my husband,i feel he is against me everytime his mom and aunt open their mouth.its been like that the whole 4 years weve been married.im so tired abut it.his aunt was watching the kids and took off and left them wth a 12 years old girl.i told her how upset i was about it.and i told her that if she is going to watch my kids shes the one i want to see when i get back.she left the kids with another child and when i went to pick em up his mom was there with them.they told him i had a fit about them being with grandma.and he called with a nasty *** atitude and i got a nasty as letter about it too.i was so upset i wrote him back and told him that if he was going to believe all the bull to for get about me and leave me alone.that i was tired of being part of his family who never been friendly towards me.and ever since hes been in boot camp they have not called or stoped by once to check on the kids.but i feel bad,i love him.should i say i am sorry?i ws upset when i wrote that,but i love him.
2006-11-03 13:53:48 · 10 answers · asked by super girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
they went to the point to hire a private eye to see if i was cheating,while he was gone.and of course they got nothing because i love him and im waiting for him faithfuly.they had him call a sphyquic to see if i was cheating.theyre driving me crazy.and my husband is not helping.
2006-11-03 13:57:33 · update #1
Send him a letter? Dont you dare. He should always back you up - you are the one he is married to. I think you need to find alternate arrangements for babysitting. Quietly, with dignity, make other arrangements. If the grandma and aunty are not respecting your wishes, what makes you think they wont be disrespecting you infront of your kids? Try to put some distance between you and his family, so you and your husband can form your own tight knit unit. Then when you want to, you can see them on your terms. As dr phil says you teach people how to treat you - dont put up with it. Demand a higher standard of behaviour from them.
2006-11-03 14:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, could you please use proper punctuation. It makes my eyes hurt trying to read your story.Secondly, don't apologize for being a good,concerned mom.A 12 year old chid is an okay age for watching 1 or 2 kids; depending on the maturity level.But that is totally up to you.If you apologize now and you know that you are right,you will be apologetic to him even if he does something wrong out of spite,
2006-11-03 14:34:26 · answer #2 · answered by yesmaam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These people sound like the family from hell. Your husband should support you especially where your children are concerned-----not his mom and his aunt. It doesn't sound like he has much of a backbone. You are really the only one who can answer your ? re sending him a ltr. I don't think you have anything to apologize for-----if anything, he should apologize to you. You can still love him w/out sending an "I'm sorry letter." Good luck.
2006-11-03 14:38:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would write a letter and apologize; you should stay together.
However, I would also start making plans asap to move to another town. Get away from his mean family members so that they don't come between the two of you.
2006-11-03 13:58:25 · answer #4 · answered by LiveLifeBeGood 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wowie. This is a tricky. well ifyou love him for sure than you'll wait. they shouldn't be in your way of love and if he proposed to you and wanted to be with you than he would backoff and tell his family to leave you alone and that you have the rights to leave your kids with who you want. Sure, if you love him. Sit down, talk don't write! That isn't a way to tell a guy you love himunless you're in 6th grade and talk. connect. I am sure he loves you back, too. But just wants whats best forhis family and he doesn't see to see that knwo you're in his life, too. Sit down with him tell him how you fell,or course apologize, but don't write that is very childish. Also sit down and talk to his family, tell them how you felt and that you love him and you're waiting for him faithfully and that you want to be loved and accepted in this family. And wants to know who your kids are left with and not with a kid. Good luck and hopefully they'll give you respect. But talk to him first and hoepfully he'll understand. Think. Good luck! We'll keep you in our prayers! Here 2 Help!
2006-11-03 14:04:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think when your husband gets home, you have to sit down and work the in-law situation out. many woman have problems with their mother in laws the first few years of marriage. and you should inform him that him taking sides is not helping the ongoing problems to be worked out. tell him that you will work on your relationship with his mother and aunt,. but he has to inform them that he will no longer take sides between you and them, in front of you. once he lays down the ground rules and stops his mother and aunt from being able to use him. he will find his relationship with you and them improving.
2006-11-03 14:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by redsyoungstud 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you guys need to be together. life is too short to be spent apart. marriage is already difficult without other things to complicate it.
2006-11-03 13:58:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SURE Y NOT GO 4 IT!
2006-11-03 13:59:41 · answer #8 · answered by m@ck 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow im glad i have chosen not to marry
2006-11-03 13:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
you better talk to him anyhow
2006-11-03 13:56:49 · answer #10 · answered by bangla answer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋