I have known a man for 10 years. 5 years ago, I let my irish temper get the best of me and I called it off between us. I rushed into a marriage I later found out was abusive, and he was there for me. Everything is planned out now, but I have some questions. What does it really mean when a man says "No matter who you marry, you'll always belong to me?" What does it mean, upon seeing your children and spoiling them rotten, when he says, in a good sort of sad way and not a bad one "They should have been from me. But you dumped me". What does it mean when you are talking, and the man says he wants more children in the future? Especially when you have to work hard most of the time to get his feelings out in the first place? What does it mean when he says he never thinks anything badly of you and that just a look from you "drives him nuts" and he can't resist kissing you? Is this just talk, or is it real since he didn't try anything in the beginning?
2006-11-03 12:13:31 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Are you expecting only men to answer this question? Sounds like to me you are going from an abusive marriage to a controlling relationship! The comment "They should have been from me. But you dumped me" is the telling one for me...Dangle a carrot, but snatch it away, dangle a carrot, snatch it away. Most men won't share their feelings easily in any case. The other comments just mean he is lusting after you...probably because you have something he wants and thinks he can get by spoiling your kids.
My advice, shy away from this one...keep looking...stay out of abusive/controlling relationships.
2006-11-03 12:20:56 · answer #1 · answered by Texanborn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have to realize that guys and gals are wired differently. Women express things their way and guys quite another. Women have no problem being up-front about the way they feel, while guys tend to either bury it or choose another avenue.
If what you are saying is true, then he is actually still interested in you (I am making the assumption that you and your abusive husband are past history). For example, even when you let your own self-admitted "Irish Temper" get the best of you and you married another, he was still your friend and was even there for you in the aftermath of your bad marriage. Sayings like "you'll always belong to me," and "they should have been from me" are BIG ones to indicate that he has feelings for you, not to mention the obvious ones like him wanting to kiss you all the time.
Point is, don't assume that because a guy isn't as assertive as you might be, that he isn't willing to work things out and try again with you. Some guys are patient, wanting to be sure of things before making a move -- rejection seems to hit guys a lot harder than women, so he might be playing it smart here.
I wish you luck.
2006-11-03 12:38:31 · answer #2 · answered by calledkevinalot 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He never stopped loving you and wants you back silly women .
2006-11-03 12:21:01 · answer #3 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if ur so blind that u cant see it then u dont deserve him any way
2006-11-03 14:28:20 · answer #4 · answered by artcherman 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋