I posted this earlier, can I get some more opinions.?

Question

I have recently talked to some swingers, they seem to think that what sets them apart from monogamous couples is that their love is their love, that they can share their bodies but nothing can take away from their love. Their marriage is more solidified that a couple who is monogamous and just cannot handle sharing their parnter. I just would like to know what you all think. I have know problem with swinging, I just think it is a personal choice I don't think it is a trust issue, or a security issue.



I was recently presented with an invitation to this kind of situation. I declined. I just cannot help notice that this couple is so distant, they never show one another affection, when we go out the male of the couple can go off for an hour or so and she does not even seem to notice let alone care. My husband and I always want to be close, we are always showing affection toward one another. If their marriage is so great then this doesn't make any sens

Answer 1

I say whatever rocks their boat but their opinions about monogamous couples are just that...opinions. And in my opinion, they have no idea what a real marriage is all about which says, "to forsake all others".

Answer 2

I was persoanlly invited into this realm before also through a web-site for such. I am a good-looking man. I just wanted to meet a loyal, but passionate, woman, and did, at the time.(Her intro said: If monogamy is a dirty word, then I want to be a very, very bad girl! I liked it-plus she looked like the young Alyssa Milanno-which helped) But I can tell you that almost ALL of these "comfortable as swinger" marriages ended in divorce from what I saw. And I wonder about my own intelligence trying to find someone good there in the first place-as some other bull^&*# was going on along with the whole experience I was under anyways (long story)And I could NEVER screw someone elses wife, even though invited a few times, no matter HOW hot she was, or how "comfortable" they were with it. I am finished with relationships for a very long time anyways (another long story) It's a bizarre lifestyle with a bunch of bizarre things attached to it, in my opinion and experience.

Answer 3

i once was a swinger i wasnt estatic with it though but it was what my husband wanted and all i wanted is for both of us to be happy so here i am a year later divorced he is now with the lady he chose and she is now divorced and with my ex husband so make sure you and your husband are in love if you choose to do so but sometimes love isnt enough to keep even strong couples together because you might find that you or your husband like someone from the other couple you choose a little better just be careful and from expeirance if you play with fire you might get burned so make sure this is what you both want and that your relationship is strong and before you take the plunge make sure your willing to risk your marriage in case your outcome isnt what you expected. it doesnt always have an unhappy ending though but you never know.

Answer 4

Like you I believe that it is a personal choice. To me a couple who swings wants to be sexual with random people but also have the security of having that one constant person in their life. I myself could NEVER be a part of that. I am like you in the respect that we always show affection and want to be close to one another. Call me greedy but I do not want to share the special wonderful bond I have with my man with anyone else !!

Answer 5

I think its just thier personal choice. I dont agree with what they do though. I think its just a sex thing..nothing to do with love at all. Im with you on this,,i would never share my man with anyone else and i know he wouldnt share me with anyone. I think its just crazy. My man and i love being together and showing affection towards eachother. But i guess if they are not hurting anyone then to each is own. Nothing to do with love at all,,just sex and im glad you turned down the invitation. Love is suppose to be sacred between two people.

Answer 6

swinger are two people who live with each other but have no real commitment in their relationship regardless of what they publicly say or do. the fact that they are not open about they way they truly feel is displayed by their action and conduct with each other in public. research has shown that swinging couple do not have a long term relationship with each other, the relationship ends after a period of time. their rate of divorce is around seventy five percent.

Answer 7

Hmmmmm. I have a hard time believing that two people who claim to love each other and then share themselves with others. I couldn't handle my husband being with another woman while I watched. My husband and I are very affectionate with each other. Personally I think that is what they tell themselves and others to convince themselves it is okay. If that makes any sense...>LOL<

Answer 8

To each their own. Giving your body to others for fun is a personal choice. However, statistics show that those who are into the swinging lifestyle do not stay married. If your interested in it, just ask yourself, can I live with myself afterwords.

Personally, I love my gf and do not want to share her with another guy. ( another lady is a different story- lol hey I am a guy you know)

Answer 9

awww you see how this couple are & you still want to do it, that dosent make sense, when you get wed you give your body & soul & everything to your partner for life, NOT to anyone who you want, that could be very dangerous,
also, what would happen if you got with a couple & your man got it on with a girl BUT you didnt like the guy, you may feel under oblication to just get on with it, that could work both ways, dont even try it .

Answer 10

I can't see why a couple would want to share their bodies with anyone but their spouse unless they're unfulfilled in the marriage.