · answer #3 · answered by babyvoice69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats sad, but you need to move on and know after all those years you did have a wonderful marriage regardless of minor things like this. you should think about the good times you had with him and not the negative times. he must've been a good husband to you if you stayed together for so long. focus on the good times like the first day you met and your wedding day etc. and if you want maybe say a prayer and incl. him in it and tell him your sorry and how you feel. even writing it down helps like your writing a letter to him.seal it then put it in your draw til your ready.
2006-11-03 16:05:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all you are beating yourself up and jumping to conclusions.
Just because a man doesn't want to have sex sometime it doesn't mean that they are having intercourse with someone else.
What did he do with the baby clothes? Did you ever see them? Maybe they were for someone at work? WHo knows.
Know that he loved you and you loved him. Keep the good memories and get rid of the bad.
2006-11-03 15:54:23 · answer #5 · answered by sshazzam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband cheated on me 10 years ago not a day goes by that I don't think about it.It hurt so bad I prayed to GOD to please don't let me wake up.I stayed with him but I made it clear I would NEVER,NEVER forgive him as long as I live and I haven't.I love my husband but keep him at arms length I won't let myself be hurt like that again.Maybe you are better off not knowing the whole story because the more you no the madder you get at your self and him .At yourself for not believing your own instance and him for hurting you
2006-11-03 16:31:51 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did no longer contain the juiciest one...different halves, admire and OBEY your husbands and that form of questioning and mentality belongs lower back on the hours of darkness a while. to each and each his/her very own, yet i'm a guy and that i do no longer locate the thought of patriarchy particuarlarly pleasing yet regrettably, that's an component to a e book that thousands and thousands international regard as being divinely written. there is plenty with reference to the christian faith customarily it is amazingly helpful and easily shows human beings the thank you to be greater desirable human beings yet any form of questioning that relegates women persons to a subservient place has no place or relevance in today's society. in basic terms my opinion.
2016-10-03 06:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care if you're nintey-five you need to get out and get you sum
2006-11-03 15:52:38 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thanks for sharing your story. It's refreshing to read something as personal and truthful as what you wrote.
2006-11-03 16:04:55 · answer #9 · answered by kam_1261 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tsk, tsk , tsk...you don't get it?...It's all about sex.
2006-11-03 15:49:22 · answer #10 · answered by alandicho 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋