Dancing and dating help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Question

Our school dance was tonight. I didn't have the guts to slow dance with her. When I did get the guts to slow dance with her the song ended when we got in there. What should i do? Should I move onto someone else and tell her it is me not her, should I see if she is mad at me, or should i just tell her i wasn't quite ready to slow dance. I didn't have the guts to dance woth her any other song. Except for the cha-cha slide. I need help. Someone at my lunch table said that i get all the girls, I told him tonight that i was having a lot of trouble getting the guts to slow dance with her. I need some dancing tips. I can't really bend a whole lot even though I am young.

Answer 1

it's hard to dance when you're growing up fast. tall people, specially have this problem. you need to feel like you're expressing yourself when you dance. the moves will flow.
do excersize, skating, sports, etc so your muscles are more flexible.
enroll in a gym, take aerobic classes, etc
or wait until you stop growing up. if you are confident girls will fall for you, no mater if you dance or not.

Answer 2

Tell her the truth. I think that (almost) EVERYONE can dance, but are just shy. I remember the first time I danced...I don't want to talk about it, lol. But now...you should see. I get down crazy with the beats. I feel really confident and wish i can go back in time to dance my legs out on those other opportunities, like the one you just had. I'm going to tell you this too, don't be afraid to shake your booty.
My soon to be Brother-in-law is the same way you are, and I was too. The best thing i thought him is to listen for the rhythm. The beat is the main thing. look at other people's moves(the coo ones) and try to remember them. Then do them before a mirror. The second time I danced (in my prom) I was getting down better then....alot. and this last week i was in a 15 of some chick and I was getting crazy, and no I wasn't drunk. I started a circle and everything...freestying.
Anyways, you should get an adrenaline and have the time of your life while dancing. i would dance in my house for no reason.
Tell her about your feelings that stopped you from dancing. Girls like to teach boys how to dance.

Answer 3

I remember you. I saw you in the mirror 15 years ago! I thought I'd NEVER get to dance with girls. Now I TEACH it!

See Napoleon Dynamite? Get a video from Amazon.com or youtube. or better yet take some dance classes. Swing is fun. Salsa is my specialty and that is oh so much fun. Even ballroom is fun. Slow dancing is nice, and really really really easy and it most certainly is a REAL dance.

Here's what you do at this early stage. You put your right hand on her left shoulder blade. Cup her right hand in your left hand. Pull her in towards you. If she knows how to dance, she will push away. That's creates the connection that you need in order to lead. If she doesn't know how to dance and she comes in closer then move your right hand to the other side of her back. Hey! She's agreed to come closer! What are you complaining about! Take a deep breath and relax. Just sway from left to right to the beat. Easy! Then go around (slowly) in a circle. Probably clockwise.

And why should she be mad at you? Don't bring it up unless she seems standoffish. And why give up and move onto another girl? Do you like her? You give up too easily. Be a man and take the embarrassment.

Shoot!! Take her to dance class!!!! What a great date! And get into a weekly class. Great way to start a relationship.

You are very lucky that you are young. I learned to dance way too late. But you, if you do it now, you will have a lifetime of dancing. Great for dating. Great for meeting girls. And it's the best method I have ever run into to figuring out the fairer sex. I've learned a LOT more about women with my 3 years of dancing with them than with 30 years of trying to date them.

Answer 4

tell her the truth, chances are that she'll appreciate you being honest and it makes you sound a little shy, which a lot of girls would think is cute/sweet.as for the dancing tips, slow dancing is simple. Put your hands on her waist and rock side to side with the music. Most dances play a lot of hip hop. Switch your weight from one leg to another. Move your shoulders with it. "rock with it, roll with it" don't break up with her just because you don't think you're good at dancing.

Answer 5

In your own home preferably in your room turn on the music channels find the songs that you like and watch how they move after a couple of days try the moves and just relax nobody is watching you.As for the girl she most likely knows that you were nervous so don't sweat it, after you learn a few moves ask her if she would like to go on a date then show her what you have learned by dancing with her.

Answer 6

ok, first of all, how old are u? if youre liek 13 or 15 its ok. i mean, slow dancing is no big deal unless u really want to. i almost never slow dance and i get a lot of chics too. however, if u choose to back out of the dancefloor once the songs start mellowing down, you should not like just act all sober and sh*t. like when u back out of slowdancing, immediately find something else to occupy yourself with so that you dont look like a loser or something. its just that you have to make it seem you're too cool for slow dancing. if you really want to slow dance with your special lady, ask her "excuse me, would you like to dance?" or something like that. the most important thing is to act cool and be confident.

Answer 7

You should just tell her u're afraid to dance with her, girls prefer honesty. Besides she might share the same insecurities as you. She might also not be much of a dancing person, me for example I never dance at partys. Good luck talking to her and don't worry so much.

Answer 8

Slow dancing doesn't take much skill. I am of the opinion that it is not really dancing. The same goes for bumping and grinding. The point of dancing is to have fun, and both of you should have fun doing it. If you think it is akward and it leads to you not wanting to talk to your date anymore, then you should probably not dance like that anymore.

I managed not to slow dance with any of the girlfriends I had in grade school (except for prom which sucked).

Eventually, dancing will not be a big deal for you. It may feel like the first time you get on a roller coaster, but eventually it becomes the only thing that you do at an amusement park.
When you talk to this girl, make sure that you aren't feeling nervous. Being nervous can make her nervous! Once you have thought about the whole situation enough, you will be fine. You obviously won't have to dance again. If you tell her that you are interested in dancing but the whole thing is really akward she will probably agree with you. This shouldn't be a reason to "move on". Continue to talk to this girl and you won't feel embarassed about the situation. She is probably as embarassed as you are.

Dancing is mostly about attitude. If you feel confident and enjoy the music and its rhythm, you will learn quickly. Most people do not know how to dance very well because they do not do it often. If you happened to take classes or dance at home in front of a mirror, you will become better than 95% of people.

I watched MTV in an attempt to learn how to dance before a middle school dance. A girl I danced with there laughed at me and I felt crushed (and I didn't dance through the rest of high school). When I was 19, a girlfriend of mine wanted to go to a dance club, I went with her and again I was laughed at (and she broke up with me soon after that). I was so angry that I began to dance every night in front of a large window that functioned like a mirror in the dark. About a year later, I entered a dating game at college where I had to dance in front of a hundred people. I danced and everyone went wild screaming and applauding. It was the first time I danced infront of a large group of people without getting laughter. After that, I started going to dance clubs ALL the time, including swing and salsa. Now, I don't care if I have 1000 people watching me. If there is no one on the dance floor, I will get out there and do it. I have people coming up to me every time I go out to say what a great dancer I am.

My advice to you is to take this importance you put on dancing and have it motivate you to become an excellent dancer. I am sure you would love the feeling of random girls coming up to you and complementing you on your dancing ability. The fact is that most men do not know how to dance and do not care about it, but most women love dancing. You can understand the potential here. Take any kind of dance class if you can, even if it is something like tap or ballet. or even take karate classes. The coordination, balance, and strength that you develop will help you to learn club dancing easier. If you can take modern dance classes, even better. If you can't do those, practice in front of a mirror listening to your favorite songs. If you do something that looks cool in a mirror, chances are that other people will think it looks cool too. MTV is a good source for dance moves, and many people post tutorials on youtube.com.

The more you dance, the better and more confident you will get. I am a hundred times better now than I was that first time everyone was screaming and clapping at the dating contest years ago.

Getting the guts to do something is tough, but you will be glad when you do. But dont be hard on yourself if you don't end up having the guts to do it. It's not as intense as you think it is. You don't "have to" do anything when it comes to dating. do what you are comfortable with and it will be fun. Make sure she is comfortable too! If you freak out about something, the girl can freak out too!

You should definitely talk to her. She will agree with you if you talk about how dancing is cool, but it is weird to be expected to do it when it is something that we do maybe once a year with no practice. You can totally look at this in a way where you won't feel bad at all.

Use this opportunity to learn, it is so much fun and you will have a skill for your entire life that others will be envious of, and which girls will give you lots of attention.

Answer 9

Tell her the truth....which is you dont no how to dance!

Answer 10

Tell her the truth, dude. Chicks dig that ****.