Married without sex?

Question

I am married and with a baby. I have not had sex for the past 1 year.....should I tolerate or.........?

Answer 1

Tolerate or what? What's the "or what"? No sex for a year?? OMG...! Most wouldn't still be there guy! You are tough!!! Do you masturbate or what? I feel for you! Have you talked to her??

Answer 2

actually james it is common for this to happen after the birth of a baby. there are several changes in the womans body that affect her hormone levels. it takes a lot for a girl to get turned on when her hormones are wacked out. she is probably tired and focused on your baby and really isn't thinking about sex because the stimuli isn't there for her. try being ultra romantic....with a baby sitter so she doesn't have that to fall back on. you will have to work at reminding her what is great about sex with you. good luck....do all the stuff she likes and make the night all about her. i bet you will make a huge impression.
if not..then maybe you should get some counseling...or perhaps a hooker. =)

Answer 3

Wow, you could be my ex! He figured since he was working, he needed to do nothing for the baby, the older kids, the house, etc. I had a job making twice as much money and was doing EVERYTHING at home. He took a nap after dinner so he was raring to go. I had middle of the night duty. If you are him, take a look in the mirror, sweet Baby James, and you'll see why you haven't had sex. Your wife is EXHAUSTED. You know what to do.

Answer 4

A lot of women lose interest is sex once a child is born, the worst thing you could do is go and accuse her of having an affair. She more than likely needs a counselor to talk with, women go threw a lot of hormonal changes that are real, and not something she is making up, if you love her and want your marriage to work, try helping her before accusing her...

Answer 5

Do not tolerate it at all!!! Find out why she isn't giving you any. See if it can be fixed. Work on it and then get some!!! No sex usually ends up with no relationship.

Answer 6

I dont know about that, like you i have been suffering in the sex department, but i dont know if i could go a year without especially being married... have u talked with your spouse?

Answer 7

Um sex is a way of sharing your love with the one you love that's why its also called making love. you need to talk to your partner about this and maby get counseling. 1 year is a long maby your relationship needs some communication maby your other is cheating on you maby your other feels disgusted about there self you guys need to talk and maby some counseling but do something about this now.

Answer 8

I'm a women and something changes after you have a baby. I don't know what it is but sex just isn't as appealing. Talk to your wife and remind her your a person to with valid feelings needs and wants. Your emotional mental and physical needs are just as important as hers. Some times we women get a little swept up in our own little worlds and forget that our men are sensitive creatures too.

Answer 9

im in a similar situation with my g/f, except that she gives me a duty screw once every 3-4wks. i hate to say this but once a woman has established the RULE on sex and u have allowed it u are never going to get sex again. don't listen to women say she will come around cuz she won't. so u have to either except it and live sexless except for masturbation, get some on the side or leave.

Answer 10

That isn't something you should tolerate unless there is a reason for celebacy on your partner's part...the best thing to do is first talk to her, then go from there. Maybe she doesn't want another baby!

Answer 11

That's tough, especially for a younger guy, but it is a lot more commom than other guys would let you know ! It will really make you think " How much do I love this woman?"

Only you can answer that but try to get creative in sex and make it playful and fun game for her, > It is hard to say what she is thinking or feeling! Juyst try to get her in to it!