My hasband was viewing porn online while I was at breakfast with my friends. My kids were home and my computer is in the middle of the 'playroom'. When I got home our computer had a nasty virus and porn sites kept popping up. My best friend witnessed all of this. I have always been a nympho and enjoy sex. I don't think he have ever been turned down. I am so hurt and confused by his actions.
2006-11-03 12:32:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry to say this but that's just the way men are. I wouldn't get too upset about it but I know how you feel. It's like you're not good enough. The whole point is, if YOU looked at MEN, they would have a fit!! Go figure!!
2006-11-03 12:37:23 · answer #1 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off so many good clean men watch porn. It’s not the best thing in the world for men to do with their sexual energy and you think having a nymph as a wife would be enough. Second I tell him to be responsible for the computer and make sure he knows how you felt about the computer showing porn o friends.
Third He needs to get a good pop up blocker such as spybot.com.
Fourth he should not pay for porn that is really addictive and expensive habit.
Fifth I tell him you don’t like it and wish he stop you have the right to ask and he has the right to ignore you. Your both adults and need to master your own dark shadows but as a wife you can share your hurt and disappointment.
Sixth I want to know if he is having a relationship with some one online.
Seventh I want him to know that it affects your relationship if he is developing other relationships and he needs to be open with what he needs in your relationship.
Start a calm process of examining your relationship, are you able to ask for what you need in the relationship. Your not always going to get all your needs meet but most should be meet between you. Definitely no sexual needs should be met by another person outside the relationships.
Deepen your relationship by talking more.. Never talk during sex men hate that LOL or after sex.
Go for a walk and talk peacefully about your dreams and your passion and develop dreams together. Start a list of fantasy and fantasy mini vacations even local ones are fun. Talk about your fantasy with each. Hey you could be a different woman every week but listen careful and discover what each of you need. discover how unique and creative both of you are to satisfy one another. It’s both of you who need to be involved. Goood luck
2006-11-03 12:57:49 · answer #2 · answered by Panda Lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not truly seem to be asking a question so, I will instead answer the one that seems to be implied:
WHY DOES HE LOOK AT PORN WHEN HE HAS ME!
GUys do not look at Porn just because they aren't getting enough action at home. There are several reasons for this: One thing to seriously consider is that it could be an addiction. Discuss this with him in a NON-ACCUSATORY MANNER and see what mtoivates him to do this.. Does he prefer Porn to having sex with you? what kind of sites is he visiting........
2006-11-03 13:04:25 · answer #3 · answered by R O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is something I was having trouble a while back except he wasnt doing with the kids around and there wasnt a virus I just happened to catch himand found out how to look up the history. But all the men that have answered my question about this same thing tell me they are only human there not blind and as long as they look but dont touch then there is nothing to worry about but I dont agree. Because to me if he is still looking then he shouldnt of gotten married to me there is and always be women more attractive women than me but if he is looking to just see what he is missing then I say go find her because I am not that I am everything a wife should be and so are you. Its one thing to look but it is just wrong to be looking at that kind of material with kids around. I hope that things get better.
2006-11-03 12:42:00 · answer #4 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that because you were busy entertaining friends, your husband politely decided to satisfy his primal urges through other means.
I think that you computer should be moved out of the playroom and into the bedroom where you two can enjoy new things, such as shemale porn and japanese manga porn, together as a loving and kinky couple.
2006-11-03 12:36:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't ask me why, but the viewing of online porn, reading of similar magazines, etc. to them has nothing to do with whether they are satisfied with you. You could be every man's dream and they would still need to view it. I'm sure there are some who don't, but I am not sure it's something to be hurt and confused about. I mean, if he completely detached from you that would be one thing.
2006-11-03 13:33:20 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all porn is nasty. from the littlest photo to the worst of sex slave trading. One contributes to the other. Men will always defend it and some woman watch it with them. I just don't get that.
2006-11-03 13:12:46 · answer #7 · answered by babydoll2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men enjoy porn..
It does not mean they are not getting enough at home
or that the home fare is not good enough...
Ask that he allow you to watch it with him whenever
he watches it...
2006-11-03 12:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can install NetDog Porn Filter , it will block porn web sites quitely in the background when your husband's on the internet
2006-11-04 02:10:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
looking at porn is ok - look at it together, learn from it, try new things. However, looking at it when the kids are right there, where they could see it is just plain wrong and sick!
He can look at it on HIS time, not his parenting time!!!!!!
2006-11-03 16:32:24 · answer #10 · answered by helpfulgirl75 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋