I have known a man for 10 years. 5 years ago, I let my irish temper get the best of me and I called it off between us. I rushed into a marriage I later found out was abusive, and he was there for me. Everything is planned out now, but I have some questions. What does it really mean when a man says "No matter who you marry, you'll always belong to me?" What does it mean, upon seeing your children and spoiling them rotten, when he says, in a good sort of sad way and not a bad one "They should have been from me. But you dumped me". What does it mean when you are talking, and the man says he wants more children in the future? Especially when you have to work hard most of the time to get his feelings out in the first place? What does it mean when he says he never thinks anything badly of you and that just a look from you "drives him nuts" and he can't resist kissing you? Is this just talk, or is it real since he didn't try anything in the beginning?
2006-11-03 12:13:48 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
God, you must be really annoying in real life. Men aren't complicated, don't go look for hidden meanings in everything. I think he has said what he has said and it means what he said. Duh!
2006-11-03 12:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, the "later I found out that the relationship was abusive" comment sort of threw me. Where was your head the first ten years? This sounds allot like Roseanne, where all of a sudden you remember horrible things that happened to you. His comments seen to have two meanings. To me that is. One, he's hurt you left, apperantly there must not have been much discussion. and he's still hurting. Two, He wants you back, but maybe on his terms. You have a fork in the road ahead of you. If you miss this guy, start talking. Don't start a relationship until you know he understands why you left and he has a solid plan to reconcile. If you don't miss the guy, you need to tell him he doesn't have a snowballs chance in %$#& to get back with you. This way he can get on with his life, because it's obvious that he is still in limbo.
2006-11-03 20:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask him directly what he is feeling and why. This is not the Irish way, at least it seems to me. My wife is from Dublin. I love her and her family, but it seems that the phrase, "Half in jest: whole in Earnest" is very apt for the Irish folks I have met. Point is you seem to need to read between the lines with this guy. Words will not get you there, but till you are convinced to trust him, I suggest you fight the urge to mull it over alone and take you questions right to the source.
2006-11-03 20:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by shapsjo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No matter who you marrry . . .
that one is a little creepy . . but it basically means he thinks he owns you or he considers himself to always be closer to you .. or he wants you to think that he is always your number 1 love
they should have been from me . . .
i wish you would have married me, and that those were our kids . ..
wants more children in the future . . .
probably wants to get your pregnant
drives him nuts . .
he's physically attracted to you - very much so . .
the first issue is how you feel about him . . .if you feel romantic and want to explore it . . let him know . . .if not, keep him as a friend .. .
2006-11-03 20:18:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im trying to figure the same thing out right now,
I have a woman in my life that always says
No matter what happens I will always be your girl because I love you.
But we arent even together.
Maybe its because we just have a special connection that nobody can understand or break.
Wow I just answered my own question. Lol
Well good luck.
2006-11-03 20:18:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Since you went through such a hecktic life, it would not hurt much to take the chances. Some people are feel that they are connect to their partner. That is a normal thing. So my suggestion is that take the chance but be carefull of course.
2006-11-03 20:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by shkabaj 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i'm a woman, but it sounds like he could get a little obsessed. Tread carefully. Someone throwing that much resentment in your face could be hard to live with ( is he going to rub other things in your face?)
2006-11-03 20:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by magan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He has a fantasy that he is your soul mate but part of the fantasy is that you are too dumb to see it yourself, and he's just waiting there calmly and patiently while you figure it out. That is his fantasy and how he sees himself and sees you. He's over dramatizing his infatuation with you. This guy sounds pretty egocentric and doesn't take you seriously, but he would be a steady partner.
2006-11-03 20:16:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Gurl It means he wont some of yo goodness gurl how old are you , Im only 14 and I know what that mean crazy gurl.
2006-11-03 20:19:45 · answer #9 · answered by zambreisha t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That no matter what you did in your past he loves you... give thanks to this man cause there are very few out there who won't bring up your past and all they care about is the present and future
2006-11-03 20:18:29 · answer #10 · answered by princessinlove 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it doesn't matter you are going to do what you want anyway and it sounds like you get a kick out of hurting this guy..lots of women are like that
2006-11-03 20:17:08 · answer #11 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋