i have tried everything to get my family and friends back in my life .i had choosen the wrong choice of choosen my partner over them.please tell me how i can win them back thank u.i have tried everything.now i dont know what to do .do u think they will ever forgivem me ?
2006-11-03 15:21:08 · 14 answers · asked by darkangel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Kind of have been in your situation. My dad said my ex-boyfriend stole stuff from him. I took my ex-boyfriends side. That was dumb. I took a long time for them to gain there trust back in me. Ask them what to do and do it. Prove to them it will never happen again. They will come back around. Trust me it just takes time. So be patient.
2006-11-03 15:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will probably have to rebuild the relationship slowly....especially if there are a lot of hurt feelings; and/or anger about some stuff that went on.
The first thing you can do is make the initial move. If your parents are still living together, call them up, ask them if you can come over and talk. If they live separately, call them individually and ask them if you can come over and talk to them in their respective homes.
If they don't want to talk right now. Write them each a letter,...and pour your heart out. Let them know you made a mistake, but you still love them. Make sure they know how much your miss and love them.
[I am assuming you are no longer involved with the person who was causing a problem. If the person is still in your life, this is going to be very hard.]
Best wishes, I am sure your family will come around in time.
2006-11-03 15:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course they will forgive you. You don't say when this all happened but some things take longer to workout. They probably feel that you have abandoned them in favour of you partner.
Go and see them or at least phone and let them know how you are feeling and how much you miss and love them and that you want to be in their lives. If you have already tried phoning or visiting then write to them. Don't give up, keep contacting them on a weekly basis and they should see how much you care about them.
I wish you the best of luck.
2006-11-03 15:30:44 · answer #3 · answered by Born a Fox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your family loves you they will understand and want to be a part of your life.
No one should have to choose but who knows what your circumstances were at the time and why you picked the partner over family. Just tell them you made a mistake and could not see it then and you have learned from your mistake. Let them know you never meant to hurt them and you just want to be part of the family again. I wish you the best of luck.. This has to be hard..
2006-11-03 15:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by lisa_sonydadc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are your family and it will take time but they will come back. I know from experience they always come back. and if they don't then maybe your are better off with out them. I made a similar choice and my mother will not speak to me and has in 4 mths. Family is suppose to love you no matter what and if they can't understand that then maybe you don't need them
2006-11-03 15:25:47 · answer #5 · answered by greatmom2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
at the time u chose what u thought was right,even though it turned out to be a bad choice,being that u have tried every thing to get them back thats all u can do,dont go kissing thier asses to get them back, u r better then that it will all work out in the end,and they will eventually forgive or forget
2006-11-03 15:29:27 · answer #6 · answered by artcherman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them youre really really sorry, im pretty sure they will forgive you, come on youre their blood.I'm sure your parents know you didn't mean to hurt them, they should understand that when a person is in love you dont care about anyone else but you and your loved one, when your in love nothing else matters.Dont worry they will forgive you sooner or later, everyone makes mistakes.
2006-11-03 15:27:38 · answer #7 · answered by abelssexywifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure. They proabaly were deeply hurt when you picked your partner over them. They have been there to support you and you chose your partner. You should try and make it up to them and show them that you know it was a horrible mistake and you will never do it again.
2006-11-03 15:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by Some Girl from College 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't stop trying. Keep on trying to win their hearts, so that they'll know that you're trying to atone. Be sincere, and Be patient. And you can try to trigger the memorie of the good times that you had together with them.Good Luck.
p/s- people's heart can never be petrified, just keep on trying and they'll surely melt
2006-11-03 15:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
they are family of course they will forgive you, it takes time though, my sister did the same thing to my family and still doesn't want anything to do with us, but Ive already forgiven her. you know, they probably want to forgive you but they are to hurt right now. I know I was. just give it time I'm certain they will come around. but if they don't, then you are better off, I know that's harsh but if you cant forgive your imperfect family, then not only are they not good and loving family but they don't deserve you.hope something good come of it..... is this Hillary...prolly not... Bye
2006-11-03 15:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by KatieJB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋