we were together for 4 years and we got a baby gurl named sophia and she will be 2 november 11th and he used t beat the **** out of me and he told me i cant bring no man around my baby cause he dont want her callin some otha ***** daddy and i need to know what i should do and he also wants to get back wit me and i dont know what to do
2006-11-03 15:43:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i am still in luve wit him dough i need a guys perspective
2006-11-03 16:05:01 · update #1
You'd be stupid to go back with him. If he beats you it will only be a matter of time before he starts hitting your daughter, and you don't want that. And your daughter doesn't need to see her daddy hitting her mommy, it will give her a bad outlook on relationships and life. So then someday she will go into an abusive relationship, because she thinks that is how it is supposed to be. I would find your self a good guy who will love you and your daughter and forget about her father, and if he trys something call the cops.
2006-11-03 15:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to control you.
If he used to beat you why or you even wasting your energy asking what you should do???
You are not with him and he can't tell you, who can be around unless he really feels that individual is a threat to your daughter.
She won't call anyone else daddy if he treats her how is supposed. If he doesn't let their relationship go sour she will never forget who daddy. If he leaves the picture or slacks off then he should worry.
Now that you two are apart. His only focus should be on you all's daughter. No matter who are what you do unless it effects his child is the only time he has the right to step. Until that day come I say F^%$ him.
Do you and don't worry. And if you are that fearful you need to let people you trust know the situation so they can assist you if the need arises
I feel that he is full of crap and is a punk!
Be strong and best regards!
2006-11-03 15:51:48 · answer #2 · answered by sweetcincylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT GO BACK TO HIM! If you don't care any more about yourself, do not put that baby into that kind of a situation. There is help out there for you and her. Take help wereever you can get it. Just do not go back. They all promise to get better and few ever do. I would try to relocate as far from him as possible and in the mean time see about an order of protection against him. The local police department can help you. You have the right to persue a relationship with whom you choose, so long as they don't harm you or your child. By your child being in an enviroment of abuse, physical, mental,sexual or verbal or even just a witness to abuse, this will damage your child forever and have serious ramifications for her. You deserve better and so does that baby. Good Luck and Seek HELP PS. For a funny yet very true outlook on this, Rent - Madea's Family Reunion
2006-11-03 15:47:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know what I think, I think you are too good to be with someone like that, I think that you could do better. I am not trying to tell you what to do but I think that you should get a restraining order against him, because I think when a man hits a women it is wrong and a crime. You really don't need to be in a relationship like that, just think of that little girl. No child should go threw that. You shouldn't go threw that. You don't need him girl. Best of luck to you.
2006-11-03 15:47:46 · answer #4 · answered by jessicaball2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you already know not to get back with him. If he's violent, it's best to respect his choice to not have other men around his child. If you're going out with other guys, make sure the baby is not with you just in case. But if you ever get married, he's going to have to accept your decision - as the child gets older, they will be able to know the difference between their father and the new guy. I hope everything works out for you!
2006-11-03 15:45:45 · answer #5 · answered by мooи sнiиe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get some help.
How can you possibly love a guy who would hit you at all, let alone beat the * out of you?
If he threatens that sort of thing, you need to go to the police.
Get a restraining order against him.
2006-11-03 16:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting a restraining order against him. Any more threats report it. If later down the road anything happens those reports are the ONLY thing that will hold up in court. GET MY DRIFT?
2006-11-03 16:01:04 · answer #7 · answered by tqpinklady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him, talk to DHS and get child support, and get away from thugs. Find a real man to be a father for your child, not some little boy. I am willing to bet that a real man will adjust his attitude too the first time he shows up saying stuff like that. I sure would........and enjoy it.
2006-11-03 15:45:36 · answer #8 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hell no! Girl you don't deserve to beaten on by no man. If he can't respect you as the mother of his then his child then he doesn't deserve to be with you. Do you really want your daughter to see you that way. Tell his *** no. If he wont let you live your life then take his "i wanna beat on the mother of my child ***" to court. You are a queen and you deserve to be treated like one.
2006-11-03 15:51:40 · answer #9 · answered by nelle7287 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was wrong for him to hit you and of course you should not get back with him.You should be able to date other guys tell him if he threatens you again you wont let him see his baby or your going to report him.
2006-11-03 15:46:02 · answer #10 · answered by abelssexywifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋