I'm so frustrated, my husband blames everything on preggo brain and assumes he's always right.?

Question

I'm getting so frustrated with my husband. He is blaiming me for forgetting things that I know I did not forget. We are having huge fights over this and I don't know what to do. He had my starbucks card and we were out today and I asked for it back to pay for the drink. He told me he gave it back and that I put it in my purse. I know I didn't do this, I remember wondering when he would give it back but didn't make a big deal of it. I've looked through my purse and it isn't in there. I don't even care about the stupid starbucks card, it's the fact that he's blaming all the things he forgot about on my "preggo brain." The other day he told me to take out the garbage because he took it out for me the other day. I know he didn't. I asked him too (I was very sick that night) but he refused to, so I took it out myself. He was mad at me then too because I "forgot" and I should have just done it. I'm at my wits end. He won't even talk about it.

Answer 1

Talk to him about how you feel. If that doesn't work, tell him no one wants to be told they're hormonal. In the future, even if he is convinced something is due to your hormones, tell him to keep it to himself. He's not winning any brownie points with you, and he's not gaining anything by scoring cheap points of a hormonal, crazy pregnant woman (that description is from his point of view you understand). All he's suceeding in doing is making you feel like crap. There is nothing to be gained so he needs to keep his opinions on your hormones to himself.

If that doesn't work, tell him the next time he wants sex that it's just his hormones talking.

Answer 2

My my, does this sound familiar. I was well known in my group of friends for my good memory until I became pg, then my beloved was teling about all the things that I forgot...problem was I hadn't. At first I blew it off, but it did get to be quite nerve racking, and start a lot of arguements. I finally did start intentionally forgeting things that he wanted done....told him that I couldn't help it, I was so stressed over him telling me about things that I was sure I hadn't forgotten, that I felt I was losing my mind. He is not so bad for it now, our youngest is 5 weeks today, but it is still there. I honestly think that it was something to hold over my head and now its a habit. Let him know how upsetting it is, in whatever way you have to, and tell him that you are willing to met him halfway in fixing it. I hope this works for you hun, best wishes...

Answer 3

Your no longer loopy, yet, your husband is a sprint annoying, isn't he? those are small petty arguments and should no longer ensue. no longer a reason to divorce. What your infants desire is to have a father in there lives. As for coaching your infants to be rude, he's disrespecting you. whilst your infants say this, overlook approximately them, your a grown lady, do what's maximum suitable for them. tell your husband which you rather desire him to have been given to counseling with you, and quickly.

Answer 4

Dont get to mad... I give my licecnce to my hubby... i will lose it! He will say he gave me something, and i will know i didnt put it back in my purse, but i will later find out i placed it somewhere along the way of going to put it in my purse. Then when i get to my purse i forget all about it. Tell him to try and help you and not critisise you, have him help you retrace your steps, and when you find out whos wrong, laugh about it, dont yell and get over emotional about a stupid little thing. Pregnacy is very stressfull on the father too, without you knowing it you will give him attitude or be extra barky, just smile, breath, and rememebr, you made a baby cause you love each other... no point to quarreling over little stupid things.

Answer 5

Does he know it upsets you when he blames your pregnancy? You might tell him. My husband does the same thing but I just smile and give him this "oh well" look. Later, I ask him something along the lines that he would ask me followed by a "whats your excuse?" He usually can't help but smile because he understands where I'm coming from.

Answer 6

Use your "preggo moodswings" to a) cry a lot and guilt him b) beat him when he makes you mad, or c) become to "delicate" to do anything.

Ok well seriously you need to sit down and discuss this with him because you need to have a sound relationship to make it through the first 6 weeks with baby. And if you feel constantly betrayed by him delivery and parenthood is just going to make it worse.

Answer 7

I know my hubby does the same thing & after 9&1/2 yrs I just learned to laugh it off, he's not going to change

things could be worse so I learned that if that's the worst thing he does it's not so bad

sorry I can't be of more help & good luck

Answer 8

Sounds like hubby needs to take a chill pill. I am sure that he is just as stressed as you during this time. Maybe you could talk with a therapist.

Answer 9

aww I don't mean to be rude but your husband needs to be more sensitive to your needs this is an emotional time for you. and damn him he needs to take out the trash without you asking that is common sense. Hun I wish you luck try not to get to stressed and take care of you first right now. It is vital to your unborn baby. good luck!!!

Answer 10

Yes pregnant women for get things but not that bad. He's using it as an excuse. So use it to your advantage. When he asks you to do something don't do it you forget...forget to cook dinner...forget to do the dishes...what the hey forget to put out any efffort...maybe then he'll cut the sh!t and move on.