I am very unhappy but am afraid to leave my home because I am afraid that financially I cannot make it on my own, how many 54 year old married women out there feel the same way that I do? I have been married 131/2 years.
2006-11-03 14:36:20 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I want to thank everyone who answered my delema. I guess I should have added that I do have a son that is 13 years old with ADHD, he has been a great challenge to me as my first two children were never with problems or attitudes as this child is.
2006-11-03 15:01:29 · update #1
I've been miserably married for 7 years now...don't know what to do..have nowhere else to go...same boat as you..if you get an answer..please let me know..
2006-11-03 14:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by marleyanne b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear of your unhappiness! I am not 54 only 33 but I was married for 13 years and regardless of your age it is all sooooo scary!!! I was terrified, mother of two young boys and only a high school education, well I am still scared. My spouse left me a year ago and helps out very little only when he feels like it is due. After 10 years of marriage you are entitled to things like pensions, alimony etc. I found a lot of support in my church and friends. If you need help financially take a line of credit out to help you along the way until maybe and I say maybe you find someone worthy enough to be with you. But don't suffer emotionally because you are afraid finanacially. You can do it. This is what I had to tell myself and it is very sad but I did and still do...I have to pretend he passed away and this is the same situation I would be in if he were killed, in a coma etc. It is just a coping mechanism. Good luck!!
2006-11-03 14:42:33 · answer #2 · answered by One Of The Girls 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I fell the same way. I have also been with my husband for 13 yrs (married at 17). So, what do you do? Do you spend the rest of your days miserable? Or do you focus on making it on your own? Where there is a will, there is always a way. Research. Plan. Save. Start a secret account if you have to, there are ways. Don't be afraid. Be determined.
2006-11-03 14:43:09 · answer #3 · answered by shellese2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you how many miserable married women I know (i'm a divorced man. I was miserable and got out). It's sad. You have to do what's right for you. What's the point of leading a miserable life? You're already 54 years old. Life is SHORT and you only get one go around. Take care of yourself, and don't be afraid.
2006-11-03 16:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by californiarad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were truly miserable you would find a way to make it on your own.
There are ads everyday in the newspaper with people looking for someone to share a home or an apartment.
I've been very lucky....I've been married and happy to the some guy for over 30 years...but if I was unhappy I would leave.
2006-11-03 14:40:37 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am not near that old yet but know not to ever be dependant on anyone that way. to where i am stuck in any type of relationship. you could have alot of hush money by now in those 13 & 1/2 yrs. even if you tuck away five dollars more to your stash on the weeks you feel have so little. good luck
2006-11-03 14:41:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 05:45:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was married 10 years, not a spring chicken anymore, so i did not confront him when we had difficulties, but he ended up finding someone younger. now i am sorry i wasted all those years on this man, giving, trying, keeping quiet, only to get kicked to the curb anyway. so personally if someone is hurting u,even if your afraid of going it on your own,it is often best to get out of it if your unhappy.
2006-11-03 14:44:50 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you unhappy then you shouldnt be there. because you will be more stress out and unhappy. i think you can make it on your on. dont depend on a man. you are strong and healthy and ect. if you have too. then get a second job. but think about your self first ok. make you self happy. good luck
2006-11-03 14:40:53 · answer #9 · answered by Melda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That hard to say!Especially with children.My biggest problem is not the money"even though I know I would probably be very low income!Its not having my daughter everyday.!!
2006-11-03 16:35:09 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋