My old best friend keeps telling me were not meant to be.?

Question

My old best friend (were still friends) keeps telling me im not meant to be with this guy on her street. I really like him ive only met him once, but weve talked on phone (he asked my number) and weve talked on aim. But my friend keept telling him nasty stuff, and she keeps telling me nasty stuff about him... and she keeps telling us were not meant to be, we really like each other, I dont understand why she doesnt want us to be toghether, is still want to be friends with her, because shes a really good friend of mine, and also shes only girl taht lives close to him so i hvae to go to her house to see him, PLEASE help, what can i do to prevent her trying to make me and him hate each other?

Answer 1

she's jealous, let that ***** go. if she's going to do that to you she is not a good friend!! get rid of her!!

Answer 2

First of all she can't be such a good friend, if she is telling him nasty stuff about you, best friends don't do that. So I would say you really do need to reconsider this friendship.

Secondly, I would say she wants him for herself.

If anything did come of these feelings that you both appear to have you would really need to consider dumping the friend, as it will never work and you will have problems all along.

But it also sounds like you could be using her just to see him, which if she has worked this out, this could be whats bugging her, if she has previously been a very good friend, is this bloke worth a friendship, alot of the time they are not.

Answer 3

Either she wants him for herself, or she resents you being friends with anyone else, let alone find yourself a boyfriend! Take the bull by the horns, put it into the conversation that you may take yourself to see a film, and would he like to tag along, as you would like some company. You don't have to tell your friend this, as you can do what you want without keeping her informed.

I would drop this girl, your friendship has run it's course. She will never be happy for the good things that will happen to you. Go for it with this guy - you are quite capable of finding out for yourself whether it will work or not. Find nicer friends - you could take up new interests, and don't feel guilty over this girl's feelings. She doesn't care about yours.

Answer 4

I can not believe the things people around here have been advising you. Just think about a little joke between you and one of your friends. For example a weird or funny thing might have happened and your friend told a joke about it. So this joke will later be a key word between you and your friend. And whenever something that recalls you that incidence happened, your friend may asy these joke words to make you remember this event. But this is not may be worth telling another one. So when another one asked you about it you would not be so willing to tell the details. Maybe it is a long story, maybe it is not funny if transferred to another one. So the reason why your boyfriend didnt want to tell you about it may not be because he wanted to it to be a secret. Maybe he just finds it so stupid to tell about that joke. So you should not insist to learn it. Just drop it.

Answer 5

well you have one of two things to consider, is she jealous because maybe she fancied him? or is she having a problem maybe because if you get on with him and start to date that you will have all your time occupied with him and not her.

If you continue to see the guy, and she does say anything else bad politely but firmly tell her that you do not want to listen to any nasty things that she has to say about him, tell her that you and him need time to get to now each other, without negative input from her, and the bloke too, but also reassure her that you will still have time for her an your friendship.

Does she have a partner of her own? maybe this could be another problem, that she may think she is loosing a replacement for someone who she can turn too, maybe encourage her to find someone of her own, maybe you r male friend may know someone, and you could go on occasional double dates together.

Answer 6

Maybe shes irritated with the fact that you only go to her house to see him,did you ever consider that?,[ is still want to be friends with her, because shes a really good friend of mine, and also shes only girl taht lives close to him so i hvae to go to her house to see him, ]

Answer 7

Listen to her. She probably understands more of what is going on with him that you ever will. Just listen to her. Ask her what she really knows. Don't shut the communication down. Friends tell it like it is

Answer 8

If you feel you don't trust her, stop talking about him with her, less she knows the better.
If she brings it up, just say I don't feel like talking about him any more. Can we talk about something else,
If she brings it up again. say lets change the subject eh! and
If she brings it up again, Say I sorry but I don't like slagging him off,
If she brings it up again. Be strong and don't even answer smile and change the subject yourself.
Keep it up every time you go round there.
Anyway you must have better things to talk about than him?

Answer 9

sounds like this "friend" wants this guy shes acting out of jealousy if she was really your friend she would be happy for you two. or maybe she knows something about him you don't maybe she protecting you if that's the case she should just ell her . confront her with the ? it shouldn't be to hard for her to answer if she is your real friend.

Answer 10

sounds as if she is jelous, or has designes on him herself. she is playing you both telling both of u things. she is trying to stop the relationship any way she can,so she really isn't that good of a friend, and maybe you should distance yourself from her for now.

Answer 11

shes jealous of you! She probably either fancies him herself or she is worried that if you get a boyfriend then she will have no one to hang out with, talk to her about it, see if she will open up to you but if she wont then you will have to decide who you want to be with more, hope this helps.