Married man...?

Question

I am having problems finding my answer to this anywhere online, so I decided to ask you guys. I know a guy who is great-he's smart, funny, musically inclined, just an awesome guy in general. Ok, so here's the situation. He's married, but from what I hear, its not a good marriage, and he might be looking into divorce very soon. I am extremely infatuated with this guy, even though I know its wrong, I feel I can justify it because nothing has really happend, except he took me out for drinks a few times.

Now, my question is, how can I tell if he is interested in me? Seeing as he is married, I assume there are different rules?

Well I know what not to do, I'm not going to make any moves until after the divorce is final, but I want to know if he is interested. Like should I look for any signals or signs...?

Ok, ALSO, I never told him anything about how I feel or kissed him or anything, so I did nothing wrong. You can't help who you fall in love with, my only question was how to tell if he's interested or not? Because if he's not, I'm going to move on. And if he is, then I'm not going to do anything about it until he's single. I just want him to be happy, whether that means him staying married or them getting a divorce.

Answer 1

look if he likes you .. then wait till he divorces his wife and you should be the first one he runs to.

Answer 2

Boy oh boy. Let that guy get through one marriage will ya? Here's the deal - first of all, his marriage is off-limits to you. Leave him alone. If he does get divorced, don't you be the reason. Cuz if he leave her for you, he will eventually leave you for someone else... and you'll always be worried about that. You'll KNOW he is a cheater. Now. If he DOES get divorced, the best thing you can do is be there for him as a friend. If it is meant to be something more in the future when he is SINGLE, then it will develop with NO guilt. Be glad that nothing has happened, cuz that means he has SOME integrity!! So, let the infatuation (I am so glad you know the difference!) be just that. And be patient. If it is meant to be, it will happen. And you'll know it happened in the right time and in the right way.

Answer 3

You are not at fault for dating a sinner. But you need to find a single man. You are just telling what you want the public to know. You should not involve yourself in his marriage. Nowadays divorce looks good, but the law says, "Thou shalt not commit adultery" If you are a christian you will forget about it. Sex has its own mind. If you want some of that, go stand on the corner, make a little money on the side. Don't forget the rubbers. I'm not drunk, I'm answering your question. Let's get real. You know what is wrong. How would you like someone doing that with your husband? Going out for a drink. I wonder if she was out with her man? Do they have agreement for outside relationships. Because my ex-boyfriends sister does that. I asked her how could you do that? She said easy as long as he doesn't bring anything home, i.e, disease, aides. You know stuff!

If you marry this man, will he be faithful to you? Same likes, same differences. Every hole is round. It just has different faces on it. What does he want with you that his wife can't do? I'm being as frank as possible. Some men tell you what they want you to know. If you talked with her you would probably get another story. Good luck with your mixed up relationship since you really don't know what he is thinking.

He's a good player. He's playing married and single. If you really want to find out the truth, ask him to pay rent or your mortgage, the phone bill, light bill, gas bill and buy groceries. He won't come back anymore. You will have your answer. If he does come back that means he is preparing for divorce and moves in with you where he spent his money.

I asked my daddy a question one day. If you want to know about a man, ask a man.

I said, "Daddy, how do you know when a man truly loves you?" He said, "When a man truly loves a woman, it is the woman that he is with. He will never leave her."

Answer 4

first of all i think if you really care about this guy you should wait for him to get divorced or ask him if he is getting divorced before you push the issue any further because just because a marriage is haveing troubles people can have second thoughts and fix things im just telling you this because you dont want to get involved in something like that and get your heart broke second thing is just tell him (when all is said and done) how you feel. You just might find that he took you out for drinks because he likes you too after all every relationship has to start somewhere.

Answer 5

You know what, you should walk away from this man. He is MARRIED! Put yourself in his wifes position, you wouldn't want this done to you. From what you hear he is not in a good marriage, well maybe/maybe not, but this doesn't change the fact that he is married. If you are any kind of person you would respect his wife and yourself enough to move on. If he gets a divorce later on and looks you up, then it becomes a different story. Don't be a home wrecker or help to wreck it.

Answer 6

He is MARRIED!You shouldn't even want to know if he is interested!It don't matter if the marriage has already started to end with the papers started!Until they are signed you should stay away!What goes around comes around!Even if you to marry this guy it'll probably happen to you too!If you were to marry someone else,how would you feel if there was another women digging her claws into him waiting for him to make a move?Lusting over a married man is a sin,and him doing the same is a sin too!It is adultery"even if you haven't done anything but looked in a lusting way!

Answer 7

The fact that he is MARRIED means he is definately out of bounds. How would you like it if your husband was taking another women out for drinks.How the hell do you justify that. You know women like you give us decent women a bad name.I actually know a woman like you and are you all that desperate that you can't find your own men , you have to go about chasing men who should be home with there own wives. You know l just hope that you get your own back one day, Then you will know how it feels first hand. If he is showing interest it will probably be because he is a creep or maybe he feels sorry for you or then again perhaps he just thinks you are easy or you would not have gone out with him in the first place especially knowing he was married. I just wish l knew his wife so l could fill her in on whats been happening. Grow up. Get your own man.

Answer 8

Yes the rules are different. When you want to date a married man who says his marriage is on the rocks and he is seeking a divorce you must call his wife and confirm.

If they were not getting a divorce they probably will be now, then it is Ok to date him.

Answer 9

Yes, there are different rules. Hes married and the rule is, HES OFF LIMITS!! He might be interested in you, but just for a booty call. If it were more than that, he would be at least separated from her. If he cheats on her, he will cheat on you too. Stay away!! The fact that his marriage is on the rocks, is not a green light for you.

Answer 10

Seeing as how he's married, the rules are "KEEP OUT" and "NO TRESSPASSING"!!!!
No married man should be taking out ANY OTHER WOMAN "for drinks a few times"...no way, no how.

You are in dangerous waters, girlie. Dangerous. No swimming. Posted: sharks.
"It's not a good marriage" yeah, they all say that--"my wife doesnt understand me", "we're only together for the kids", "I'm going to file papers as soon as....dot dot dot", and the best one "we havent had sex/slept in the same room/dinner/etc in years".
Sound familiar?
Go home, wash your hands, turn off your phones and turn on PBS very loud and STAY HOME!

Answer 11

Forget what you've heard about his marriage being on the rocks. He is still married. I would say he probably does lilke you and is interested in you. When a married seeks the company of a woman who is not his wife. He is interested in having desires filled that he is not getting at home. My advise to you is to leave it alone. Don't short change yourself. Let him work out his drama and continue to be his friend. Good luck to you..........