how do i find a girl to flirt with my boyfriend to see if he would cheat?

Question

my boyfriend is always flirting with other girls and says he could have any girl he wanted i would like someone to flirt with him and try to get it on with him just to see if he would cheat on me everyone says he would but i am not sure if he would or not i know its a horrible thing to do to him but i need to know because once he went to see his ex he told me he did not know she was there but i was told he did and then he had a phone call at 2 am in the morning asking him to go and meet his ex but i was there so he said no but if i was not there and did not hear the conversation would he have gone and also i had his ex girlfriends sister on the phone asking to talk to him i asked her what she wanted she said he had been calling her to talk to her sister he said she just wanted to make trouble and he had not phoned i have since found out he had also been out with her sister before aswell so that is why i want a girl to do that but i dont know where i would find a girl willing to do that

Answer 1

Hon, I have read a few of your questions and I hope you read this without taking offence.

From what I can tell your relationship is in a bad state.

Your boy friend thinks you have cheated.
You think he has cheated and what to test him to find out.
Your family don't like him.
He hasn't even had the decency to tell his family about you.

That's just for starters. You have a child and are planning to get married. I think your baby may well be the best thing to come out of this relationship and you should quit while you still can.

Do you really want to marry someone you don't trust, who doesn't trust you? Who makes you feel insecure by saying he can get other women? Who respects you so little that he flirts in front of you? Who is too ashamed to mention you to his family when you are the mother of his child?

Maybe your family are right? You probably don't want to hear that and are maybe even sticking with him partly to prove your family wrong.

So what if you do test this guy and he fails what are you going to do then? So far you haven't managed to leave him and you would probably just forgive him again. He has talked himself out of everything in the past with excuses you choose to believe and you will probably believe him again.

Before you ask anymore questions about your relationship on here I think you should sit down and ask yourself 'What am I doing here?'

You have a beautiful baby but I doubt very much this is leading to a beautiful marriage. Get out while you still can. Find someone decent.

Good luck and take care!

Answer 2

Be careful what you wish for, you may get it. You set him up and no matter how he reacts to it you are probably going to find a reason to question his behaviour or the outcome, if he reacts like a faithful boyfriend you may wonder if the stooge was pretty enough or offered him what he might go for, if he does 'fall' and take up the offer it is you who has put the 'forbidden fruit' into his hands, you didn't make him eat it but would it have ever happened if you hadn't arranged it. I
t is not something I would want done to me nor would I ever consider doing it to someone I loved.
If you are sure you could live with the outcome come what may then get out now and save your cash and self respect

Answer 3

If l was you l wouldn't even bother. He sounds like too much hard work to me. How could you ever trust him ? He must be very immature or something !!!! Not really sure. Why don't you just find yourself a nice guy and be happy instead of wasting your time trying to check up on this looser. Maybe the ex was trying to cause trouble and maybe she wasn't . I mean really who cares. I'm sure you can do a lot better for yourself. Dump him. Good Luck with your new boyfriend.

Answer 4

You obviously feel that you cant trust him or you wouldnt want to set him up this way. If there is no trust in a relationship what foundations have you got to build on? If you feel you must use deceitful and underhand tactics to find out where you stand with this guy then is he worth it? Flirting is part of the nature of the species. Why dont you try a bit of flirting yourself and see how he reacts to it. If it makes him incomfortable then he will know how you feel x

Answer 5

There are agencies that will send out a girl (honey-trap) to see if a man would cheat but he doesnt sound very nice anyway so why bother. It would be an expensive exercise and what would you gain? If he says he could have any girl he wants he sounds like an arrogant guy anyway and not worth being with long term. I advise you to dump him.

Answer 6

you got trust issues, don't ask would he? ask why does his ex have his number and phoning him at night. she is disrespecting you on purpose. if you have doubts then leave the relationship. i should point out i am a naturally respectful and very charming man, my g/f knows i'm not flirting i am friendly and easy on the eyes to the ladies. if i can put a smile on a girls face as she scans tins of beans through a machine in tescos on a saturday afternoon i know i have done no wrong, taking her back to my lair and mating with her are the last things on my mind. so is he a flirt, a dog or a gent? or maybe he is so goodlooking in your eyes you doubt yourself as to why he would want to be with you. hmmm?

Answer 7

I don't think this would count as cheating because he hasn't slept or been dating other girls. However, I think you should make a fake account, take to him just like you would and see if he knows it's you. If he doesn't say its you and catch him out.

Answer 8

I dont think that it would be a good idea to set him up because if he did decide to go out with her then what? You are going to be hurt and think about leaving him knowing you dont want to because you love him. Then in the long run you are going to get back with him.
You arent really setting him up..You are setting yourself up for heartbreak and you dont really want that. Dont ask questions you dont really wanna know the answers to. I learned that a long time ago.Think about what your doing before you do it. Best wishes.

Answer 9

Hmm, you do have a problem.. (U sure you really want this guy?) Man, gf.;. you are spending a lot of time (a lotta 'ink' up above) thinkin' on how this dude is gonna run around on ya, am I right? man, it would be kooler to have somebody that might be a little more boring, butyou could at least 'sleep nights' not worrying WHO is callin' his butt on the phone.. 2 a.m. U say? holy cow. Man, girlfriend, you just better get outta this one.. no girl is gonna do this for ya, I am thinkin' (to answer your question..) It's easier to dump him, ya know.. (You kind of know this already I am thinking... you just have trouble doing it right out.. you want somebody to help ya out, am I right?) be strong.

Answer 10

Mate. If you have so many doubts, he may not be the one for you! If you are strong enough in yourself you will be able to cope with it. So what if he does cheat? You're better that that! If you find out, then dump him. Create some value in your own life and sod what he does!! x