we were fine intill one night my husband said he wanted a divorce, he claimes there is no one else how ever two weeks later he was caught with a ho making out. It was the same girl he told me he liked before we got married. U think she was there all along, or had any thing to do with it?
2006-11-03 14:44:48 · 21 answers · asked by lady wisdom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah most likely they already had a thing going on before you got married.Confront him tell him to be a man and say the truth.You dont need him if he already kissed someone hes probably going to keep doing it and maybe worse things.
2006-11-03 14:48:27 · answer #1 · answered by abelssexywifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants a divorce because of this woman,and she has everything to do with it.she is pulling all of the strings. they always claim there is no one else,just incase they want to come back, they won't have burned all of their bridges.but he has betrayed u, cheated on you, and has picked her over you. as much as it hurts, give him the divorce as fast as u can,u will never be able to trust this man again. if it were not for her presence in your marriage maybe he wouldn't be asking you for a divorce now. just be glad he showed his true character to u, we often can see a man's true character in times when there is trouble in a marriage, cowards cut and run, and find someone else, real men stay and put effort in their marriage, and try harder. u got a looser, and the sooner u get out of it the better u will feel. this woman is doing u a favor,she has the problem now, not u. leave this marriage with dignity, with your head held high, and find a good man, and do well in life, and when he sees u it will hurt him in the end, when he sees what he has lost. never let them see u cry or plead because u won't win any respect from him or the other woman.she has been plotting and planning this all along, and he doesn't have to work on your marriage, cause he already has someone.
2006-11-03 22:59:07 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! She was there the whole time. I ams o sorry, but she'll get hers, believe me. I know someone who broke up a 9 year marriage where there were two kids ages 8 and 6 left behind. She actually even moved into their old house after they married and lo and behold, three years later and two back to back pregnancies (two kids under 1 year old) he left her for a newer model...
2006-11-03 22:52:59 · answer #3 · answered by mattysmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She had to be there for a little while. depending on how long you have been together, but more than likly the last few months of your relationship, there was something going on. At on level or another. You don't leave a marriage, then two weeks later be with someone unless you have been doing something.
2006-11-03 22:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by joseph c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not have been there all along in the physical way, but she's obviously been there all along in his heart & mind... otherwise, he wouldn't have said he wants a divorce & they wouldn't have been caught together like that.
2006-11-03 22:58:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she was there the WHOLE time! I'm sorry hun thats gotta be hard, but at least you wern't the one at falt at the Judgement day he'll have to pay for that.
2006-11-03 22:46:18 · answer #6 · answered by dimondbacks7 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is one that you will probably never know the answer to sweetie.my advice move on and try to be the bigger person .remember no one can turn a hoe into a housewife and if he did it to u the home-wrecker will get hers .good luck i know the pain your going threw .
2006-11-03 22:58:26 · answer #7 · answered by tiffanyh2323 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on the situation really. but if he brought up the idea unprovoked and he was caught in a compromising position. then it is possible that it was going on longer than he was letting on.
2006-11-03 22:47:04 · answer #8 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should never have married you and yes he's been seeing her all along.
She's not the reason you're marriage broke up....he's the reason, so make sure you blame the right person.
He's pond-scum and you should have better in your life.
2006-11-03 22:51:40 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah most probably was...but if not..what does it matter? He wants out and that won't change a thing..move on with your life..there's many BETTER fish out there..promise..
2006-11-03 22:53:23 · answer #10 · answered by marleyanne b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋