I have been seeing this guy for a month now.
Lately I been feeling like if I did not go to his room or call him we would never see eachother. We live in the same dorm at school. Im 2 floors above!
He says that its because he does not want me to be insecure.
Sometimes I dont call him or go see him because I feel like he will get tired of me. Thats my insecurity.
He says that if he was tired of me he would tell me.
so he doesnt call or come see me because it forces me to go see him, so that way insecurites will stop. I feel like its making it worse. Im actually feeling like he doesnt care whether he sees me or not.
what i mean by force is, that i wont go see or call him for a while that way if he really has feelings for me and wants to see me, he will be forced to come find me.
what should I do?
2006-11-03 14:18:25 · 6 answers · asked by Tian 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
What's with guys these days? Why are they so passive? Is it something that we females have done? I'm just thinking outloud.
Don't play games with him. You will only make yourself uncomfortable because you will be thinking about him the whole time. Believe him when he says he is not tired of you. Believe him unless there is a reason not to.
2006-11-03 14:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by Lalalalalala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First know this; You teach people how to treat you. While you devote your efforts to pursuing him, some other guy who really wants to be with you is waiting in the wings afraid to approach you because of your interest in this guy. If he was genuinely interested he would pursue you also. Love yourself and allow a guy ,which may really care, an opportunity. A college campus offers many activities and opportunities for fun and socializing.
Get out of the dorm and have fun, meet new people and most importantly love and respect yourself. Oh, and don't neglect your studies. (It's a Dad thing)
2006-11-03 22:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by big dawg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it goes both ways. it cant be one person to do all the affectionate-ness. ha. my word.
if you dont talk about this to him and bring up the issue about who isnt doing what and why... then its just going to get boring between the two of you because youre going to yearn for somebody who will give you attention. if you two really want to be together then let things happen as they come. you cant predict insecurity until you feel it and that's when you talk about it to come up with a resolution.
youre in college. not high school. end the unecessary drama.
2006-11-03 22:34:38 · answer #3 · answered by bjperez07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys like a challenge... right now, you aren't a challenge. You are predictable at this point. Don't ignore him or blow him off...but do get into other things in your life. That way he'll have reasons to want to find you. Don't play games...but don't be too available. Make sense? Hope so... and good luck.
2006-11-03 22:22:28 · answer #4 · answered by B L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to initiate contact with this individual all of the time, then to me it really sounds as though he doesn't care. If he truly cared about you, he would be going out of his way to see you everyday instead of YOU seeking him out. Don't contact him for awhile and see if he will come to you. Good luck!
2006-11-03 22:22:12 · answer #5 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you like him? Don't play games. Just tell him what you want and give him the opportunity to do it or not.
2006-11-03 22:44:29 · answer #6 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋