i have been dating for 2 years and now i am pregnant and we both know that we are to young to have kids and we really dont have the money for this. we have noone to turn to because we are to pore and not to mention i am having way to manny probs at home.so if anyone knows what i can do please help.
2006-11-03 13:49:08 · 20 answers · asked by last wish 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You could consider giving the baby up for adoption or you could talk to your parents or a close relative about it and see what they say
2006-11-03 13:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by cutet88 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your FIRST call should be to an adoption agency. Why? They can hook you up with the medical care you need and the future adoptive parents will pay the bills. Some private attorneys can also arrange open adoption where you would meet the future parents of your unborn child and again they would pay your expenses and maybe help you with living expenses until the child is born.
What ever you do, do NOT opt for abortion. You would then look at every child you ever see of that age and be hurt all over again thinking if I had not aborted this child they might be like the one over there. Abortion (while medically safe) is mental murder for the mother and literal murder of the child. If you love this boy you need to know that it would kill him as much as it would kill you and the child.
A good adoption agency is Evangelical Children and Family Services in Syracuse, NY. You should be able to call them collect. They also have a toll free that you should be able to get at your local library's 800 number directory or on the web.
2006-11-03 14:06:05 · answer #2 · answered by snddupree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being young and pregnant is hard. But you played the game. You can always get Medicaid. You can also get wic and food stamps. Medicaid will pay 100% of all your medical and medicine and hosp. Wic will provide the formula and other items. Food stamps will buy just that..Food. You and your child will be covered. But....If this is not what you want or you just can't be a mom right now, then think about adoption. A baby should be a gift..a miracle. I believe that abortion will be something that will haunt you for the rest of your life..The baby didn't ask to be born..but he/she deserves a chance. Adoption will also put some money in your pocket so that maybe you might want to further your education.and your baby can have a productive happy life
2006-11-03 14:02:34 · answer #3 · answered by tdl_cfisdedu 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if you aren't ready to have a baby you should have kept your legs shut. If you are to pore (poor) to support the baby why do you feel it is ok for you to look to everyone else to pawn your problems off on.
Here is an idea why don't you consider being a little mature and taking care of your own problems. What me and my (wife) did is get a college education, a good career, and did I mention we got married before she got pregnant.
I'm tried of hearing people like you that feel it is everyone else job to make up for your insufficiency. Why don't you grow up and quit looking excuses to keep from taking responsibility.
2006-11-03 19:53:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you are still in school so start with your school guidance counselor. Tell them what your home problems are and about the pregnancy. You need to see a doctor and the counselor or school nurse should be able to give you info on free clinics. Or, a priest or reverend if you are religious. I would urge you to think about adoption and explore those options.
Seeing a doctor is very important. Be sure of your health and the baby's. Best wishes.
2006-11-03 13:56:26 · answer #5 · answered by desdinova 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
there are many programs available to you , go to a school counselor or a neighborhood clinic. Please don't think you have to have an abortion. You could let the baby be adopted and there are safe haven laws, at least here in CA, where you can drop the baby off at any hospital, fire station or police station without any quesitons asked. i volunteer with pregnant teens and it is hard on them but many of them have their child and make it through HS. you may need to move on to a continuation school instead, but try and at least finish HS if you're still in HS...
2006-11-03 15:13:53 · answer #6 · answered by beckerton12 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if ur not ready u can always give the baby up for adoption cause there r a lot a people out there that want a baby. or if u dont want to go through eith the pregnancy at all u can have an abortion if ur not too far along.
2006-11-03 14:23:31 · answer #7 · answered by hazel_eyez 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I KNOW THIS IS HARD FOR YOU I GREW UP POOR TO AND I GOT PREGNANT AT A EARLY AGE THERE IS HELP OUT THERE .MY ADVICE TO YOU IS TO CONTACT YOUR LOCAL WELFARE AGENCYIF YOU DO NOT FILL LIKE YOU CAN TAKE CARE OF A BABY THEY CAN HELP YOU FIND SOMEONE THAT WANTS TO ADOPT A BABY.I KNEW THAT MAY SOUND HARSH BUT I DID IT AND MY DAUGHTER TURNED OUT TO BE A HAPPY WELL ROUNDED LITTLE GIRL.THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT THERE THAT WOULD LOVE TO HAVE A BABY BUT CAN'T SO THINK ABOUT IT AND GOOD LUCK TO YOU WITH WHAT EVER YOU DECIDE
2006-11-04 14:14:50 · answer #8 · answered by melissa w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a single mother myself. I did not have the help from the "father". The state and Federal agencys can give you funds if you want to keep the baby and if not their are lots of orginizations that can financialy help you supporting you through the doctors visits, birth and adoption process. Don't give up please. Babies are a gift from God. You will make it with help and if you look their is a whole lot out their. God bless.
2006-11-03 13:57:10 · answer #9 · answered by Wendy V 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look into your social services in your area. I was 17 when i got pregnant with my first. I am still with my then boyfriend and now husband with 3 boys. Hang in there life is tough and will get tougher but you can get through it together and for your child. Ask about income supplement or assistance.
2006-11-03 14:21:03 · answer #10 · answered by Susan and Grant O 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋